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I had heard many people admire the book "Meditations" before, and when I got the book and read it, I couldn't believe that it was a work from eighteen hundred years ago. The author of this book is an emperor of ancient Rome, Max. Aurelius, this book is also the last important text of ancient Roman Stoyan philosophy, but the author is not discussing the philosophical content in the book, but reflecting, and the author is more of a moral enthusiasm.
As mr. Liang Shiqiu, the translator of this book, said: "This Kuangdaiqi man of 1,800 years ago inadvertently left us this "Meditations", through which we can imagine him as a person, peek into his heart, and thus have some understanding of the way of treating others with self-discipline, which has to be said to be one of the treasures of the world." The book is also known as the "Book of the World" and is one of the few books that have had a huge impact around the world.
The title "Meditations" was added by later generations, and the author originally wrote this book not to pass it on, but only to record his dialogue with his own soul, which we can see from the words and sentences Chinese the book.
Many of the ideas in the book are not so much opinions as a motto of wisdom, and from the words of this sage we can see the four virtues advocated in the philosophical thought of the Stoa school: wisdom, justice, bravery, and moderation. If a person's life is realized in the practice of these four virtues, then the life he gains may not be just for all sentient beings.
On the other hand, many modern people around us are anxious, confused, conformist, lost, most of the reality is to investigate the root cause, most of them have lost themselves, forgetting what they have pursued in life, so that people are cloudy and flustered their own hearts. Many times the way to solve problems is to return to the heart, figure out what the heart wants and your own beliefs, and reshape the simplicity and firmness of the heart, so that many problems will be solved. As Aurelius said, "Do things outside your body bother you?" Sneak around and learn some good things, and don't be distracted by foreign objects anymore. But beware of falling into another kind of mistake. Lifelong hard pursuit, and aimless, every impulse and even every thought is lost, those people are also boring people. ”
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When Xiao A just graduated, he knew early in the workplace that he could not casually offend people in the workplace, and he should be gregarious among colleagues, so one of the purposes that Xiao A pursued after graduation was that if others asked for him, even if it was difficult, Xiao A would even sacrifice his own interests and time to help others, just like the ancients said, going out and relying on friends.
As Little A wishes, after graduation, I really met such a person, perhaps because of the similar age, so it is easier to get closer to each other. In this process, no matter what the other party asks, Xiao A will die to accompany others, complete others, but wronged himself, after all, some things are not things that Xiao A is interested in. At that time, Little A's idea was, shouldn't this be the case between people? Even some problems in the other family's small A are trying to help deal with it.
Xiao A thinks that if he has done this, he must also gain a friend who has made a heart. As Aurelius said, "Whatever you do, don't be in a position of disobedience, selfishness, recklessness, or coercion." "Maybe the purpose of Little A itself is not to be in the direction of the heart, but to make a friend, and there is some reluctance in the middle rather than willingness, so what happened later, Little A could not accept it for a long time, and even at a certain moment there was a collapse of faith.
Later, one day, Xiao A had something to go out of the door, needed this colleague to help, a matter that everyone thought was a show of hands, although the colleague agreed in his mouth, but asked Xiao A to report this matter to the leader and return the 5 yuan subsidy to him. At that moment, Little A was blinded, and once thought that he had heard wrongly, but he did it. Little A once consoled himself that it was also right to give him this subsidy.
Unexpectedly, this is the beginning of the matter, and all kinds of work that happened later, Xiao A finally broke out in an incident in which the other party had to fight for interests. As Aurelius said, "It is very difficult for a person to be unhappy if he does not care what is going on in the minds of others; but he must be unhappy if he does not pay close attention to the activity of his own mind." "Once Little A was too concerned about the things in other people's hearts and ignored the truest feelings in his heart, so he had so much unhappiness later."
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When we are young, we always want to be social, to make friends in the world, and to make ourselves a popular person. Therefore, we began to slowly operate the so-called network, always thinking that now pay a little more, in the future we have to have something wrong, we can also have "one side has difficult eight parties to support," but forget that the most precious thing in this world is "sincerity, simplicity".
Ole wrote in his Meditations that "do not waste your remnants of your life to think about other people's affairs unless you can relate those dreams to a common goal." Because that's really delaying you from doing something else. Later, Little A also understood the location of all these symptoms after a long period of reflection. The fate of all things in the world is a natural way, and it can only be developed in accordance with its own laws for a long time. And whether a person's life is good or not depends not on how good the external conditions are, not in how many friends you have made, not in how much good name you have gained, but in taking care of your own heart.
And on this point, some people may ask, what to do is to take care of their own heart? Personally, I think we can work hard from the following aspects:
First, pay close attention to the changes in various experiences of your own soul, take the initiative to participate in various practices in life, pay less attention to other people's affairs, and have your own right and wrong judgment standards for all things around you;
Second, if possible, finding your own faith, of course, does not have to be a religious belief, as long as it is healthy, positive, and gives you strength.
Third, for what you want to do, no matter how others talk about it, you must do your best to do it the best. When you spend your mind on this thing, what you gain is the simplicity of focusing on it.
Live your day well, and make your last day your life. Although for the universe, our lives are just swept away like comets, we can still enjoy the fun and value of being human.
Fifth, be happy, if you have a pursuit, take the initiative to fight, do not expect others to give.
Sixth, always pay attention to your own heart, do not go with the flow, and do not want people to follow the clouds.
When you re-establish your own life mechanism from your heart, you will not pin your joys and sorrows on the outside people and things. Slowly, our mindset will change with it. Perhaps, under such an attempt, we will all meet a better version of ourselves.