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The two-year-old seems to have learned to rebel overnight, and his mother calls him: The baby has eaten. He would say, "No, I don't eat!" ”
Mom told her to wear a skirt, she wanted to wear pants, mom put pants on her, she wanted to wear a skirt!
In short, he is not doing what his parents tell him to do, that is, he is doing it against adults, which is what we call "terrible two-year-old", special rebellion!
Some parents will find their children, rebellion is particularly obvious, while some parents find that their children seem to be more well-behaved, not too rebellious.
And the parents of the child who are not rebellious can't help but be complacent, and they don't have to work so hard, because the child is more well-behaved and easier to bring.
As everyone knows, children who are "rebellious" from an early age have more advantages than "well-behaved" children when they grow up.
The rebellion of the child at the age of two is actually a good symbol, and the mother should not be bothered
(1) Children who rebel indicate that they have their own ideas and attitudes
Before the age of two, children can't even distinguish between "you and me", and they don't have their own independent thinking ability, and their parents can do whatever they want.
After the age of two, he began to slowly realize that he was an independent individual, that he wanted to be separated from his parents, that he wanted to have his own ideas and attitudes.
So by doing this rebellious thing against my parents, I've grown up and I'm an independent individual.
(2) The child's rebellion indicates that he has requirements for himself
The reason why children rebel is because the development of the mind exceeds the development of the body, and the imbalance between the body and mind is caused.
The child hopes to choose what to wear, but finds that if he does not follow the mother's choice to wear clothes, it is either too hot to go out, or it is easy to be bitten by mosquitoes, or it is not good-looking.
He also began to feel anxious inside, and it was this anxiety that prompted him to make himself stronger and bigger faster.
Studies have found that children who have the ability to resist in the first rebellious period are more likely to become people with independent personality, confident temperament and strong will when they grow up.
And those children who are overly repressed and well-behaved from an early age are more likely to be indecisive or stubbornly entangled in personality traits when they grow up.
Two-year-old children "rebellious" VS "well-behaved", the gap will become larger and larger when they grow up
★ Independent gaps
A rebellious child around the age of two, a child who has the support of his parents, will grow up to be more independent.
Because he slowly separated from his parents around the age of two, he knew that he was an independent individual and wanted to be able to accomplish everything on his own.
And children who are well-behaved from an early age will always be arranged by their parents and always be cared for by their parents, and these children will have worse independence when they grow up.
★ Confidence gaps
The child's rebellion began to rebel because of rebellion, and slowly he began to add his own thinking to his rebellion.
When a child learns to think independently from an early age, he will be more confident, and when he grows up, he will be able to show his confident temperament in work and study.
And children who have listened to their parents' arrangements since childhood, well-behaved children, and children who are only non-committal, are not confident enough when they grow up, feel that they can't do everything well, and hope to get help from others.
★ Gaps in endurance
The road to success is not crowded, because there are really not many people who can stick to it!
Most people have similar IQs, and in the end everyone fights for endurance.
Children who are more rebellious from an early age have stronger perseverance and more patience.
Children who behave more well from an early age and basically do not rebel are more likely to give up.
When your child always says "no," Mom and Dad are the right ones to do
First, understand the rebellious period of the child
Understanding that this is a necessary stage of the child's physical and mental development process, understanding nature will not always suppress the child.
Even the mother should feel happy and happy, after all, it means that her child has begun to build self-awareness, and the child is slowly becoming independent.
Second, respect the child
Why the child rebels is because he urgently needs to prove that he is an independent individual and prove that he is okay, so parents should respect the child more and understand more about the child's desire to express himself.
For example, take the child out, the child wants to go to the gate of the community, obviously the side door will be closer, if the time permits, take the child to the door is not harmful.
Third, learn to give your child multiple choice questions
The reason why children rebel is that they hope that they have the right to choose, and that the initiative is in their own hands.
Therefore, when parents give instructions to their children, they must not say what to do, do not do anything, but give their children a choice.
Do you take a shower now or do you take another 5 minutes? Do you eat rice or noodles? Do you go by foot or by car?
When the child is rebellious, do not rush to the fire, but should be full of heart, correctly accompany the child through the rebellious period, you will harvest an independent and confident and patient child.
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