Florence Isaacs said, "The long-term basis of marriage is that two people have obligations to each other." ”
A marriage is like a practice, some couples part ways halfway, and even turn against each other, some couples are torturing each other, getting more and more awkward, and some couples are as sweet as ever, still loving.
Obviously, the marriage that many people yearn for should be the third kind, which is both happy and long-term sweet, but in reality, there are still some couples who live their marriages badly and badly.
Nana (pseudonym), whose household registration in Yangquan is 38 years old, her family's economic conditions are very bad, and she also owes a lot of foreign debts, but she herself is an arrogant lord, and has been staying in Taiyuan to work after graduating from college, trying to live a better life with her own efforts.
However, contrary to her wishes, Nana did not fight a good life that belonged to her, but instead lived a ten-year part-time life with exhaustion, and because of her low eye skills, in the end, she also lost her job, ten years later, half of her savings, helpless, she could only leave the bustling city in front of her, but Nana was unwilling, one was that she was pretentious, and the other was unwilling to return to her hometown and live a hard life at a glance.
In fact, Nana's heart to live a high-quality life is understandable, but her next approach is difficult to agree, in order to stay in Taiyuan, Nana chose to sell her marriage, by marrying locals, to achieve her dream of staying in the big city.
Subsequently, Nana met a man who was 15 years older than himself and had been divorced once, named Zhao Jun (pseudonym), in the eyes of the other party, it was his own blessing to have such a young girl who was so many years younger than himself and was still married for the first time, which was really his own blessing, so he did not care whether Nana had any purpose, but firmly told himself that he must love Nana well after marriage.
The two talked about love for two years, during which Zhao Jun basically responded to Nana's needs, and Nana was completely spoiled as a little princess.
In 2014, Nana agreed to marry Zhao Jun, the two walked into the wedding hall hand in hand, at first, the married life of the two was indeed particularly sweet, Nana also seemed to get the life she wanted, stable and comfortable, there was no need to worry about economic problems, and there was a Taiyuan hukou that he had always wanted, and the man was also very satisfied, and he always wanted to spoil a little wife in life.
In this way, the two happily walked through 7 years of marriage, however, perhaps fulfilling the old saying "seven-year itch", Nana began to be dissatisfied with the marriage and moved the idea of divorce.
Subsequently, Nana said the unknown marriage situation, she said that her marriage with Zhao Jun was not favored by both parents from the beginning, going out, and often people mistakenly believed that they were father and daughter, and this was quite embarrassing for Nana, who loved face, and what made her even more unacceptable was that when she and her husband walked to the street, there would be a person pointing behind her back, saying that she was a little third.
One embarrassing hat after another slammed on Nana's head, and gradually, she began to be dissatisfied with the marriage, and even attributed all the faults to her husband, who thought that if her husband were not so many years older than herself, the two looked too far apart and would not have so many different eyes, so she wanted to divorce him.
However, the 53-year-old husband is not willing to divorce his little wife, first, he does not have the energy to find another person to marry, and second, he thinks that he has paid too much for Nana, so although he knows that the gap between the two is very large, he does not want to let go.
Zhao Jun said bluntly that if Nana hadn't been able to find a job and nowhere to go, maybe she wouldn't have looked up to herself, but because of this, after the two got married, even if Nana never worked a day," he was willing to raise her.
Subsequently, in order to keep his little wife, Zhao Jun almost exaggerated Nana out of a flower, first saying that although Nana did not work, she was like a snail girl, doing housework at home, and then saying that Nana's cooking was particularly delicious.
Listening to her husband's kind words, Nana looked indifferent, and even said that she was doing housework in the previous years, but she didn't do it at all in the next few years, and then, Nana said that the reason why I didn't go to work was because if I could earn money and do all the housework, why did I find such a person to marry? It was his blessing to marry me!
Obviously, the other in the eyes of the two couples is completely different, the wife in Zhao Jun's eyes is gentle and capable, empathetic, and the husband in Nana's eyes is a tool person found in his own transition period, although Zhao Jun should also realize why Nana will marry himself, but he is still willing to pay without any reservations, presumably this is a willing to fight a wish.
In the face of her husband's maintenance, Nana accepted it with peace of mind, and continued to target her husband, first saying that the second aunt of the husband's family did not accept herself, and insulted herself that year, and then said that the age difference between the two was too much, and when she participated in the classmates' association, she was embarrassed to take her husband, afraid that her classmates would ask her if this was her father.
Listening to his wife's words, Zhao Jun quickly explained that when he divorced, the family did not know, and he did not think of how to tell the family about this matter, so this matter has been delayed, and later, after knowing Nana, the two have been in contact for a certain period of time, he thinks that he can introduce Nana to the family, and confess the fact that he has long been divorced.
But who ever thought that something went wrong during the period, Zhao Jun's second aunt misunderstood Nana, although later, Zhao Jun hurried to explain, and the second aunt also expressed apologies, but Nana has always been grumpy about this matter.
As for his wife's reluctance to take herself to a classmate party, Zhao Jun also said that he could understand, although he was still a little uncomfortable in his heart, but he thought that as a man, he could not let his wife be wronged, so he never mentioned going to the classmates association with his wife.
Hearing her husband's explanation, Nana completely ignored it, still told the reporter about her grievances, and even said many times that it was a pity that such a cultured person as herself married Zhao Jun.
The marriage between the two is a matter of their own choice, when they first agreed to marry Zhao Jun, no one forced Nana, but now, Nana shows a "very wronged" look, to tell the truth, some people can not agree.
Moreover, after Zhao Jun got married, he did not urge Nana to find a job, nor did he have any bad behavior towards Nana, but instead spoiled the other party to heaven, and gave his salary to Nana, and also helped Nana's mother's family pay off a certain amount of foreign debt.
Perhaps from Nana's point of view, having a college degree, marrying a man who has no culture and is 15 years older than himself is really too wronged, but from the perspective of a normal person, the root of all this is that Nana does not know enough, of course, it is also related to Zhao Jun's blind love for his wife.
It is undeniable that there is nothing wrong with a husband loving his wife, but once the wife is a person who does not know how to compare hearts to hearts, then this pampering will become the fuse of marriage breakdown.
Ousrous said: Whether a marriage can go on for a long time depends on two hearts that strive to get closer.
The reason why Nana and Zhao Jun's marriage has become like this, aside from various cumbersome reasons, the more fundamental reason may be that the two people's hearts have long been scattered.
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