As the saying goes: "People go high, water flows low." ”
Everyone wants to be able to live a good life, but the way to do so is different.
Some people rely on their own efforts to live a good life, and some people can't eat the hardships of life and think of various ways to find shortcuts and eventually make themselves live a good life.
Taking shortcuts may seem easy, but behind the ease comes a price.
For example, some women are not willing to struggle, and they want to use marriage as a shortcut, but can they really get married once and for all?
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The young wife does not go out to work, does not do housework at home, she says that she has culture, if she does everything, then what is the purpose of finding a husband?
Nana, 38, and Mr. Zhao, 53, are a 7-year-old couple. Today, she complains that the age difference between her and her husband is too big, some people think they are father and daughter, and some people think that she is the third child, so she wants to divorce.
Mr. Zhao is full of white hair, and the young Nana does look a little strange, he can't dye his hair, so walking together will be laughed at.
He is second married, and Nana is the first marriage, this relationship is not easy to come by, he is not willing to divorce.
Nana is a native of Yangcheng, the family conditions are not good and she still owes foreign debts, and she stayed in Taiyuan after graduating from college, but the days of working outside the home are very difficult, and she will marry Mr. Zhao, who is 15 years older than her and is married twice.
Nana has always thought that he is old, but her husband has not said a bad word about her, and praises her for being kind and pure, a rare person.
Mr. Zhao knew she was looking for him to marry without a job, but he didn't mind. He can still find a wife who is 15 years younger than him in his second marriage, and he is very content, so he will spoil her very much.
When he first got married, his feelings were not bad, Mr. Zhao felt that he had married a snail girl, and when he woke up, he found that his wife had made a table of dishes waiting for him. Unfortunately, after a long time, Nana changed.
Nana said that for the next two years, she did not do housework, it was all done by her husband, he had to earn money to support the family, and when he came back from work, he had to take on all the housework.
Nana was justified by not going to work, she said: "I will not go to work, if I can earn money, why should I want him?" ”
And Mr. Zhao still did not accuse his wife, his efforts are all because of love, after all, one is willing to fight and one is willing to be beaten.
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Nana complained that her husband's second aunt could not accept her and had been hoping that he would be reunited with his ex-wife. Mr. Zhao hurriedly took the responsibility.
He said that he did not do it right, and at that time, he was afraid that his parents would not accept it, so he concealed the fact of divorce and did not tell his parents until after falling in love with Nana. Later, after the parents cleared the misunderstanding, they accepted Nana and returned her thirty thousand yuan.
Nana continued to complain that she and her husband had a large age gap and couldn't even take him to class reunions, leaving her lonely. She likes a colorful life, while her husband likes a comfortable life, and the two often quarrel because of this.
Mr. Zhao reflected that he was working and doing housework, and his mentality was not adjusted, and he did not think about his wife, so he would quarrel.
Nana was aggrieved by her marriage, and the mediator said that her husband had paid so much for her that she should feel warm. Nana was a little touched, talking about the virtues of her husband.
It turned out that after the two got married, her husband helped her parents decorate the house and paid for her mother-in-law to pay off the foreign debt.
But during the mediation process, Nana also said that she would not get anything, and would not go to work, after all, she had culture, but was intimidated by the mediator: "If you don't have culture, you can go to work. What's the use of doing nothing with culture? ”
Finally, with the mediator's patient persuasion and taking the couple to learn ballroom dancing, Nana no longer seems to be asking for a divorce.
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Sentiment Analysis:
(1) After the choice, you have to bear the consequences
Nana has a college degree, but due to poor family conditions, she is not willing to work hard, and she still wants to settle in the city, so she will marry her husband who is 15 years older than her.
However, after marrying Mr. Zhao, she found that everything was different from what she imagined. At first, she felt that the man's hukou and economic conditions were more important, but after having these, she hoped that the other party was a man of the same age and had a common topic.
Because the husband has white hair and is older, every time they go out together, they will be misunderstood by others. Nana couldn't stand the strange eyes of others.
Because of the age difference between the two by 15 years, there is a generation gap between them and a lack of common topics, which is why Nana is lonely.
But this husband was chosen by herself, and since she wanted to take shortcuts through marriage, she had to pay some price, and all she complained about was the price she had to pay.
If her husband is not good to her, then it is understandable to want a divorce, the problem is that Mr. Zhao really spoils her too much, and he is not even willing to say a bad word.
(2) Old husbands and young wives also have to pay each other
Because Nana has the advantage of a high diploma and a small age, she accepts everything her husband's efforts calmly and feels taken for granted.
And Mr. Zhao willingly gave everything for his wife, he went to work during the day and went home at night to take care of all the housework, just like that, Nana was still not satisfied.
Not only that, he also helped his mother-in-law renovate the house and pay off the foreign debt. Seriously, in addition to the weakness of age, we can't find out what other deficiencies Mr. Zhao has.
Someone once said: the enemy of marriage is unilateral payment, a person's payment is always accompanied by hardship and grievances, a long time, there is always a time to erupt. So, the best way is to find a mode of getting along that suits each other, give to each other, and know gratitude, let love flow, and the marriage can remain fresh.
In marriage, a person's unilateral efforts, the relationship between husband and wife will definitely be unbalanced, and Nana's temper is probably the result of being spoiled by her husband.
Although Mr. Zhao is not complaining about anything now, the quarrel between the two people also means that he is beginning to feel tired. Nana should be grateful for everything her husband has done for her, not for taking everything he does for granted.
If she really wants a divorce, then no one can stop her, and I hope she thinks twice!
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