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In the old age, as we elderly people speak, the thing they are most afraid of at this time is that their wives leave them prematurely.
Because once this happens, then the second half of the life of the single elderly will most likely be spent in loneliness and loneliness, and this also indicates that the old age of the single elderly is naturally not much better.
At this time, many of us single elderly people, in order to make their future old age, can live a happier and more comfortable life, so they decided to remarry and find a new wife for themselves.
Then with the new and old partners to accompany each other, help each other, etc., in order to change the unfavorable situation they are currently facing.
However, some of our single elderly people do not choose this way, but in the time after this, they will pay for a live-in nanny to accompany and take care of their later life.
Perhaps in their view, although it costs a lot of money to hire a live-in nanny every month, hiring a live-in nanny can give yourself less trouble and burden, so they will do it, on the surface, the above two kinds of single old people's choices have a certain reason,
So when you are single in your later years, remarry to find a wife and ask for a nanny to live in, which way is more reliable? The 70-year-old uncle told the truth.
The self-statement of 70-year-old Uncle Huo
My name is Howard Man, I am 70 years old this year, after retiring from the unit at the age of 55, I now have a pension of nearly 4,000 yuan per month, and I also have a 140 square meter four-bedroom elevator room, not only that, after the death of my parents, they also left me two frontage frontage rooms and more than 800,000 bank deposits, to be honest, I have always felt that my economic conditions are quite good.
Because of this, after I retire, when other retired elderly people around me are looking for jobs for themselves again, or thinking of other ways to make money, and wanting to make more pension money for themselves in the future, I don't have to do anything, but only need to enjoy a happy old age with my wife, after all, we have this condition.
Even today, I still clearly remember that my wife and I spent most of the day outside, we were either chatting with people, or shopping with people, and even eating outside to buy and eat, and at night, we were both at home watching TV together, or playing mobile phones or something, it can be said that our retirement life was relatively good at that time.
But it is a great pity that such a happy life only lasted for six years, and then my wife left me because of illness, and at the earliest, after the death of my wife, I had no other ideas except sadness and pain, but I felt more that with my good economic conditions, then my future life in my later years would not be bad.
But what I never expected was that in the time after that, although I did not worry about eating and wearing, I did not lack anything in terms of materials, but my spiritual world was extremely empty, especially when I was alone, that feeling of loneliness and loneliness bothered me all the time, and even for this reason, I was almost depressed.
So I decided to find a new wife to change the painful situation I am currently facing, and later, under the introduction of many friends, I met Adam, a woman 3 years younger than myself, at that time, Adam was tall, white skin, good figure, she did not look like a woman in her 60s at all, at most more than 50 years old, my first influence on Adam was still quite good.
Then after more than half a year of contact with Adam, I found that Adam was still quite good on the whole, and the most important thing was that we could not only talk together, but we also had common interests, and then later, I decided to marry Adam formally, of course, at that time, both of our children also agreed.
To tell the truth, the reason why I chose to marry Adam with a license, in fact, I wanted to prove to Adam that in the time that followed, I wanted to sincerely support each other, accompany each other and take care of each other with her, etc., and then live the rest of my happy life, and definitely did not want to find a "free nanny" for myself, that's all, but I didn't expect that Adam didn't think so.
Shortly after I married Adam, Adam either went out to play cards and dance with people every day, or went out shopping with friends to buy clothes, or went out with people to eat and drink, and even several times, she also went to KTV and bars with her friends, and when I woke up in the evening, she had not yet returned, and when she came back, it was usually after three or four o'clock.
During this period, all her daily expenses were looking for me, of course, every time she asked me for money to spend, I would agree to her request, and never refused, the reason why I did this at that time, I more often felt that if I gave her money to spend every day, I could exchange her for living with me sincerely in the future, which was also worth it, and my economic conditions were not bad.
But who knows all of this, it is just my wishful thinking, and then later, Adam actually asked me to give her 300,000 yuan, she wanted to pay her son a new house down payment, and for her unreasonable request, I naturally did not agree, and my refusal, but also in exchange for a long period of time after that, Adam quarreled with me for three days and two ends of the conflict, and even several times, Adam almost started to move with me.
I never expected things to develop to this state, so after remarrying Adam for more than two years, I took the initiative to ask Adam for divorce, and after divorcing Adam, I no longer wanted to continue to remarry and find a wife, if nothing else, the main reason was that I really couldn't afford to hurt.
So soon after the divorce with Adam, I decided to hire a live-in nanny to take care of me and accompany me, and then, I found a 42-year-old Xiaochen through the housekeeping company to be my live-in nanny, to be honest, before I hired Xiaochen, I was still a little nervous in my heart, I was mainly afraid, Xiaochen did not do his best to accompany me and take care of me, but would do other unfavorable things to me.
But the truth is not what I imagined, since Xiao Chen gave me a live-in nanny, every day I just got up to wash up, Xiao Chen has already made breakfast waiting for me, after that, Xiao Chen began to clean and tidy up the housework, then Xiao Chen after doing these things, will not choose to rest, but take the initiative to take me outside to walk around and breathe fresh air, she said that staying at home for a long time is not good, let me usually have nothing to go outside to look around.
At the same time, Xiao Chen is also a very kind person, usually I give her living expenses, every money she spends, will be recorded in a small book, and Xiao Chen in the usual out to buy daily necessities, she is not choosing to buy nearby, but where to buy cheap, even if you need to run a lot more for this, she also has no complaints, for this I often say her, I let her not have to save money for me, but Xiao Chen said that my money is not blown by the wind, can save a little is a little.
The most precious thing is that after Xiao Chen made my body healthier, she often let her parents in the countryside mail some rural specialties such as eggs, bacon, chicken and duck, and then made a variety of delicious dishes for me to eat, in just half a year, I not only gained a lot of weight, but also my mental head was much better than before.
Compared with the above, what I was most touched by was that after Xiao Chen really treated and cared for me as her relatives, as big as daily travel, as small as dressing and quilting, etc., everything did not require me to open my mouth, Xiao Chen did things early in the front, there was no need for me to worry, and even some things I did not think of at all, Xiao Chen had already thought of it for me.
After a long time, many uninformed people, but also because Xiao Chen is my biological daughter, and when I said that Xiao Chen was the live-in nanny I hired, many people did not believe it, until I came up with evidence, they believed that what I said was true, so far Xiao Chen has been a live-in nanny for me for four years, since Xiao Chen came, I have spent almost every day in laughter.
Xiao Chen's kindness to me, I also always keep in mind, for this reason, my salary for Xiao Chen now has also risen to 7,000 yuan per month, every New Year's Holiday, I will also give her extra red envelopes, and at the same time, after consulting with a pair of children, I also decided that if Xiao Chen can serve me until I am old as always, then I will leave 100,000 yuan for Xiao Chen, which is also a reward for her.
And after experiencing remarriage to find a wife, and asking a live-in nanny to retire, I really feel that when I am single in my later years, it is more reliable to ask a live-in nanny to retire, for this reason, I often advise other single elderly people around me, if I need to take care of and accompany in my later years, or go to ask the live-in nanny to give myself a pension, don't remarry to find a wife, after all, the drawbacks of remarriage to find a wife are too many, and it is better not to try.
Small micro-conclusions
Through Uncle Huo's narration, we can clearly see that,
When you are single in your later years, hiring a live-in nanny to retire is far more reliable and comfortable and happy than remarrying and finding a wife.
It's obvious,
And why is it unreliable to remarry and find a wife?
The main reasons exist in the following aspects,
1, the original remarried two people living together, from a familiar family to a strange family, it is difficult for two people to do the strength to make a place, the heart to a place to think,
The same is mostly true of remarriages in older people.
2, now many of our single elderly in the choice of remarriage this road, most of the cases are not very correct mentality, some women look for men just to find a "CASH machine for themselves," and some men look for women just to find a "free nanny" for themselves,
In this way, how long may the two people be together in the future?
3, once the single elderly remarry this road fails, the price paid by both parties to each other is really too big, like this body, time, energy and money, etc.,
And these things are the most scarce and important "things" for the elderly at present, which must not be easily lost.
Then hiring a live-in nanny to provide for the elderly, the reason why it will be reliable and happy,
There is also its own reason in it,
First of all: between the single elderly and the live-in nanny, it has always been a simple employment relationship, and there will never be any entanglement of feelings and interests.
Even if two people get along like relatives in the future, one pays, one provides care services, and that's it, the rights and responsibilities are clear.
Secondly: in the future, when the live-in nannies provide care and companionship for the single elderly and other elderly care services, they will have more advantages, and they will do better in this matter, relatively speaking,
After all, they have been engaged in this job for a long time, and this is mostly incomparable to other people and other professions.
Finally: If the single elderly feel that the work of the live-in nanny is not fulfilled when providing pension services for the single elderly, and at the same time hurts their own vital interests, then our single elderly can completely talk about the dismissal of the other party at the first time, and then re-hire a live-in nanny to serve themselves.