He was a self-made billionaire who sold his wife's dowry
His wife was illiterate
He had a beautiful lover, and he wanted a divorce
He said that all men and women who want to get married, are married, and want to divorce should look at it
He said..........
[Cao Dewang was born in 1946 in Fuqing, Fujian Province, and is the founder and chairman of Fuyao Glass Group. Fuyao Glass is the first and second largest automotive glass manufacturer in China and the world. He is a Buddhist who does good deeds, and since his first donation in 1983, Cao Dewang has accumulated 6 billion yuan in personal donations. 】
My current wife is married, she has not read books, called Chen Fengying, people are very good, for decades, cooking, help me manage children, even the phone does not answer, she feels that she can not speak Mandarin well, so do not answer, afraid that people will laugh at her, the clothes and shoes she wears are what I bought for her, the things at home are also bought by me, she will not buy things.
However, all the property of my family is now recorded in her name, and my holding company is also her chairman, all of which are hers, not mine, and people say that this company is Cao Dewang's, but in fact, from the legal relationship, it is my wife's.
Why should I make such an arrangement? This is because I used to linger on marriage when I wasn't rich yet.
I am 57 years old this year, from the age of 23 marriage to now, but also decades have passed, as the saying goes, "a hundred years to repair the same boat, a thousand years to repair the pillow seat", which means to cherish each other, do not easily change. This truth was also slowly realized by me later.
When my wife married me, she was still a young girl, and our union was completely the fate of our parents, the words of a matchmaker. Before we got married, the two of us hadn't even met each other, only a small black-and-white photo, so we hadn't experienced the process of falling in love.
It was 1969, we were very poor, life was very hard, my mother was sick again, so the family wanted me to get married first and find a wife to take care of my mother. I said yes, and that's it.
As soon as we got married, I sold all of her dowry. She didn't complain a word, she thought it was married to you, you had the final say. We have been married for more than 30 years, she has always been like this, no matter how hard it is, she will not complain.
She is 1/4 Malay and very simple. Newly married, the dowry sold out, the money was all given to me to do the capital, she waited at home for my sick mother, I ran a business outside, the first two people spent very little time together throughout the year, this is our "newlywed Yan'er", not romantic, "poor couple Pepsi lament", some things have been experienced to know the sweetness and bitterness inside, so we are a couple in distress.
I sold her dowry and had a little money, which was the first money I had in business. Then I started planting white fungus and taking it to Jiangxi to sell, and I could make seven or eight hundred yuan on a trip back and forth. Running around like this, I didn't expect to run to the fourth trip, the goods were deducted, not only did the cost lose, but also owed the villagers more than 1,000 yuan, if other women would cry?
At that time, many people came to ask me for debts, and everything that could be sold in the house was sold, and finally only a small house was left, and I said to the people who came to the door to ask for debts: "If you can take it, take it." ”
At this time, the production team came to me again, they said that I ran to do business, owed the volunteer work to do the reservoir, about 20 working days, if you don't do it, you have to pay three yuan and five dollars a day according to a worker, and I am more than 100 yuan. I don't think I have anything to do at home, and I can earn three or five dollars a day to work, so it's better to work.
As a result, I did not expect that no one in the entire production team was willing to do it, so I did it alone, which was equivalent to me going to work for others, and after doing the work, I sold it to them at a price of three yuan and five yuan a day.
The construction site was far away, and before I left, I sent my wife to her mother's house. She was a woman with a child, her husband was not around, and her family was destitute. So I said to her, "I have nothing now, only one person left, and if it doesn't work, you can remarry." My mother-in-law said: "You nonsense, you are so smart, difficulties will definitely get through, you can rest assured to go back, your wife and children I will take you." ”
My wife and I are such a relationship, plain and plain, whether you are good or bad, she believes in you, she never quarrels with me.
When I was younger, I met another different woman who made me want to throw away my home.
That was in the late '70s and early '80s, when I met in Mingxi. Although I made some money doing sales, I was just a well-to-do farmer, and I didn't have a business like this that could be called a business.
It was at that time that I fell in love with a woman who was my girlfriend and that was true love. She did a lot of things for me to help me, when she was very young, about twenty-four or five years old, married, had two children, and we were both very engaged and felt like we had found a lifelong acquaintance.
In the early 80s, especially in a place like Fuqing, it is conceivable how much pressure she had.
But she was very brave, and my affairs with her were known to some of her good sisters, who persuaded her, saying, "How can you be like this, who is not easy to find, find a farmer, thin, black." She said to the sisters, "We can talk about it, I believe he is an extraordinary person, he will definitely have achievements in the future, and he will soar."
I wrote to my wife at the time, and she didn't know words, so my sister read it to her.
Later, when I got home, she saw me and just said, "I know I don't deserve you, I know you're going to leave, and if you do, then leave the house and the three children for me." "I was very sad after listening to it, and I felt very sorry for my wife. I was very miserable at that time, when our lives had improved a lot, not as tight as when we first got married.
I was faced with a choice.
On the one hand is my married wife, who has silently dedicated herself to me for so many years, suffered so much, is simple and kind, and always trusts me unconditionally, and on the other side is my confidant with a red face, we have unforgettable feelings and a common language. I was really bitter and didn't know what the road should be in the future.
Then I went to do research to understand other people's lives. I chose 100 representative couples, including workers, doctors, cadres, teachers, and bosses, and I found that it was not that I was not satisfied with my family, but that none of the 100 couples were satisfied with their family.
What touched me more deeply was a friend of fuzhou water meter factory, he and his wife two people, one is the section chief, one is a regiment cadre, Lang Cai female appearance, is in love for 3 years before getting married, in my opinion, they should be very happy.
I didn't expect that it was also a difficult scripture to read. After I became very good friends with them, a few times, after drinking and chatting deeply, I realized that both of them were not very satisfied with the family, and the two of them blamed each other, no less than mine.
It was 1980. I statistically analyzed and compared the marriage samples I could collect and came to the conclusion that no family is an absolutely happy family.
So I started to think, why is this so? Later I figured it out - two people, from different families, have different education, so that they will form their own different concepts, when in love, it may be to seek common ground while reserving differences, once they really live together, there will be many problems.
So I think that happiness is all the same thing, that is, there is food and drink, and children and grandchildren are full of these things, but if you think deeply, is there absolute happiness in the world? No, so there will be no absolutely happy family, absolutely perfect marriage, since this is the case, I think I don't need to think about what to change the family, and then change, that is, change 1000 is still useless. These are all things in the past, and now the woman is a grandmother.
The most important change in my life was in Mingxi, where I met an unforgettable "affair" and gave up on her there, but at that time I secretly swore in my heart that I must fight for a breath in this life, so that when I talk about the women I love and the women who love me, their sisters, I can say that they love a decent person, a person worthy of love.
This time the extramarital affair made me understand that a man may fall in love with a woman other than his wife, and may be unforgettable, but this is not a reason for him to give up his family and give up his wife. A responsible man is making his woman proud of him instead of crying for him for pain!
So I went back to my hometown to concentrate on running my glass factory, and maybe because of this mood, I devoted all my energy to this cause.
Now there is a popular saying in society, called "men will become bad if they have money, and women will have money if they become bad", I think this is not absolute, this is a matter of people's hearts.
My childhood life was very bitter, three years of natural disasters, my mother is about to starve to death, did not become bad, she was also a big girl, people are also very beautiful.
As for men, if a man has a good heart and a sense of responsibility for his home, in the words of our hometown, "all four feet have been eaten by others, and his heart is still at home", this is certain.
For me, I feel that family is a haven from the wind. Two people have never lived a long life and then become a family, under the same roof, this is fate, should cherish and live in harmony, when there is difficulty, help each other in the same boat, this can be.
I have a view that there must still be real feelings between men and women, like me and my wife, although until now we have little time to exchange feelings, but she and I are a couple of trouble, how many things we have gone through together!
This is the feeling, when I was chased by others to the point that even the house had to be sold, she still trusted me, followed me, and now that I am developed, she does not care how much money I have, nor is it snobbish, how much money you have and how much money you spend I don't care, anyway I believe you. It's a consistent feeling.
A lot of feelings aren't real feelings because they're not built on a solid foundation.
There are two Chinese sayings, as if one of Confucius's disciples said, "Filial piety comes first, and the heart does not care about the traces, and the poor have no filial piety; What does it mean that all evils are the head, and that there is no heart in the world, and that there is no perfect man in the world"?
The first sentence is about "filial piety", saying that to see whether a person conforms to "filial piety", not to see whether he has something valuable to the elderly, but to see if he has an old man in his heart.
The second sentence says "temperament", as long as it is a person, there will be no feelings for the opposite sex, but feelings are one thing, in the heart.
"On the mind there is no perfect person in the world" means that it cannot be based on "whether there is a feeling in the heart", and if this is used as a basis, there will be no good people in the world.
The thought of her marrying me as a simple girl, so many years, no matter what happened, always obeyed my arrangement, I felt obliged to fulfill my responsibilities.
So all my possessions, my company is her name, and I want to reassure her that she has to rely on for this life. Although we do not have those passionate sea oath mountain alliances, but after all, we are from young to gray hair, and all the sadness and happiness in the middle are connected, which is a blood-linked feeling that no one who has not experienced it will not experience.
Many people often have to deal with the contradiction between family and work in order to do business, but for me, this contradiction does not exist.
My wife never asks me for this or that, she doesn't need me to coax her, and now that I think about it, isn't this quiet and responsible feeling the most needed feeling for a person who concentrates on doing things?
All wealth, fame, and status are outward appearances. Virtue is the fundamental, and the saying that virtue carries things is not false at all. Why are mostly men who are responsible for their families and good for their wives happy? Because virtue can carry things, thousands of gold wealth must be thousands of gold figures.
The most valuable thing about being a woman is "don't deceive the young and poor." If you do not dislike the poverty of a man when he is young, and are willing to accompany him through the most difficult years of life, such a woman must not miss it.
And the most valuable thing about being a man is "don't be ugly when you are old". By the time they are older, men are already brilliant, while women are exhausted, and at this time, the suspect is old and ugly, and it is really a wolf's heart and dog lungs.
Therefore, women know how to stay together, and men know gratitude, which is a lifetime! As a man, you can't let a woman who can bet her life's happiness on you lose, because you can't afford to lose, and the woman who loves you can't afford to lose!
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