"Pedophreny", what exactly is disgust? | Media Notes
The topic of "bear children" will become a hot spot every three to five. Generally speaking, people evaluate "bear children" and evaluate parents who are responsible for managing their children's behavior. The root cause of the "bear child" problem lies in the "bear parent", which has also become a common divisor in the public opinion field.
However, when denouncing "bear children" has become a solidified public opinion paradigm, more and more people have begun to worry about whether there is a tendency to hate children and fear children behind netizens' dislike of "bear children". Not long ago, writer Su Xiaolan recorded on Weibo a number of cases where parents took their children on the train and were mistreated, because some passengers questioned that the children were too noisy, and the children were "invited" by the flight attendants to the dining car and even the connection of the carriage.
Soon, Su Xiaolazi's Weibo became a "complaint conference" for parents. Many parents reported that just because their children were a little crying, they would be "cared for" by flight attendants. Even if they are not treated materially differently, they are under psychological pressure that cannot be ignored, facing the silence or stares around them, as if traveling with children is the "original sin" of inconvenience to others.
Crying in infants and young children is difficult to avoid, and in many cases, the noise of infants and young children is not due to improper parental education or poor parenting, but to nature. Asking infants and young children not to make trouble or cry in public is equivalent to asking children to refrain from instincts. On the basis of recognizing this, it may not be fair to parents who have children to blame the discomfort caused by the child's noisy family on the failure of parents to be responsible.
How does "pedagogy" come about? Commentator Shen Bin's article provides an explanatory perspective: "Under the cloak of 'order' and 'public morality', wrapped in anger for children and disgust for childbirth, it is used as a cool article to attract traffic." In the author's view, "bear child news" has become the traffic responsibility in the "new yellow news", and by expanding the tearing and conflict in the public opinion field, it has created a kind of "carnival of hatred of children".
It is undeniable that in the public opinion space where traffic is paramount, some netizens have formed or consolidated a polarized way of thinking. On the Internet, the prevalence of "trampling" and "leading wars" can easily lead to online violence in specific incidents, and on the other hand, it also causes many people's thinking to become more rigid and stubborn. The cognition that is influenced by this thinking is: when the child makes trouble, it is the fault of the parents; When parents defend themselves, they are irresponsible.
However, just because of the rendering and hype of some self-media, can the children in the public perception change from "little angels" to "little devils"? The answer must not be a single dimension, behind the "child misogy", in fact, there is also a certain social emotion with a commonality.
Not long ago, popular science author Hesenburg believed: "Giving birth to children is a long-term investment, which requires countless time and mental effort, a person who only cares about the moment, will not make the choice to have children, and it is equally difficult to tolerate the trouble brought to him by other people's children." ”
Raising and educating children is undoubtedly a lot of cost. This cost includes both family costs and social costs of creating a friendly reproductive and nurturing environment. Of course, most of the social costs have been paid through citizens' taxes, government provision of public services, etc., but this does not mean that a member of society who does not have children and does not raise children can not bear any costs to support the growth of the next generation.
For example, on public transport, it is the passenger's obligation to give up seats for pregnant women and children; In the vicinity of schools and kindergartens, business entities must not engage in specific business projects in accordance with law; When a school bus carrying underage students stops briefly on a public road, the vehicle behind should wait patiently ... A moderate tolerance of noisy babies and young children in public spaces is also a reflection of these social costs.
Moreover, this tolerance is not unconditional or bottomless. Public cultural places such as libraries, theaters, concert halls and many have special open areas for minors, or refuse to enter minors who are prone to noise, which is the necessary restriction imposed by social rules when the cost of tolerating children's nature is clearly beyond the scope of the public interest—if it is impossible to prevent children from suddenly crying and interrupting a concert performance, the best way is to restrict children's entry.
In fact, the contradiction of the so-called "child misogy" occurs more in the case of "having to". In today's normalization of social mobility and migration, it is of course natural for parents to take their children to take high-speed trains and planes, and the quiet atmosphere that high-speed rail has always advocated seems to be incompatible with the characteristics of children, and this contradiction will be intensified and amplified at a specific time and space.
As an article in New Weekly titled "The hat of 'child misogy', young people don't recognize" said: "Blindly applying traditional concepts to accuse young people of selfishness, and linking young people's unmarried and infertile feelings with 'misogynism', will only increase hostility and anger and cover up the essence of the problem - after just a few decades of rapid development, cities seem to be unable to accommodate the needs of different groups of people, so there is a mutual crowding of space." ”
The solution offered in this article is not new, but it goes straight to the root: "Building a child-friendly and mother-friendly social space does not rely solely on the self-moral constraints of other members of society, but also requires an inclusive and convenient parenting environment." ”
A more child-friendly society requires the support and tolerance of every member of society, and also depends on practical input. Specific to the issue of "bear children" taking high-speed trains, the proposal to set up "children's carriages" and "mother and baby carriages" has risen again. These proposals are not unrealistic imaginations, but the real experience of developed countries such as Switzerland and Finland. These "children's carriages" not only provide a seating space dedicated to families with children, but also set up humanized facilities such as children's playrooms and baby changing tables.
More civilized than "no children" is to explore a space that "encourages children to release their nature", so that social groups with different needs can get along. From this point of view, the so-called "child misogy" of many people is not disgusted with innocent children, but does not fully realize a child-friendly social environment.
Source: China Youth Daily client