As soon as the child enters the rebellious period, the parents begin to have headaches. Children who were obedient and well-behaved before have become grumpy and unwilling to communicate in the blink of an eye, and there is also a gap between them and their parents.
Why does this happen to children during rebellious periods? In fact, in the stage of the rebellious period, the child's independent consciousness and self-awareness will be enhanced, and all those who are eager to make their own decisions will also have doubts about some of the parents' answers, and parents still use some of the previous educational methods, naturally they will not be able to enter the child's heart and communicate effectively.
So how to communicate effectively during the child's rebellious period?
1. Don't go and command the child
Many parents love to order their children in their daily lives.
During the rebellious period of children, their self-awareness will increase and they will be eager to be treated as adults, so many children are reluctant to listen to their parents' orders. If parents force their children, they will trigger the child's disgust, which will cause rebellion. Parents can replace the command with communication, guidance and other ways during the child's rebellious period, so as not to trigger the child's rebellious psychology.
2. Learn to be friends with your children
The best way to communicate effectively with your child is not to treat him as a child, but to learn to be friends with them.
Being friends means: equality, respect, understanding and support, and that's what children need most! So when parents communicate with their children as friends, their children will feel very relaxed and willing to communicate with you.
3. Be more understanding and inclusive
The rebellious period is the only way for every child.
Parents have also experienced this period before, you can stand in the child's position to think about it, from the perspective of the person who came over to give the child some advice, help the child to eliminate negative emotions, understand and tolerate the child, and strengthen the parent-child relationship with the child.
4. Know how to listen to your child's voice
Don't easily deny it when your child expresses his or her thoughts.
Even if the ideas are different, do not rely on coercive means to let the child accept our views, let the child feel that it is normal to have differences of opinion, everyone can discuss peacefully, pay attention to protecting the child's self-esteem and self-confidence, and encourage the child to express his inner thoughts. When children have a sense of security in their hearts, they will open the door of communication and be willing to accept the opinions and suggestions of their parents.
When the child enters the rebellious period, parents must pay attention to their own educational methods, use correct and effective communication methods to help the child go through this period, do not use the wrong communication method, and make the child's rebellion more serious.
The above is the article brought to you today, if parents feel that it is helpful in educating their children, please share it with friends who are also in need, and we will escort the growth of children together.
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