As the saying goes, don't fool young people into being poor. But when you are most helpless and helpless, others often bully you poor.
Although many mothers-in-law, the more they look at the son-in-law, the more they like it. But there is a reason why the mother-in-law treats her son-in-law well, that is, she hopes that the son-in-law can treat her daughter kindly. This is also why the relationship and affection between the vast majority of mother-in-law and son-in-law are relatively good.
However, there are also some mother-in-law and son-in-law relationship, which is relatively cold. It is not that the son-in-law's character is not good, but that the son-in-law is poor and thin, and the mother-in-law can't look up to her.
01, the mother-in-law hated the son-in-law's family and encouraged her daughter to divorce
Gao Ming is a poor boy from the countryside, but he meets the wife of the only daughter in the city. The two sides fell in love at first sight, coupled with Gao Ming's active confession, so that the wife finally agreed to be his girlfriend.
However, the marriage between Gao Ming and his wife has always been opposed by his parents-in-law. In the view of the mother-in-law, although Gao Ming has a good character, he is also diligent and enterprising, and his future development potential is good, but the original family behind Gao Ming is too poor to be worthy of his baby daughter.
Under the obstruction of his mother-in-law, Gao Ming almost parted ways with his wife, and later his wife insisted on marrying him despite her parents' objections, and the two people were happily married.
But even though Gao Ming became a righteous son-in-law, the mother-in-law's attitude towards him did not improve. He always talks about his family situation, and from time to time sneers in front of his daughter, saying that Gao Ming is not worthy of his daughter.
For the sake of his wife, Gao Ming had to bow his head, follow his mother-in-law in everything, and do his best to please his mother-in-law. Although his economy is average, Gao Ming is very willing to spend money for his mother-in-law. During the New Year's Festival, gifts and red envelopes are absolutely indispensable, and he is not so filial to his parents.
When the couple's relationship was still good, Gao Ming also endured the noise of his mother-in-law. But as his mother-in-law stirred up dissension from it several times and three times, Gao Ming was also disgusted in his heart. Just for his wife, he had to swallow his anger.
02. The mother-in-law advocates changing the child's surname without authorization
With the birth of the child, the relationship between the couple is somewhat strained. Because the mother-in-law rightly asked the child to take the surname of his wife, and the wife took into account Gao Ming's poor family situation and also obeyed the mother-in-law's arrangement.
Therefore, without Gao Ming's knowledge, the mother-in-law advocated changing the child's surname without authorization, and also put the hukou to their home, which greatly hurt Gao Ming's self-esteem. The couple began to quarrel and contradict each other, and finally at the instigation of the mother-in-law, the wife resolutely proposed divorce.
Gao Ming repeatedly retained his wife without success, and finally agreed to divorce in frustration. After the divorce, the child followed his ex-wife, and he was discharged from the house. After that, Gao Ming was preoccupied with his work and no longer had the heart to pay attention to emotional matters.
Compared with Gao Ming's workaholic, the ex-wife has successively kissed several objects under the arrangement of the ex-mother-in-law. During this period, the ex-wife also remarried with a divorced man and almost got a license to remarry. But in the end, because the other party shot out to search for stinginess, the mother-in-law forcefully separated.
After separating, the ex-wife went on a blind date again, and the money conditions were good. But the other party is the kind of person who does not see the rabbit and does not spread the eagle, and he is not willing to pay more before he gets the reward. In the end, under the strong obstruction of the mother-in-law, the former wife's blind dates were gradually ruined.
Seeing that her daughter was being picked and chosen one after another, the former mother-in-law had to be anxious. After half a year of divorce, she resolutely brought her ex-wife to ask Gao Ming to remarry. Looking at his haggard and helpless ex-wife, Gao Ming was distressed and sad.
03, the mother-in-law proposed to remarry: only you are most willing to give money
As soon as the mother-in-law saw Gao Ming, she was still on her toes and did not change in the slightest. Because in her opinion, even if she is divorced, Gao Ming is still the poor boy, still unworthy of his daughter. If it weren't for the daughter picking and choosing and not being able to find a suitable marriage partner, she would not compromise.
Gao Ming was somewhat indifferent to his mother-in-law's request to remarry. Because he and his ex-wife are too sad, obviously their marriage and family, but they have to be controlled by their mother-in-law to death, saying that divorce is divorce, and remarriage is remarriage.
Gao Ming was speechless, and he hoped that his ex-wife would take a stand and even take the initiative to get rid of the control of her parents. After all, the marriage of an adult should be decided by oneself. But the ex-wife still said that for the sake of the children, let's remarry, and my parents also hope that we can remarry.
Seeing that his ex-wife still had such an attitude, Gao Ming was a little excited. He refused to remarry, saying he asked his ex-wife to figure out what he really wanted before deciding whether to remarry.
Hearing that Gao Ming actually refused to remarry, the mother-in-law was anxious at once, and inadvertently said the truth: After so many men on blind dates, only you are willing to give money and be willing to honor our second elder, if you don't look at this point, do you think I am willing to let my daughter remarry with you, a poor boy?
The words of the mother-in-law made Gao Ming's heart even more unpleasant. It turned out that the decision to remarry was made by the mother-in-law after comparison and weighing the pros and cons, and it was not at all the ex-wife's decision to wake up and rebel against her parents.
Gao Ming refused and drove away his mother-in-law and ex-wife. It's not that he doesn't want to remarry, it's that he doesn't want to put his marriage in the hands of others. But the ex-wife is a foolish filial piety, and she listens to what her parents say, and she has no opinion of her own. Even if they remarry in a hurry, the ex-wife is still the norm, without the slightest change.
Today's Topic:
Do you think Gao Ming should still remarry his ex-wife?