These 5 sentences, the more you say that the child will be happier in the future, and the parents with high emotional intelligence will achieve the child's life
Cultivating a child's sense of well-being is a very important thing
A child who lacks happiness must be full of desolation in his heart, and it is difficult to feel the temperature of the world
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Some people say that happy people are all similar, but unfortunate people have their own misfortunes
In life, it is not difficult for us to find
Those who live well, are happy in marriage and family, they often have one thing in common
That is, in them, there is a very strong sense of happiness
And most people, the reason why happiness is strong
In large part, it is because, in their childhood, their parents gave them plenty of love and care
As a parent, if you want your child to live a full life of happiness, you must cultivate his happiness from an early age
Let his heart become plump, only when the child's heart is satisfied, he will have self-confidence
At the same time, it can also accept their shortcomings and deficiencies well
Therefore, when he grows up, he can not be arrogant and impatient, and feel and cherish everything he has
When the ups and downs of life come, he has the courage to fight, to face, to overcome all obstacles and difficulties
Persevere in your fight for yourself and your loved ones
Such a child will be happy and happy in his life
So, how to cultivate a child's sense of well-being?
In fact, if you want to make your child feel happy, it is very simple
As long as parents have a little more companionship and love in their daily lives, children will naturally feel happy
Generally speaking, parents often say the following words, and children will become happier and happier
Be sure to take a look at it when you're a parent
01
"Mom/Dad Loves You Forever"
No matter at any time, the love of parents for their children will always be the greatest courage and confidence in the hearts of children
If a child often hears his parents say I love you, he will feel full of security in his heart
The value of the self will become more and more affirmed
In life, many parents are ashamed to express their emotions
Even some parents often intimidate and threaten their children because their children make mistakes
Always say it to them
"If you do this again, I don't love you anymore."
"Look how well-behaved my brother/sister is, I don't love you anymore"
As everyone knows, such an education method will only make children more and more inferior, and their inner happiness will become lower and lower
Thus laying hidden dangers for their future
Good parents know how to express their love correctly and positively
Tell your child" that "I will always love you" so that your child knows
No matter what he looks like, no matter what he does, his parents will always be his backing and confidence
02
"Be yourself"
Under what circumstances are people most comfortable and happiest?
I think it should be a time for a person to take off the disguise, remove all the defenses, and return to the original self
To put it simply, a person is happiest only if he is calmly himself
There are many parents in life who habitually compare their children with others
Raise your face to their ears
"You give me a point of contention, you see how hard other people's children work"
"Every day you know to play, others have full marks on the exam, what about you"
However, such a statement, the child listened to it for a long time
The heart will unconsciously produce inferiority, and a person with inferiority will naturally find it difficult to feel happiness
As a parent, please remember that a person with a strong sense of happiness
The first is to learn to be yourself
In the process of children's growth, we must find more of children's shining points
Encourage him, praise him, tell him to "be yourself"
In this way, in the future life, the child will not be arrogant and impatient, and live a calm and happy life
03
"I know you're careful, it's okay"
Scenes like this are often seen
The child does not do well in the test once, or does not perform well enough
Parents are furious, either blaming their children or scolding them
But it completely ignores the child's long-term efforts and efforts
As a person with life experience, we should understand
Not all efforts will be successful, and not all efforts will have a perfect result
Many times, things often backfire
More often, success requires a long period of accumulation
A child is always grinding and grinding, and you patiently educate several times
The child still does not change much, at this time do not urge him vigorously
Tell him "I know you're careful, it's okay, you take your time"
Over time, the child will become more and more progressive
This exam did not do well, tell him "I know you are careful, keep working hard"
Next time maybe the kids will catch up
Conversely, if you completely ignore your child's efforts and efforts, you only value the results
Then the child will be hit and will be full of frustration
When he grows up, he will also become only looking for results and unable to experience the beauty of the process
Thus becoming a person with a lack of happiness
04
"I see you can"
The other day I took my son downstairs to play
Just happened to meet a few children there playing "123 Wooden Man"
One of the older children came and invited his son to play with him
But the son refused
I was puzzled and asked him, "Why don't you go play?"
He told me about the results
"I'm not as big as them, I can't run fast, I can't do it"
So I told him
"I see you can do it, you go to try it is not good"
Later, my son had a lot of fun with a few of the kids and told me when he got home
"Mom, I'm so happy today."
Many times, children will have a little timidity and inferiority in their hearts
As parents, we must always encourage him and tell him "I see you can"
Only in this way will children become more and more courageous and full of strength in the face of life's challenges
And in one challenge after another, the child naturally gets a full sense of happiness
05
"You deserve it"
I have a friend who grew up with his parents doing business, and his family is relatively wealthy
But his parents were very harsh on him, always telling him to be frugal, and it was not easy for his parents to make money
When he was in middle school, other classmates spent 20 yuan a week for pocket money, and his parents only gave him 5 yuan
After entering the university, other students had smart phones, he was soft and hard, and his father bought him a copycat machine of several hundred pieces
As a result, he was very inferior in his heart and always felt that he was not worthy
It is not worth it, it is afraid to do things, and it is also very stingy to cut the door
When I meet a girl I like, I don't dare to chase it, and my friends around me are married, and he doesn't have a girlfriend yet
The year before, he finally got married, but because he was too picky and too harsh on his wife
Not long after the marriage, the other party filed for divorce
Thriftiness and thrift are certainly a virtue, but they are excessively harsh children
It will only make children become inferior and have a distorted personality, which will hinder them from achieving happiness
As parents, we must establish a correct attitude towards life
Strive to create a stable, safe and beautiful living environment for children
Let him know that he deserves it, that he deserves it
06
The love of parents is the greatest confidence of children in this life
Raising a child full of happiness is inseparable from the care and love of parents
For children, every move, word and deed of their parents will have a decisive impact on their hearts
As parents, we must let our children understand, no matter what he looks like
No matter what he did, his parents would always love him and would always be by his side
His efforts, we can see
His helplessness, we feel, and deeply understand
No matter how big the wind and rain in this world, no matter how difficult things are, we will accompany him to face them
There are so many beautiful things, be sure to try more
Remember that making children feel happy is the best parenting for their children and the biggest gift for their growth