When it comes to Cao Dewang, people often relish his brilliance as an entrepreneur: he made his own glass that belongs to Chinese and became an admirable "glass king"; he donated more than 10 billion yuan and became the "first good in China" loved by everyone.
As everyone knows, such a glamorous him, but there is a black history - extramarital love, he has achieved fame, he does not shy away from this relationship, saying that he met a red confidant who met and hated late - a woman who made him want to throw away his home...
Poor teenagers have long been in charge
Cao Dewang's ancestral home is Fuqing, Fujian.
Born in May 1946 to a wealthy merchant family in Shanghai, his great-grandfather was the richest man in Fuqing, but his grandfather's generation fell.
Fortunately, his father was very angry, and when he was young, he tried everything to change the fate of poverty, went to Japan as an apprentice for several years, and after returning to China, he started from scratch and revived the family business, and once became a shareholder of the most famous Yongan Department Store in old Shanghai.
The young Cao Dewang lived in Shanghai as a young master with fine clothes and food, but the good times were not long, the situation was turbulent due to the impact of the war, and the business was not easy to do.
His father saw that the situation was not good, decided to move the family back to his hometown of Fuqing, so the whole family took a cruise ship and consigned all their belongings to a transport ship, however, when they arrived, the belongings did not arrive for a long time, and they asked again and again, giving the answer that the ship was sunk.
In an instant, Cao Dewang was reduced from young master To Cowherd, lacking clothes and food, the family was surrounded by disciples, and he was also subjected to the white eyes of others, and all kinds of discomfort tormented him. He was unable to attend school until he was 9 years old and forced to drop out of school at the age of 14 due to poverty.
As a young man, he wandered the streets, selling tobacco, selling fruit, repairing bicycles... Even so, life was still extremely difficult, hungry but had to exhaust his physical strength, and he was black and thin, not long at all.
In those years of selling fruit, he had the greatest physical challenge to him, and as a young man, he set off at three o'clock in the morning every day to ride from the mountain commune to Fuqing County, at this time the sky was just dark, and when the fruit farmers came, they began to bargain.
It was almost noon to negotiate the price and pack the fruit, so he had to eat some dry food that he brought with him, so he braved the high temperature of about 40 degrees and drove back with 300 kilograms of fruit.
Along the way, the sun scorched his skin, the heat wave hit his thin body, and his throat dried as if it was about to burst, but he only had one strength to pedal forward. Hurrying back to the commune to wholesale a cart of fruit to the vendors, it was more than six o'clock in the afternoon.
Hurried home, finished eating at about eight or nine o'clock in the evening. In this way, day after day from morning to night, you can only earn two yuan a day.
Long-term physical exhaustion, malnutrition, the teenager he appeared thinner, shorter, so his mother often secretly wiped tears. This former lady, watching her children suffer and suffer, but unable to do anything, depressed mood directly affects her health.
Newlyweds often parted ways
The roof leaked in the rain, and the days were overstretched, but my mother fell ill again.
That year, Cao Dewang was 23 years old, considering that he had reached the age of starting a family, marrying a daughter-in-law could take care of his sick mother, his parents entrusted someone to tell him a matchmaker, the girl in the one-inch black and white photo looked ordinary, but he did not want to disobey his parents' orders, plus he also wanted someone to take care of his sick mother, so he agreed to this marriage.
There was no Qingqing me under the moon before the flower, no heartbeat of mutual affection, no promise from the Sea Oath Mountain Alliance, not even one side.
In 1969, the rural girl named Chen Fengying married him as a poor boy.
She is simple and kind, her appearance is plain, and she can't read a single character. On the wedding night, the strangers looked a little embarrassed, for a long time, he broke the silence, "I don't bully you, you don't bully me, we will live in peace later." She nodded shyly.
This silent promise instantly became a lifelong commitment, and they really lived in peace for a lifetime, even in those days of divorce.
Two days after the marriage, Cao Dewang sold his wife's dowry, and all the money was used for the cost of business, and his wife was very supportive of him, saying that if she married him, everything would listen to him.
Newly married Yan'er, Chen Fengying runs housework and serves her sick mother-in-law, while Cao Dewang runs business outside, and there are only a few days when the two families are together all year round.
The mother could not see it, and Cao Dewang should go home to accompany his wife more, but his wife spoke to him, saying that she understood that it was not easy for him to do business, and instructed him to go out and take care of himself.
The business he did was actually to grow white fungus, but at that time, there were too many people planting white fungus, and they could not sell it at a good price in their hometown. He heard that the market in Jiangxi was good, so he sold the freight to Jiangxi and could make several times the money.
He was very talented in business, and he bought white fungus from the villagers at a low price and sold it at a high price, so that he could earn more than eight hundred yuan on a round trip.
But only after running to the fourth trip, he was regarded as a speculator, and the payment was deducted.
This time unfortunate to get home, not only lost the cost, but also owed more than a thousand yuan to the villagers, more than a thousand yuan at that time was not a small amount, the white fungus he bought were all on credit, and the villagers naturally wanted to chase the account.
Debt collectors kept coming to the door, and everything that could be sold in the family was sold, and the house was almost sold. The family was surrounded by walls and debts were high, but what touched him was that his wife did not blame him.
At this time, the production team also sent someone to find Cao Dewang, they said that he only cared about business, delayed the volunteer work of the reservoir, more than 20 construction periods, if not done, according to a work a day three pieces five payments.
He was so poor that he had to turn in his money, so he had to work.
The construction site was far away, and before leaving, Cao Dewang sent his wife and children to his mother's house.
He said to her, "I have nothing now, you can remarry, I have no problem." ”
She stared at him with determined eyes and said nothing. The mother-in-law on the side said: "You are talking nonsense, you are so smart, difficulties will definitely get through, you can rest assured to go, your wife and children I will bring you." ”
When he left, he was a little sad, he felt their trust in him, which gave him strength and made him feel deeply ashamed.
After finishing the work at the construction site, he became a fruit seedling technician again, and it can be said that before he started, he did all kinds of work, and ate much more bitterly than the average person.
The wife of the chaff shall not be abandoned
In 1976, Cao Dewang did procurement in a glass factory in Fuqing City, he worked seriously and responsibly, could bear hardships, and also had business vision and brains, and later did sales, he made a lot of money, and the family's life was greatly improved.
It was at this moment that he fell in love with a woman, young, beautiful and temperamental, although only twenty-four or five years old, but already a wife, and had two children, but this did not prevent them from interacting.
At the beginning of the meeting, they had endless topics to talk about, she was understanding, and every sentence poked him in the heart. Her understanding, admiration, and heartache for him inspire his manly pride and protection.
Whether it is career or life, she will do her best to help him. The good feeling of knowing each other makes their feelings heat up rapidly, they are very engaged, they hate each other late, it is difficult to give up, they feel that the other party is the right person, so they are trapped in it and unable to extricate themselves.
After her girlfriend met him, she advised her not to associate with this unassuming peasant, but she said to them: "We can talk, I believe that he is an extraordinary person, he will definitely have achievements in the future, and he will soar." ”
The feeling of appreciating each other was really wonderful, they were stubbornly and passionately in love, he strongly wanted to be with her, he wanted to marry her.
So, he wrote to his wife: "I am in love with a confidant with a red face, and I want to divorce you." ”
Chen Fengying was illiterate, and the letter was read to her by her sister-in-law.
She did not cry or make trouble, when the sister-in-law was still indignantly complaining that her brother was a "scumbag", she calmly asked the sister-in-law to reply like this: "I know that I am not worthy of you, I know that you will leave, if you really leave, then leave the house and three children for me." ”
He was very sad to receive the reply, he thought she would make trouble and would not agree to the divorce. Unexpectedly, she quit so calmly, not fighting for even a little property for herself, but only their children.
This stupid woman who only knows how to pay silently and does not ask for anything in return accompanies him through the hard years of life, bears children for him, and takes care of his parents for him... His heart suddenly hurt and hurt.
On the one hand, he is a wife with the same suffering, and on the other hand, he is a confidant with a red face who cannot be sought, and he is hovering at the crossroads of life, making difficult choices.
He was very depressed, he did not know how to choose, he even had the luxury of having both a fish and a bear's paw, but he knew clearly that a choice had to be made.
In order not to regret his choice, he surveyed 100 couples. He found that it wasn't just him who wasn't happy with his family, none of the 100 couples surveyed were satisfied with their family.
Even in the eyes of people, the gods and immortals, or those who have been in love for many years before getting married, have all kinds of dissatisfaction, and there will always be large and small contradictions between husband and wife.
This investigation made him understand that the family has a difficult scripture, a long road of life, and husband and wife must support each other and tolerate each other in order to go on for a long time.
Since then, Cao Dewang has completely dismissed the idea of divorce and cut off contact with his confidant.
Subsequently, he attributed all his property and company to his wife's name, just to reassure her and make her feel dependent.
He also told his wife: "I have no problem, I am not in you to remember a sentence, do not climb to the coffin, do not give the property to your son, otherwise he will leave you at home, take your wife out to play, you control the property, he will definitely treat you wholeheartedly." ”
These words, sincere and sincere, show his love and concern for his wife.
It is often said that behind every successful man, there is a woman who silently supports him. Behind Cao Dewang, there are two women who silently support him. His success is not unrelated to them.
His wife gave him the greatest recognition, trust and freedom, and he didn't have to deal with those tricky family conflicts, didn't have to coax her, didn't have to create romance...
Her quiet and responsible feelings are exactly what people who concentrate on doing business need most, she is his safe haven, is his strong backing.
His red face has given him true love, warmth, and adoration, stimulated the energy in him, and made him determined to fight for her, to become a decent person, a person worthy of her love, so that she can have face in front of her girlfriend.
Personality charm is a good story
Love makes people lose their minds, but responsibility can make people sober. Cao Dewang, who returned to the family, took on the responsibilities of being a husband and father, and at the same time, he devoted all his energy to his glass business.
In 1987, he established Fuyao Company. In 1993, Fuyao Company was listed in China... His strategic planning and brilliant achievements in the commercial sea need not be repeated, but his personality charm is worth mentioning.
Cao Dewang has a self-respecting and patriotic heart, at the beginning of the business, the young he decided to transform into automotive glass, that is, to fight for a breath, Chinese also have their own automotive glass, he wants to break the monopoly of foreign glass in the Chinese market.
He did it, and Fuyao Group became the leader of domestic automotive glass manufacturers and the world's second largest automotive glass manufacturer, famous at home and abroad.
When he applied for a U.S. green card when he made a venture capital, he said that if the investment failed, he would also fail as an American.
If it succeeds, it must be declared that this is the success of Chinese. He demanded that his family return their U.S. green cards, and if they did not, they would not inherit his family property. His patriotism is evident.
In addition to auto glass, Cao Dewang has also made charity into a career, he is dedicated to goodness, sympathetic to the people's livelihood, he donated hundreds of millions of hundreds of millions of dollars, a total of more than 10 billion, he deservedly known as "China's first good".
Although Cao Dewang did not go to school much, he was insightful, humanly trained, and intelligent, which was related to his tempering and his love of reading.
He was extremely strict with himself, getting up at 4 a.m. every day and having no days off. He was a workaholic who spent almost the rest of his day working except for sleeping and reading for an hour or two.
He didn't even let go of the time to eat, which usually only took five or six minutes, and often before others had sneaked to the restaurant, he had already finished eating and started reading the newspaper.
He loves to read, and when he returns home, he often can't release the scroll, ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign, can be read by the eyes, and everything he reads is in the heart. His vision, wisdom and boldness are closely related to the wide range of books.
He laughed and said that he was most afraid of someone borrowing books from him and asking for books, even if he was a good friend, he would not agree.
He is the president of the Fujian Golf Association, playing ball is his hobby, but he has devoted himself to research and tried his best to improve his skills. Other people playing ball will have more or less social implications, but he concentrates on playing and ignores people, often three times five divided by two and then left.
He also never ventured into social entertainment venues such as salons, clubs, clubs, etc., which he considered a waste of time and feelings.
He is a popular entrepreneur and a man of temperament. He cries when he talks about his mother, when he talks about poverty, when he talks about old times;
He creates the best working and living environment for employees, there are employees seriously ill hospitalized, tens of thousands of hundreds of thousands of expenses he bears;
Wherever there is a disaster and where assistance is needed, he will not hesitate to lend a helping hand.
He is a real and frank person, never pretentious to his inner thoughts, even if he is successful, he also frankly admits the mistakes he made when he was young to warn future generations.
He is not vain or snobbish, he can talk lovingly about his illiterate wife, and he can bow down to listen to the voices of employees.
He failed without discouragement, succeeded without arrogance, and generously helped more people in need. With his self-discipline and his simple patriotism and love for the people, he interpreted the responsibility and responsibility of an entrepreneur.