Leo's love and hatred are clear, and for the lion's feelings, it is actually not a good thing.
For example, let's say the lion has two classmates, a small A and a small B.
One day, the lion heard Little A spitting on Little B. Suppose, the lion has a better relationship with Little A than Little B. The lion will feel, "This little B is really not likable, how can everyone hate him." "Suppose, the lion has a better relationship with Little B than Little A." The lion will feel, "This little A is really not a good character, how can he always say bad things about people behind his back." "Leo's love-hate distinction is actually more of a preconceived way of thinking.
It is based on the original feelings, with colored glasses to judge the facts of the moment.
To put it bluntly, it is difficult for lions to remain objective and impartial. Leo friends (though he himself always feels impartial) Leo friends may be tempted to hear this, "Why isn't this a good thing?" Is there anything wrong with hating bad guys and being biased against bad guys? "Jealousy is not a bad thing, but it is bad in the way lions judge good people and bad people." I feel like you're a good guy and I'll trust you until you hurt me and I don't realize you're a bad guy. ”
"I think you're a bad person, I don't trust you, until you helped me change my mind, I found out that you are a good person." 」
After stepping into society, when trying to stabilize a relationship, this personality will make lions suffer countless losses. Whether it is blind trust or unwarranted distrust, this is the main reason why lions are easy to get on the head, easy to be impulsive, and easy to be emotional. For example, this should be something that most lions have experienced.
A Leo with no experience in love is in love, and he trusts each other extremely much at the beginning, gives himself to each other without reservation, and gives each other all his love.
It turns out that the other party does not love himself as much as he loves him, so he feels that the other party is deceiving himself, hurting himself, and will feel that he is a bad person. In the next relationship, they will continue to doubt each other, constantly lose control of their emotions because they doubt each other, say strange things, and make each other confused. Then you don't feel that the other party is confused because you are strange, but you feel that the other party doesn't understand yourself at all... It made both people tired. When the lion is completely desperate and the heart falls to the bottom of the sea, the other party will give a little good and warmth and can't help but be soft, feel that he is too much, and then defend the other party, thinking that the other party is a good person, and he is a bad person. So he couldn't help but be humble, bowed his head, completely trusted the other party, and handed himself over to the other party without reservation... Until the feelings are completely worn out in the process.
To put it bluntly, whether you lion admit it or not, the vast majority of lions' first love should be like this. Even some lions in their twenties and thirties will still be like this... There may be forty or fifty still like this.
While this is not a bad thing, the lion of pain in it certainly knows better than I do.
What I want to say is not how to change such a character, after all, it is not Leo that can be changed. What I want to express is that there is not so much right and wrong in this world, just as people in this world are not distinguished by good and bad. The first step in Leo's maturity is to let go of your subjectivity.
People who are either bad to you are bad people, and people who are good to you are good people, because the point of most people's behavior in the world is interests, and they are all right things and wrong people. Don't take your feelings so seriously, you will naturally be able to better control your emotions. It's certainly right to be bad to be good to bad people and good to good people.
But don't easily define who is a good person and who is a bad person, which is the direction of the lion's cultivation. Is it wrong to be emotionally deep? Is it wrong to be jealous as hateful? Because of a misunderstanding, constantly comparing the truth, having to fight for a right or wrong, hurting the people who love you and you love, this is wrong.
Because of their own obsession, it is even more wrong to be emotional about a person who has no future, to constantly move themselves and hurt themselves. Deep feelings are not wrong, and people who are right and wrong have deep feelings are wrong.
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