Most of the children in their lives will experience 3 "rebellious periods", the first is the rebellion period of 2-3-year-old children, the second is the rebellion period of children aged 7-9 years old, and the third is the adolescent rebellion period that many people are familiar with.
The biggest feature of children in the rebellious period is that they are difficult to manage. They have their own ideas, do not like to be disciplined, do not make things up, and often clench both fists of anger.
So in the face of the baby in the rebellious period, what can parents do to make the baby "obedient" without hurting the parent-child feelings? Before we figure this out, perhaps we must first understand what the rebellious baby is going through.
Rebellion may not be deliberately provocative
At the age of 2-3, the baby's brain ushered in another period of rapid development in life, and all kinds of strange ideas will emerge in the small brain, and they are full of curiosity and exploration of the external world.
At the same time, during this period, their self-consciousness began to germinate, and they liked to make their own decisions in everything.
When you see a hole in the ground, you can't help but want to reach in and find out; when you get a piece of paper, you can't help rubbing it around; when you see a new thing, you will study it curiously for half a day...
At this time, their behavior is completely dominated by strange ideas that suddenly arise in the small brain, and sometimes it is inevitable that people will feel a little "done", such as:
In the summer, you must wear plush slippers;
Don't let the TA touch the socket, the TA is dead or alive is to take the hand to poke;
You have to press the elevator yourself, otherwise you will cry and cry;
……
Every time at this time, I really want to beat them up and teach them how to behave.
Angry and angry, but there is really no need to be more real with the baby, because all this may not be out of their intentions.
Wearing wool slippers in the summer is not a deliberate troublemaker for children, but they are curious about plush slippers, simply want to wear them, feel the feeling of putting on the feet of plush slippers, and they have no concept of whether wool slippers should be worn in summer or winter.
They are not deliberately provoking their parents, but just exploring the world and knowing themselves in their own way.
What should I do with a rebellious child?
After figuring out the reason for the child's rebellion, the next time is to wrestle with them.
In the face of rebellious babies, "using strong" is the most undesirable method, because this is like putting pressure on the spring, and the harder you push the child, the stronger the confrontation will be.
Maybe we can try this idea: Ezhu Kegang.
Children grow up with their own ideas and hope to be able to solve problems by themselves, which is a good thing in Mommy's view. But the difficulty is that their ideas are not mature, and some behaviors may cause harm to themselves and those around them.
So what we have to do as parents is to support the child's ideas under the premise of ensuring safety and not causing trouble to others, so that the child can make his own decisions.
For example, if a child wants to wear plush slippers in the summer, it will neither cause trouble to others nor endanger the safety of the child, then simply let the child do it, when the heat is unbearable, he will understand the reason why it is not suitable for wearing plush slippers when it is hot.
For children who want to touch the socket such dangerous behavior, there is no doubt that we need to resolutely stop it, but we must also patiently explain the reasons to the child, otherwise it may stimulate their rebellious psychology, and the more you stop them, the more they want to do it.
Dealing with rebellious children requires more understanding, tolerance and patience, which is a leap forward in their growth path, although the posture may be a little clumsy, but the past is a gorgeous change.
As parents, the greatest support we can give them is love and companionship, as well as the right guidance.