The second time I saw Xiao A was half a year later, which was a new semester when she was sent back to her grandparents' home by her parents due to the epidemic. Every time I go to pick up my baby from school, I can't ignore The look in Little A's eyes that is completely different from the children around me.
Little A is the baby's classmate, but also the daughter of my girlfriend for decades, we are pregnant almost at the same time, giving birth at the same time, but after the end of maternity leave, she chose a completely different path of life, she was ready to quickly return to the workplace, and I resigned quickly without hesitation and became a full-time mother. Perhaps from that day on, not only is it destined that our two adults will change from once similar to completely different, but the two children will also embark on a life with different backgrounds.
I have a long companion with the child, contact and talk about the child about the family, she returned to the workplace, the child was placed in the hometown for the elderly to raise, the child is like a guest of her life, every party always makes me feel as if she has never had children, because she still works as before, and rarely mentions children.
She was very engaged in the conversation, and I listened to it with great interest, but in stark contrast to this trip was my concern for her baby.
The child is very small, and he still does not understand why his parents cannot stay by his side to accompany him, but it is also such a small body, but he has long understood the pain of separation and the wound of loneliness. Every time after school, when the children pulled the little train out, I never saw expectation in the eyes of Xiao A, never saw joy, she quietly looked at the parents waiting outside the door like an adult who was already familiar with the world, the loneliness in her eyes made people can't help but feel pain, when other children chirped to their mothers, I think she also wanted to shout out loud, but no one gave her such a chance. Only once, because Mom and Dad's company put a day off in advance, so that they could rush back to their hometown on Friday, the first time to pick up the baby from school, that time Little A's grandmother quietly told me that Little A was happy for a long time, and said a sentence that made me unforgettable to this day: "I also have my parents to pick me up from school!" ”
Maybe it's because I'm a girlfriend's child, maybe it's because I have a child of the same size, so I can't ignore the shock and feeling that this child brings to me, so every time I call her name after school and then call my baby's name, I don't know if such a small gesture will bring a little warmth to the child, but from the small face of her smiling and replying to "Auntie" every time I can see that at least she still has an expectant heart, so it is good.
The child's situation, the girlfriend naturally knows, but with countless parents who turn their children into left-behind children, they are faced with the cliché of "accompanying you can't make money", she has also tried to take Xiao A to the city where she works, that half a year I think it should be the happiest time for this 4-year-old baby, although it was sent to kindergarten by mom and dad early in the morning, picked up by the nanny in the afternoon, until 8 o'clock to see the mom and dad who came home after a day of work. But no matter how late the baby's expectations in his heart at least every day can be achieved time, that half a year me and girlfriend video, the side of the little A can feel the obvious change, her tone, her expression, her body movements are telling the real sense of happiness around the parents.
Without the company of love, even the best material conditions cannot make children feel happy.
Too many parents are always defining their children's values with their own values, never asking their children what they want most. The child's world is simple and unique, and the parents are their only ones.
Too many parents in the work and children between the sorting logic is always "how can I work well and take care of the child at the same time", but few parents put this logic in order, that is, "how can I take care of the child at the same time can have a decent income", the child does not need a lot of money, they just need the minimum material security, but the love they need is full of stability.
I hope that more parents will not only think about their own efforts and ignore the sacrifices their children have made for you. You don't know how much your child loves you!