It is not easy to bring a baby, and it is even more difficult to carry a bear baby. Today to share with you a secret recipe to deal with xiongwa's second rebellion period, be sure to collect it!
Dogs are suspicious of their age
There is an old saying: seven-year-old and eight-year-old dogs are also suspicious.
You are pleasant to him and his face, and he will go to the house and reveal the tiles;
You scream at him, and he rolls;
You want to give him some color to see, and he will retaliate with tit-for-tat, so angry that your liver hurts.
At this time, you will think: how did a little guy who was so cute at the beginning become this hot sweet potato now?
Here's a summary of the characteristics of a seven-year-old boy from wild watch girl Ah Fat:
1. Talk non-stop, and more importantly, it's all. Likes and is good at using rhetorical questions. You say: The first thing to do when I get home is to wash my hands, and he asks: What if I just don't wash my hands? You say: Don't jump around in the garage, he asked: Can I jump and jump?
you off is probably the purpose of every word he says.
2. Brain or body, there is always one in the fight. If there are only two things in the adult world: about your ass and about me, there are only two things in the world of a seven-year-old boy: you come and I hit you.
Their little heads are filled with strange weapons: a missile that can blow up the world, a stinger that can poison all of humanity, an airplane that doesn't have to refuel for unlimited miles, and a shield that can withstand atomic bombs.
However, such a rich imagination becomes when looking at the picture and talking: a sunny day, the children have a lot of fun.
3. Always throwing things away. In the third week of the new semester, a seven-year-old boy disappeared: countless erasers, two weekly exam papers, an English textbook (or the teacher named the book in the group to learn that the book was missing), a jump rope and a glove.
If one day, you find out that he didn't lose anything, don't worry, it's just that you haven't found out that he lost anything.
4. Seven-year-olds socialize with each other: bump into each other on the road and shout each other's names.
INTERVIEWER ODA!
--Xiao Chen!
INTERVIEWER ODA!!
--Xiao Chen!!
INTERVIEWER Oda !!!
——Xiao Chen !!!
Then, they said goodbye to each other.
5. Very, very much want to have a cat. If you can't keep a cat, you can have a rabbit; if you don't have a rabbit, you can have a bird; if you don't have a bird, you can keep a hamster; if you don't have a hamster, you can keep a turtle. And he promised that he would definitely take good care of his pets.
But he forgot, when he was five years old, he bought him a turtle, liked it for two weeks, and never saw it again.
6. Sleep with the doll and mom's red cotton sweater.
7. Be able to memorize all the advertisements playing in the elevator, but how can not memorize the six words of the first unit of the Oxford version of the English textbook. The most memorized advertising slogan is: David Mop, Mop Expert.
Help me!!
8. Obsessed with all sets: the game hall can be exchanged for a rough toy with 1,000 coupons, an eraser can be exchanged for ten stamps in the school, and a tattered toy car can be exchanged for five stickers in the interest class.
However, for the reward mechanism that my mother said: "Write your homework carefully, collect five chapters, and your mother will buy you a toy", there is no interest.
9. The highlight of father's love is the moment when two people play mobile games with their mothers behind their backs.
10. The confidence of the seven-year-old boy is: the teacher said that the plenary meeting, do not need to check it is correct; but the homework handed in is: some topics are not clear, some topics are too careless. The most irritating thing was that he was so tired as soon as he finished his homework that he lay down in bed and didn't want to sleep.
11. Do you like to watch dad wash the dishes? Like; like to visit the supermarket? Like; like to buy groceries with grandma? Like; like to accompany your mother to take out the garbage? like. Anyway, as long as you don't write homework, you are happy to do anything.
12. I don't want my mother to have another brother or sister, but I can have another brother or sister.
13. He loves you very much, though, and that doesn't stop him from you off.
The language behind the rebellious period
Parents and parents are all a head N big, thinking about the headache, talking about the color change, avoiding it. But out of affection and responsibility, we can't abandon it.
Some mothers said: My baby, that is, when sleeping, looks cute, in addition to every moment is to make my mood blocked, blocked to the rhythm of not working.
Some fathers said: If the child is regarded as a global limited edition product, then the user experience of this product is also poor, and I really want to send it back to the original factory to redesign it!
The bear child's angry stubbornness and love to drag the ground, minute by minute let you forget your identity, forget the decency, forget it, just want to yell at the TA.
What about good elegance? Speak well and talk well? What about the good Eli convincing?
A person who is about to go crazy, how can he manage so much?
In fact, there is the same gratifying psychological factor behind the various unpleasant behaviors of seven- and eight-year-old children: their self-awareness has further developed, and they are more confident and independent! They are no longer the little obedient people who let them do whatever they want, they have their own ideas, their own wishes, and they feel that they know everything and can do anything. That's why they're no longer so "obedient".
At the same time, there is a contradiction between their growing self-esteem and backward ability to act. Their independence and self-confidence are often hit by various realities, which leads to them often being grumpy or becoming cryers.
Seven or eight years old is the adaptation period of children in the first and second grades, academic pressure gradually increases, as well as classmate relationships, teacher-student relationships and even the confusion caused by campus bullying, and then loaded with an excessive competitive spirit, many small setbacks that are not worth mentioning in our adult eyes will make them depressed, a little unhappy will be angry, coupled with the strengthening of their language ability to destroy, adults will be particularly physically and mentally exhausted to deal with.
Then, if we can put ourselves in the shoes of others and think about it, we will find that these small overlords who are strong in the outside world are actually very sympathetic and need our help. Behind every child who loses his temper is a weak heart that asks for help.
Three tricks to solve
Although the mention of "rebellion period" makes parents feel headaches, it is not insoluble. The following four tricks can skillfully resolve children's hostility and help them successfully pass through this special period:
1. Allow your child to say "no"
Where there is oppression, there is resistance. The more the parents suppress in ordinary days, the more the child rebounds.
So, when your child says "no," don't refute it at the first time, even if you think that idea is childish.
Let the child express it completely, and perhaps you will be impressed by his novel ideas. Allowing dissent is the first step parents need to take. Only by doing this step well will the child feel that he is being treated fairly and can he have more trust.
On the contrary, if the parents are too controlling, and the children do not come according to their own wishes, they will be suppressed, which will only make the parent-child rift deeper and deeper.
2. Try for Tat
When your child turns a deaf ear to your words or deliberately contradicts you, parents may wish to learn from him in his attitude towards him.
Empathetic thinking often allows children to have deeper feelings.
For example, when you ask your child to do something, he always pushes three or four, or contradicts it, then you also treat his request.
Of course, the attitude of parents must be gentle, not deliberately raising the bar with their children. Let the child realize that he or she has a wrong attitude, so that they can correct it.
3. Don't skimp on affirmations and praise
Every child has something to be affirmed and praised, and when they are in a rebellious period, the parents will make more and more accusations and criticisms, which will make them more irritable.
Therefore, parents may wish to change their perspective, put words of affirmation and praise on their lips, and replace accusations with encouragement to guide them.
When children do well, encouragement will make them do better; when children are frustrated, parental encouragement can stimulate their internal motivation and help them to help them cope with customer service difficulties.
The road to growth will encounter a variety of problems, the first thing parents have to do is to seriously solve the problems at the current stage, do not let the problems accumulate and attach. Only when the road is smooth, the child can smoothly enter the next stage, and the whole process can grow up healthy and healthy.
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