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I believe that every parent will feel extremely happy and excited to watch their children grow up healthily day by day, which not only represents the overflow and sublimation of life, but also indicates that their children will open the next chapter of life. Generally, ten to nineteen years old is considered to be the child's adolescence, and during this period, from the age of twelve to sixteen, the child's self-consciousness awakens very quickly, and the rebellious psychology is extremely strong, so this stage is called the "rebellious period".
Children in the rebellious period always feel that they have grown up, can be independent, do not like their parents to restrain them, in turn, they can not do without their parents, need to rely on their parents to live, they do not like the adults to cover all aspects, everything is taken care of, in their view, these insignificant care will only make them disgusted, feel long-winded, therefore, they began to confront their parents, and even more, will use their limbs to resist. This dilemma has caused them to be anxious and wandering physically and mentally, especially in terms of getting along with the opposite sex and emotionally. For example, should I make friends of the opposite sex? Does making friends of the opposite sex affect learning? How do you get along with friends of the opposite sex? How should I express my heart in the face of the person I like? How to grasp the scale of communication and so on.
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At this stage, once they have these thoughts, they will continue to be troubled, resulting in physical and mental exhaustion, lack of concentration, or difficulty sleeping and eating. As a parent of their own child at this stage, regardless of whether the child encounters these problems, he should remind himself of the cognition and confusion of adolescents about gender relations and emotional problems during this period.
Children in this period in the face of the opposite sex, in fact, they do not know how to express their hearts, often do some unexpected things to attract the attention of the other party, if rejected, they will be panicked and overwhelmed, for the sake of face, and even impulsively make wrong decisions, light will affect the future mentality, heavy involves the future of the future. Therefore, as a parent, how to correctly guide the emotional problems of children in the rebellious period is particularly important.
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If the child has made friends of the opposite sex, do not harshly accuse and stop, you know, this is a problem that everyone will experience at this age, but some children will not obviously touch, to try, but they also have more or less curiosity in their hearts, will not reject this kind of thing. At this time, parents can tell the child, "like a person, should accompany him (her) to grow up together, now your age, in addition to the premise of ensuring learning, the most important thing is to accompany each other, protect each other, because at this time if you make some irrational behavior, you can not pay the responsibility, the consequences or parents to bear, so do not live up to the expectations of teachers and parents, because once bad results are produced, it will also cause obstacles to your future growth path. There will also be trauma in your hearts for each other, do you want this result? Don't bet on your future, since you like him (her), you have to wait for him (her) to grow up, but also to wait for yourself to grow up, as long as you have persistence in your heart, what else can you do? ”
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Usually, our parents listen to the children to say the most words may be the "generation gap" two words, as parents, we are probably also brainwashed by these two words, think that there is indeed a "generation gap" between the child and the child, think that the child is adolescence, say what they do not like to listen, lazy to pay attention, think that after this period will be fine. But have you ever thought about it, some children are just your indifference, let him (her) feel the family's indifference and incomprehension of him, resulting in the child slowly developing a distance from the parents, so that the thoughts and behaviors gradually become more unscrupulous, and finally become unreasonable. In fact, as long as parents use more snacks, communicate with their children more, in addition to daily arrangements, pay more attention to their children's thoughts and psychological problems, like friends chatting, listen to their voices as much as possible, do not always interrupt their judgment and thoughts, impose on them Your opinion, because this will hit the child's desire to talk to you, especially in the opposite sex, do not hide and escape this problem. Since the child has already explored and contacted in this regard, as a parent, he should open his heart and explain the stakes to the child clearly. In the process of chatting with children, we must also remember to reduce the negative words of denial, rejection, contempt, ridicule, etc., and use more positive energy language of affirmation, encouragement, and appreciation, so that the child will feel that the parents understand him (her), and when they encounter something in the future, they will think of their parents for the first time, willing to communicate with you, and listen to opinions.
Children, is the future of a family, but also the future of the country, everyone hopes that their children can grow up healthily, whether it is physical or psychological, so we are parents, in the most ignorant and critical period of children, take more effort, accompany them to spend together, let them smoothly move towards a better future.
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