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Time flies, and now Professor Huang Han, who has gone through half a lifetime, has grown into a popular emotional analyst on the stage of "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb". Her quiet and restrained elegance and elegant temperament revealed between her words naturally reveal her rich and profound wisdom.
Whenever Professor Huang Han eloquently expressed his unique views on love and marriage, he always let the audience feel like a spring breeze and find the golden key to solve the confusion in their hearts. It's no wonder that she was able to earn the loving honorific title of "Huang Mama".
Professor Huang Han was born in the beautiful Xinjiang and grew up in the beautiful Jiangsu, which combines the tenderness of a Jiangnan woman with the bold atmosphere of the great northwest, which makes her exude a different kind of charm.
After being admitted to Nankai University, she did not hesitate to choose the "Department of Sociology" major offered by only four universities in the country at that time. Although as a young girl, Professor Huang Han's understanding of this profession is still immature, but her deep thoughts on love and marriage are profound and unique.
According to rumors, when her classmates in the dormitory were studying hard in college, Professor Huang Han had listed in detail many requirements and conditions for her future boyfriend on paper, including height, weight, appearance, etc., which shows that her desire to find a soul mate has long been deeply rooted in her heart.
Perhaps it is precisely because of this unique outlook on life and pursuit that Professor Huang Han finally made a decision that seemed quite bold at the time - she decided to take the initiative to pursue her own love.
In Chinese society in the 80s of the last century, it was undoubtedly an unprecedented thing for a woman to take the initiative to approach and express her affection to the man she liked. In the process of Professor Huang Han's first attempt to "chase backwards", although she took the initiative to greet the other party with a kind and friendly smile, she was evaluated by the other party as "not gentle enough" because she was too proactive.
Having learned the lessons of the first "reverse chase", Professor Huang Han adopted a softer and more delicate strategy in the second operation. She was not in a hurry to reveal her heart, but chose to silently accompany the boy she liked, taste the things he loved together, and strive to cultivate the tacit understanding and emotional foundation between the two.
However, just as Professor Huang Han mustered up the courage to confess again, he was still politely rejected by the other party because he was "not beautiful enough".
After two deep pursuit setbacks, one because he was commented on as "not gentle enough", and the other because he was rejected because of his "ordinary appearance", this experience undoubtedly brought a great blow to the young and confident Huang Han. She began to have deep doubts and wavering about her appearance and character, and her original firm self-confidence gradually dissipated.
Just when Huang Han was confused and helpless on the road to find true love, a liberal arts student who played the guitar on campus, Yuan Jian, broke into her sight. That slightly shy smiling face instantly touched the softest corner of Huang Han's heart. In the face of this true son of life, Huang Han let go of all his expectations and reserve about his ideal partner, and bravely took the first step with the power of the three words "I like".
As a result, Huang Han launched a gentle offensive of "curve to save the country". Whenever she passed by the place where Yuan Jian often appeared, she would "happen" to meet him. As the number of meetings increases, they get closer to each other and get to know each other better. Although Yuan Jian's height and body shape are far from the image of "science and engineering man" in Huang Han's heart, under the inspiration of sincere love, she has a deep attachment to this introverted and shy Yuan Jian.
Huang Han understands that if Yuan Jian, who is so introverted, takes the initiative to confess to himself, he may only have to wait until the moment when he is about to separate after graduation. Therefore, she decided to take a more tactful, feminine approach and write a loving letter to convey her thoughts. As expected, after Yuan Jian read the letter, he immediately understood the deep meaning, and his heart was full of excitement and joy.
When they met again, the atmosphere became subtle and slightly tense. As the first love of his life, Huang Han decided to regard this relationship as the only one destined to be and devoted himself wholeheartedly to it. During an outdoor event, she plucked up the courage to make a marriage promise to Yuan Jian: "After you and I graduate, are you willing to tie the knot with me?" In the face of Huang Han's affectionate confession, although the introverted Yuan Jian only nodded slightly, the joy in his heart was indescribable.
In 1991, Ms. Huang Han successfully completed her master's degree, which was the day when Mr. Yuan Jian bravely confided in her and proposed to her. Time passed, and in 1997, the crystallization of their love, their daughter Yuan Shimeng, came to the world, and this beautiful moment was fixed in the hearts of relatives. Ms. Huang Han once lamented affectionately: "Love is not easy to harvest, even if we have made an exhaustive list, we cannot predict the future variables."
For her, Mr. Yuan Jian was the unexpected surprise that made her life more exciting.
In 2008, after completing her Ph.D. in Law and Psychology, Ms. Huang was successfully hired by the Jiangsu Provincial Party School as a professor and graduate tutor. Her career has been a glorious epic, full of challenges and opportunities at every step. However, at this critical juncture, Ms. Huang Han made a remarkable decision - she will serve as an emotional mentor on a popular dating show called "Do Not Disturb".
For Ms. Huang Han, who has lived in an academic ivory tower for a long time, it is undoubtedly a huge challenge to adapt to an entertainment-led variety show. Facts have proved that since the launch of "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb" in 2010, although the host Le Jia's radical remarks and Meng Fei's witty humor have won the love of many audiences, Ms. Huang Han's performance has never been evaluated ideally.
Many viewers felt that Ms. Huang's views were too mild and her words were not sharp and direct enough, which was somewhat out of place with the overall atmosphere of the show. Her elegant demeanor seems to be more suitable for imparting knowledge in the academy than showing herself on the stage of entertainment variety shows.
However, with the continuous broadcast of the show, when more and more female guests with "three wrong views" appeared, the audience gradually realized the unique value of Ms. Huang Han. This mentor, who combines the wisdom of scholars and women, has played an important role in "setting things right" and guiding guests to establish a correct concept of marriage and love by virtue of his rich emotional experience and profound wisdom of life.
"Finding a male partner with the potential to develop is often more practical than clinging to a wealthy person." "A really good man will have a deep understanding of your inner world, not just your appearance." "For men, we can love them, but we must not be overly committed, we must leave a way out for ourselves." At first, Ms. Huang Han's sincere teachings may seem prosaic, but after savoring them, you can feel the profound philosophy and life wisdom contained in them.
The most touching moment occurred during the recording of the show in 2014, when the elegant and calm teacher Huang Han was deeply moved by a special and precious gift - her baby daughter personally prepared a soulful song for her. After receiving this rare surprise, Teacher Huang Han instantly burst into tears and smiled, and the entanglement of living in the heart for a long time was completely released at this moment.
It turned out that due to the busy work, Teacher Huang Han's time with her daughter gradually decreased. Once, even the daily chores of a daughter wanting to go shopping with her mother for clothes became so difficult. The relationship between mother and daughter once fell into a freezing point, and Mr. Huang Han showed his most gentle and kind side in front of the audience, but left the negative emotions to his closest family members. For this situation, she was filled with deep guilt in her heart, until she received this hard-won gift from her daughter, and she had mixed feelings and cried with joy.
After that touching episode in 2014, Mr. Huang Han made a big decision. In 2016, she did not hesitate to leave the once glorious variety show stage of "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb", hoping to devote more time and energy to family life and better accompany her husband and children.
As a Doctor of Psychology, Ms. Huang has a deep understanding of the inner anxieties and needs of children in their teenage years. At that time, her daughter Yuan Shimeng was at a critical stage of her high school career, whether it was facing academic pressure or going through the rebellious period of youth, the child needed more love and guidance from close people.
Teacher Huang Han once admitted that in the past, she was too focused on career development, neglected her responsibilities as a mother, and repeatedly suppressed her children's desire for mothers, which made her deeply ashamed. Today, she is determined to put her family first in her life and cherish the affection and happiness in front of her.
As a result, Mr. Huang Han once again returned to the warm embrace of his family and cared for his most important emotional sustenance wholeheartedly. Time flies, four years have passed in a blink of an eye, and the already well-known "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb" program has continued to decline in ratings and word-of-mouth due to many factors.
At this moment, Huang Han's friend Meng Fei was deeply worried, and he realized that without the wisdom and guidance of Huang Han, an emotional mentor, the long-term development of the program would face great challenges.
Therefore, in the special year of 2020, we are excited to welcome Ms. Huang Han to return to this stage where endless memories are instantly generated at the sincere invitation of Mr. Meng Fei. This undoubtedly sparked a flood of cheers and applause from the audience, with the respected elders affectionately referring to "Mama Huang" and the younger generation reverently calling her "Grandma Huang".
However, Ms. Huang Han has always maintained that unique intellectual charm and calm generosity, and her words of wisdom are like a beacon that illuminates the depths of the heart of everyone who seeks true love.