1. 35-year-old He Saifei was happy to win Lin'er, and the whole family celebrated!
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, it is the spring of 1998. The whole capital is immersed in a sea of joy, and in the delivery ward of a well-known hospital in the city center, the famous actor He Saifei is going through a huge test - childbirth.
Having entered the threshold of 35 years old, she endured the pain with strength and injected vitality into the child conceived by herself and her husband Dink.
When the nurse brought the baby boy weighing more than 6 pounds to He Saifei's eyes, she could no longer suppress the emotion in her heart, and tears burst out of her eyes. Her husband, Dink, was at a loss for how to express his excitement, sometimes running to the door of the delivery room to visit, and sometimes returning to the bedside to take care of his wife, and the joy was palpable.
As He Saifei's closest partner, he knows how much hard work and sweat his wife has put into this moment. Although the mother-in-law has always had some complaints about her daughter-in-law, she can't help but smile sincerely when she sees the lovely great-grandson.
She stepped forward and hugged He Saifei tightly, and said again and again: "Thank you for your hard work" The stereotypes for many years seem to have disappeared at this moment.
Even the medical staff present were moved by the warm atmosphere of this family and cast their blessings. After all, they witnessed the bumpy road of childbirth that He Saifei had walked, and witnessed her perseverance and determination.
When night fell, Dink bought fresh fruit and tonic products, and the family sat around the table to enjoy the family. He Saifei held his newborn son in his arms, with a happy smile on his face, looking both happy and tired.
As an outstanding alumnus of the Central Academy of Drama, she has already made a name for herself in the art world, and now she is able to usher in a new life at an advanced age, which is undoubtedly the favor of God.
2. He Saifei stepped into the Central Academy of Drama at the age of 20, started his career as an actor, and met her husband Dink
Let's rewind the clock to 20 years ago, in 1983. At that time, He Saifei was admitted to the Central Academy of Drama in Beijing with excellent results, and since then he has embarked on a glorious but extraordinary acting road.
At that time, He Saifei was petite, fair-skinned, and his big bright eyes were shining, like a white lotus that came out of the mud and was not stained. She is diligent and hardworking, whether in class or after class, she is always engrossed and full of endless love for the profession of actor.
With his extraordinary acting skills and indomitable perseverance, He Saifei quickly conquered the hearts of the audience and won many praises!
What is particularly remarkable is that during his college years, He Saifei formed a deep friendship with Mr. Dink and became her lifelong bosom friend. The first time they met, it was like an old friend reunited, their views and ideas were so compatible, and they looked at each other and smiled as if they had known each other for decades.
Since then, whether they are rehearsing lines or discussing artistic opinions, they will always exchange ideas in a timely manner, support each other, and make progress together.
After graduation, He Saifei and Dink had a deep love affair and decided to rent a house together in the beautiful capital Beijing. At that time, they were in the prime of their youth, full of passion, and full of endless expectations for the future.
Although the income of the profession of actors is not very rich, they have lofty ideals and pursuits, and work together to pursue the ideals of art and the value of life.
The first days were undoubtedly hard. The two young actors live on a meager salary, and they often worry about three meals. However, they never gave up and remained passionate about their careers, interpreting their persistence in their dreams in their own unique way.
Sometimes, He Saifei would recite the script alone at home, muttering lines in his mouth and making all kinds of exaggerated movements with his hands. Dink sat quietly next to her, carefully observing every detail of her and giving pertinent advice at the right time.
Together, they discuss the playwright's intentions and possible interpretations, immersing themselves in the world of the play, forgetting the passage of time.
In this way, in the bustling city of Beijing, two young people with dreams embarked on the road of art together, and went through countless ups and downs hand in hand. The curtain of life has been opened, although the road ahead is tortuous and long, but as long as there is a firm belief in the heart, you will be able to leave your own brilliant mark.
3. He Saifei has been eager to have children for many years, but has tried repeatedly without success, and her mother-in-law has complained about this, and she strives to balance the relationship between career and family.
In the first few years of marriage, He Saifei and Dink lived a happy life, and the only regret was that they failed to usher in the crystallization of love. As a woman, He Saifei has always longed for the good times of giving birth to life and raising children.
However, unfortunately, no matter how much she tried, she never got her wish to have a child of her own. Hope was dashed again and again, so that her heart was gradually filled with deep uneasiness and even anxiety.
A more serious problem is that He Saifei's mother-in-law has always been prejudiced against her as an "actor". This traditional and status-oriented Beijing old lady has always regarded "actors" as an industry that does not enter the stream, and it is difficult to be praised.
She often vented her frustration to her daughter-in-law, making no secret of her contempt and disdain for her profession.
Faced with the difficulties from his mother-in-law and the ardent expectations of his family, He Saifei fell into an unprecedented predicament. On the one hand, she is full of love for the acting career and has an inseparable attachment to the stage; On the other hand, as a wife, she longs to conceive children as soon as possible and fulfill her sacred duty as a mother.
In order to find a balance between work and family, He Saifei had to make a painful choice. Sometimes, she will take the initiative to refuse some drama appointments to make more time to spend with her in-laws; Sometimes, they devote themselves to rehearsals and devote all their energy to the stage.
Her every move is under the close monitoring of her mother-in-law and Dink, and she suffers from all kinds of criticism and accusations. However, what can He Saifei do? She is just an ordinary woman who aspires to realize her personal value and wants to be a virtuous wife and mother. She can only keep struggling on the road of family and career, hesitating, for fear that she has made the wrong decision.
There was a time when she even had the idea of giving up childbearing altogether and devoting all her energy to her career. She began to make a frequent appearance in TV series and movies, and gradually gained a certain popularity.
However, this does not mean that she has completely overcome the guilt and anxiety in her heart. These pent-up emotions are only temporarily hidden, and they may explode at any moment, bringing harm to themselves and those around them.
Under the heavy pressure of both body and mind, she was almost overdrawn to the limit. The road to pregnancy is long and full of twists and turns, and the dawn of hope seems far away. Just as she was in a state of confusion and pain, a seemingly logical idea gradually took shape in her mind—perhaps she was destined to stop indulging in the fantasy of childbearing, and should devote all her limited energy to the cause she loved.
As a professional actor, Ho Saifei understands that his early 30s are the golden stage of his career, and if he misses this opportunity, it will be difficult to have the opportunity to show his talent and leave a legacy for future generations to remember.
She must seize this last opportunity and burn every moment of her life to the fullest.
So, at the age of 35, He Saifei resolutely decided to put aside the idea of giving birth for the time being, and devoted all his mental and physical strength to his acting career. She declined all potentially distracting social activities and even began to strictly control her diet in order to maintain optimal physical condition.
Since then, she has been rehearsing with all her might every day. Whether it's chewing on the articulation of lines in nuance, or digging deep into the emotional fluctuations of the characters' inner monologues, she strives to do it perfectly.
She has created an exclusive style for each role, leaving an irreplaceable mark on the screen or stage.
During the same period, many of his peers have moved away from the stage and lived a so-called "Plan B" life, but He Saifei is unwavering. Her love and dedication to art will never diminish even if she is unable to have children.
It may seem to others to be too radical, but for her, it is the only way to follow her heart and live her true self.
5. Flashback: He Saifei was unexpectedly pregnant at the age of 35 and finally gave birth to his beloved son after many hardships
Just as He Saifei was devoting himself to his career, a shocking news suddenly came - she was pregnant! This is undoubtedly a joke from God, giving this 35-year-old pregnant woman an unimaginable gift.
At first, He Saifei himself could not accept this reality. As a 35-year-old "elderly pregnant woman", she has long foreseen that there will be countless difficulties and challenges that await her.
As expected, pregnancy is far from what it seems.
The first thing that was known was undoubtedly the extremely severe morning sickness reaction, and He Saifei began to be unable to eat normally during pregnancy, and gradually showed malnutrition.
Sometimes, He Saifei even vomited violently uncontrollably, and even the urgent need for hydration was difficult, and his body and mind became weaker and weaker.
As a dedicated actor, such a physical state is undoubtedly bad news.
An even more serious challenge is the threat of miscarriage. After an in-depth examination by the doctor, it was found that He Saifei's pregnancy was extremely unstable and the risk of spontaneous abortion was extremely high. Fear haunted his heart again and again, and He Saifei was deeply afraid that this hard-won hope would come to naught in front of his eyes.
However, He Saifei is by no means an easy person to give up. In the face of various difficulties, she overcame them one by one in a unique way with perseverance and perseverance. For example, by adjusting the diet to improve nutritional status; Moderate physical exercise to improve physical fitness, etc.
Most importantly, her ardent desire for life and her ardent expectations for her children have become a powerful motivation for her to overcome many difficulties.
Husband Dink is He Saifei's most solid support. He was always by his wife's side and took care of her daily life. From the first cup of coffee in the morning to a warm glass of water in the middle of the night, he took care of it himself, and did his best to meet his wife's every need.
It is precisely because of Dink's great help that He Saifei was able to devote himself to the safety of the pregnancy.
After a difficult pregnancy process, He Saifei finally ushered in the long-awaited Lin'er in 1998. At that moment, tears burst out of his eyes, and all the bitterness and pain dissipated with the wind.
Dink was excited, and his hands were in a hurry, and his joy was palpable, like a child. Even the mother-in-law, who is usually serious, gave her daughter-in-law a rare smile of approval.
The family enjoyed the joy of family life, and the warm and harmonious atmosphere was intoxicating. He Saifei hugged his beloved son who weighed six pounds, although he was tired, he was full of happiness. As an outstanding actress, she finally succeeded in playing the most precious role in her life - mother.
6. He Saifei made a difficult choice between his career, wife, and mother, forged ahead, and firmly pursued his ideals
At this moment, He Saifei finally unloaded the burden and faced it calmly. As a woman, she has multiple roles: an actress pursuing her career, a wife with family responsibilities, and a mother with a sacred mission.
The rights and responsibilities of the various characters are intertwined and intricate, and she has often been caught in this contradiction and conflict in the past years.
However, since giving birth to the precious crystallization of love, she finally has a deep insight that these characters are not mutually exclusive as imagined, but can form a harmonious relationship that supports and complements each other.
A woman is more than capable of showing her value in both professional and family life, and the key is how to balance the two and make informed choices when necessary.
In the past, He Saifei, for the brilliant achievements of his career, even germinated the idea of giving up childbearing. However, now she has clearly realized that the role of motherhood is not optional, on the contrary, it is the most noble value and meaning in a woman's life.
If a person does not have children, it is like cutting off his blood ties, and living in this world will lose the meaning of existence.
On the contrary, it is also important to strive for progress in the career. This is not only to realize personal self-worth, but also to make our lives have more possibilities.
A woman who only focuses on family chores will eventually lose herself and lose her independent personality charm.
With this profound understanding, He Saifei is sincerely grateful to God for the two precious gifts given to her. She will carefully adjust the balance of family and career with a more calm and introverted mentality, and show the strength and wisdom of women in a unique way.
Although the road ahead is long and winding, she is fully prepared to take on all the challenges. She will have a firm belief in art and work tirelessly in her career; At the same time, she will also take care of her husband and nurture her children with a virtuous and gentle attitude, and strive to be an excellent wife and a great mother.
Whether it is a career or a family, she will devote herself to it and do her best. Because she knows that only in this way can women truly achieve equality and win full dignity and freedom.
She also hopes that her experience will give other women the courage and strength to pursue their dreams and life values.