Looking at the world, the feelings between husband and wife are diverse, some are loyal for love, white heads and old age; some have the same pillow and different dreams, being a pair of most familiar strangers, and some are easy to go to extremes, summed up as "love and kill each other", launching a fierce attack, rather than for the jade to be broken than for the whole.
Once upon a time, the little two were very affectionate, and if they were not careful, they would kill each other completely. The most painful thing in the world is this, and the feelings between husband and wife may be the most "glass" feelings in the world.
The author will introduce you to the "love and killing" of a Kochi couple...
Bitter Yang Nan suffered from liver cancer, and he was tired of foaming at the sea
Yang Nan, a henan woman, has been poor since she was a child, but it is good that she studied her own, and her parents worked tirelessly. Yang Nan was very competitive, and he killed from thousands of troops and horses with excellent results and was admitted to Luoyang Normal College.
Henan is a big province for the college entrance examination, and candidates from this province are admitted to Luoyang Normal College, which is already a good result for ordinary people's families to burn high incense.
After four years of undergraduate education, Yang Nan further studied and was admitted to Sichuan University as a graduate student. After graduating from Sichuan University, Yang Nan wanted to make academic achievements, so he was admitted to Shanghai Jiaotong University and became a doctoral student.
After decades of hard study, Yang Nan has achieved success in learning, and has also gained something emotionally, and has met Zhang Hai, a brother who is also a fellow villager in Henan.
Both were high-ranking intellectuals, and at first they only discussed academic issues... Over time, the two changed from mutual appreciation to mutual admiration, until they entered the married life of chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea.
After the two married, after Dr. Zhang Hai graduated, he went to Japan for further study, while Yang Nan continued to study for a doctorate.
In 2015, Yang Nan was about to graduate with a doctorate, but inadvertently found herself nausea and vomiting.
During the recuperation period, the Zhang family thought that their daughter-in-law was pregnant. Unexpectedly, nausea and vomiting were just the beginning of the nightmare. After detailed examination, Yang Nan was diagnosed with middle and advanced liver cancer, and Zhang Hai, who was studying in Japan, quickly returned to China to take care of his sick wife.
Liver cancer is a very troublesome disease, people are also very painful, when Zhang Hai saw Yang Nan, he was almost unrecognizable. On the eve of the marriage change, Zhang Hai and Yang Nan's anti-cancer road has gone through a difficult five years.
In the past five years, the husband has also run before and after, tirelessly taking care of his wife.
The wife feels very happy, but also feels very lucky, she met a good man, this is the real love of each other!
Zhang and Yang are not families with a rich family, and the long anti-cancer road quickly overdraws the wealth of the two families. Fortunately, the current medical conditions are developed, and although liver cancer is troublesome, it can still continue to live after systematic treatment.
The doctor suggested that Yang Nan's most ideal treatment plan is to change the liver, and the whole process needs 800,000. In other words, as long as 800,000, the wife can continue to live after changing her liver.
At first, the husband did not think so much: "Life and death are indifferent, and if you don't obey, you will do it", just make money. The Zhang family did not despise the life of their daughter-in-law, and constantly persuaded their son to earn money to see her daughter-in-law.
With the aggravation of his wife's illness, Zhang Hai seemed to hear the complaints behind the old two:
How nice it would be to have a child!
The sick body protested Against Yang Nance and drew Zhang Haiji's salary from the bottom of the cauldron
The husband's heart is gradually hairy, the parents are getting older, and they should enjoy the pleasure of teasing the grandchildren. The most crucial thing is that the husband is already forty years old and fifty years old, and there is no son and a half daughter under his knees...
Zhang and Yang's original sea oath mountain alliance was first loosened from Zhang Hai. The wife was unaware of this. However, the wife found that the two quarreled more frequently, so that when the husband quarreled until he lost his mind, he would still do something to his wife.
In the Spring Festival of 2020, the Zhang family took the initiative to request that the daughter-in-law, who was troubled and troubled, be taken to her hometown, and the original intention was also simple and kind:
The family has a reunion year.
On the first day of the Chinese New Year, Mother Zhang saw that her daughter-in-law did not get up at ten o'clock, and she felt that it was really insulting to sleep until twelve o'clock:
One is unlucky; the other is a joke.
There is a saying: "The speaker has no heart, the listener has intentions", Yang Nan's heart is very unpleasant, if this is in front of his father and mother, let alone sleep until more than ten o'clock, it is nothing to sleep for a lifetime.
Yang Nan was indignant in his heart, deeply felt that the Zhang family had neglected him, and chose to immediately protest to the Zhang family, using the most civilized and most unpopular way: deciding to return to his mother's house on the first day of the New Year!
The customs of the mainland are different in various places, but it is a consensus to return to the mother's house on the second day of the New Year. The Zhang family was terrified and kept showing weakness, but Yang Nan insisted on going home.
Zhang Hai felt that the stalemate between the two sides was not a matter, so he drove Yang Nan back to his mother's house. To be fair, when the Yang family saw that the son-in-law of the dragon had sent the seriously ill person back to her mother's house like this, or the first day of the Chinese New Year, what did people think?
While the wife's sick body tolerates the pain of the boat and car, she also has to quarrel with her husband, and Zhang Hai is also unreasonable, trying to argue the question of who is right and who is wrong in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Anyway, no one won anyone, and the wife returned to her mother's house in a negative mood. That night, the husband stayed up all night, thinking about it and making a decision that may be lingering for thousands of years, but it is also reasonable: abandon his wife, divorce and remarry!
At this point, the former loving couple has ushered in an "all-out war" from a small fight.
In the early days of the "war", Zhang Hai was slightly superior, and with the advantage of physical health, he calmly played and disappeared. Women's intuition is often delicate and precise, and Yang Nan smells a different feeling.
To this end, the wife decided to "fight back in self-defense" and show her husband her heart and attitude through various contact methods. However, the husband's side is sitting firmly on the diaoyutai and does not reply.
A few days later, Zhang Hai launched the first "strategic armageddon" since yang nan launched the "total war": I think the divorce is because I am older and want children.
As the saying goes: "a long illness becomes a good doctor", Yang Nan, as a liver cancer patient, knows that even after changing the liver and continuing to live, it is almost a luxury to want children.
The author has previously engaged in liver disease self-media, and has a relative understanding of liver cancer. Liver cancer patients have low autoimmunity, there is a great risk of wanting children, and it is easy to induce activation of hepatitis B virus during pregnancy, causing liver failure or gastrointestinal bleeding.
In other words, once Yang Nan chooses to have a child, Half Life is basically going to be put in, and Yang Nan knows this well.
The wife has not yet recovered, and the husband's second wave of "dimensionality reduction strikes" hit and stopped treating his wife. As a result, the husband firmly grasped the "initiative of the war".
The ugly family asked for foreign assistance, and it was difficult to judge the court
At this point, it is impossible for the wife to change her liver and continue her life, and it is even more difficult to restore the marriage and rebuild it. In desperation, the wife decided to make her suffering public. There is a saying that "the ugliness of the family should not be promoted", but Yang Nan had to go out to ask for help.
His wife Yang Nan could not find her husband Zhang Hai, but people in the media quickly contacted Zhang Hai.
One day in 2020, after the media people bridged the bridge, after Zhang and Yang "all-out war", the two said things to each other for the first time.
After the two met, they did not ask for warmth, nor did they send money and gifts, nor did they use their hands and feet together, but Zhang Hai, who has always occupied the initiative, did something that made people wonder.
But seeing Zhang Hai kneeling in front of Yang Nan with a fierce son, this is not kneeling to ask for forgiveness, but giving Yang Nan a problem, a thousand words converged into one sentence: Let me go, let me go!
How could the wife let go easily, and tearfully begged Zhang Hai: Don't leave me!
For a time, the scene was out of control, and media personnel interrupted the "meeting" in time.
Not long after, Zhang and Yang met again. This time, the husband did not play the "bitter meat plan", and the wife did not bitterly retain, but the two were polite and relaxed.
The husband's "strategy" of drawing salaries from the bottom of the pot made Yang Nan decide to give up this marriage, which was a fulfillment of Zhang Hai's wish.
Before the husband could rejoice, the wife made a request:
Divorce is okay, provided she is given 600,000 to treat her illness. After listening to it, the husband naturally did not do it, and was only willing to give his wife 300,000 yuan at a discount.
The husband's reason is also very realistic, he has spent more than 200,000 yuan to treat his wife, and he can't come up with so much money at once. At this time, the wife has torn her face and said an "insider" that makes everyone stunned:
The husband only paid more than 40,000 yuan before and after.
At this point, the "advantage" in front of Zhang Hai disappeared. One is in a hurry to get money to continue his life, and one is not willing to give... There is nothing that can be done about it in the media.
The Yang family was furious and confronted the Zhang family in court. Fortunately, the "neutral people" wandered between Zhang and Yang, and before going to court, they formed a compromise plan:
The two were still husband and wife before the trial, hoping that Zhang Haiming could take care of the husband and wife, and give Yang Nan 2,000 yuan in medical expenses every month...
At this point, the "war" between Zhang and Yang ended hastily with both defeats and injuries.
Raising the case into a phantom, the warning world Hengyan senior said
Looking at the various things before and after zhang and Yang's "marriage change", all of them are lamentable, which also leaves valuable enlightenment for us in the general public, "Zhang Yang" marriage change once broadcast by the media, caused a lot of repercussions in the society, for the reasons, many people think that if they have a child, the situation may be better.
Some netizens said that children are the lubricant of marriage.
It is natural for human beings to get married and reproduce, and it is understandable not to have children busy with their careers, but missing the best age to have children undoubtedly sows the seeds of marriage rupture.
It is true that there are many cases in which couples do not want children to choose "Dink marriage" or postpone the "creation plan", but how many couples can really be happy?
It cannot be said that there are none, but only that there are very few. Zhang and Yang, in terms of childbearing age, ignored the advice of their parents and repeatedly chose to postpone their plans to have children. Although there was nothing at that time, once the marriage crisis was encountered, the two tore their faces, and the two sides had no worries.
If Zhang and Yang can take into account the problem of children while busy with their careers, the marriage will not collapse quickly. In fact, the two senior intellectuals thought the problem was too complicated, and after having children, both parents could bring them, so how could they delay their careers?
Zhang and Yang are overconfident in marriage, believing that they can grow old without children. As everyone knows, this makes a common sense mistake: no children, life lacks lubricant, and even the smallest things can burn a raging fire.
If the wife had given birth to a son and a half daughter for her husband, the husband would most likely not have made such a ruthless and unjust decision, after all, this is the mother of the child.
When you can have children, you newlyweds want children as soon as possible, don't wait until you need children to save your marriage, touch the pillow and the sky is clear... It's all over, it's all too late.
Some netizens believe that the contradiction between husband and wife should not rise to a duel between two families.
The contradiction between Zhang and Yang is, after all, only an internal contradiction. However, Zhang Hai chose to "surrender" five minutes before dawn and directly threw the "atomic bomb" on his wife's side.
To tell the truth, what Zhang Hai did harmed others and was not good for himself, Zhang and Yang's marriage directly led to the two families being in the same situation, you see I am ruthless and unjust, I manage you to stalk and beat you.
The fierce confrontation between two families often leads to a variety of strange practices. Zhang Mu dared to speak ill of Yang Nan, and without Zhang Hai's support behind it, it was impossible.
On the contrary, Yang Nan showed all kinds of weak and sympathetic, is there no woman's parents behind the scenes?
Ten thousand steps back, after the husband filed for divorce, there is still room for maneuver. Even if the husband continues to add up to his wife's harsh words, this is only an internal contradiction. However, the wife asked her husband for 600,000 yuan in "break-up fees", which directly became the last straw that crushed the marriage between the two.
With the author's many years of experience in married life, before and after Zhang and Yang's marriage change, there are more or less shadows of the parents of both sides. Once things happen to the parents of both sides wrestling, even simple problems will become complicated.
We run marriages in our daily lives, even if both parties fight at home, we don't have to pull the battle line that long. Otherwise, the "civil war" that could have been fought quickly and quickly would inevitably rise to the level of indiscriminate "melee" between the two sides.
More female netizens believe that women should polish their eyes and not marry "Ma Bao Men".
As can be seen from the above, the "theoretical support point" for a husband to file for divorce from his seriously ill wife is only tightly around "parents who want to hold their grandchildren when they are older". Liver cancer patients have children, there are indeed objective difficulties, but Zhang Hai pointed out the difficulties of his wife, in order to blackmail, on behalf of his parents to his wife "Xingshi questioning".
No matter from which point of view, Zhang Hai is a complete "mother treasure man", opening his mouth to his parents and keeping his parents shut, which seems to be benevolent and righteous, but he has also completely destroyed his future reputation.
Zhang Hai divorced as he wished, but he could find another daughter-in-law? Shanghai Jiaotong University, doctor, associate professor and other titles, can he really find the next half?
The eyes of the masses are shining, Zhang Hai abandons his wife to find a new love, this kind of despised practice, ask him if he can still find a daughter-in-law? In other words, people like Zhang Hai can't afford to inquire. After all, no woman wants to be "Yang Nan 2.0 PLUS".
These female netizens even stressed that when you female compatriots are looking for men, you must polish your eyes and never look for a "mother treasure man". To be fair, a woman with a normal mind will be very tired to get along with the "mother treasure man", and such a marriage has only one ending.
The man's parents will not be happy because of the son's favoritism, the woman's parents will feel pain because of the daughter's misfortune, and the husband and wife can only end in tragedy.
This also gives male compatriots a "wake-up call", parents and wives can not choose blind partiality, but in the case of adhering to principles, clearly support their wives. Only in this way can a marriage truly continue. Otherwise, the tragedy of Zhang and Yang will still be staged in different ways...
The author will not comment on the above views, and everyone has the right to defend their position.
For the whole incident, the author believes that both from the legal and moral level, during the period of the wife's serious illness, the husband should not abandon the wife, and the husband should be morally condemned.
From a realistic point of view, "no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time", not to mention the "husband and wife" who are not related by blood, all rely on "feelings" and "love" to maintain, moreover, in the early stage of treatment, the husband also spent a huge amount of medical expenses for his wife, helplessly, they all lost to the cruel reality.
A pair of enviable fairy couples, together with foam to build a nest of love; the wife accidentally fell ill, could have changed 800,000 livers to continue life, the husband said that the family was ruined and also wanted to be cured; and then the husband suddenly played missing, the wife asked the media for help, the husband pounced on his knees and begged his wife to let go of a horse, the wife was discouraged and could only agree to divorce... Finally, in court.
The whole process of events, rather than "love" lost to "reality", but rather that women's love from "yearning" to complete "dead heart", the author believes that at the end of the disease, Zhang Nan does not necessarily need how much money to treat, she needs more is to have a person who loves her, can send her to the end, she needs more spiritual support, especially the support of her husband.
Fortunately, Zhang Nan's adoptive parents have not given up on her and praised the kind old man!