Text: Xi Xihuan
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I once saw such a story, a couple is very loving, two people started from scratch, survived the most difficult stage of the entrepreneurial period, originally thought that this will continue to love, after all, they have experienced the wind and rain together, but the final result is very ironic.
After the man has money, he begins to feel that his wife is not worthy of himself, and he forgets who tells him to persevere in the most difficult time, who is a woman's family alone to find a way to get back the payment that has been owed for a long time when he does not want to return the account.
During a client reception, the man met a young girl who made him feel full of vitality again, and the more he looked at his wife at home, the more unpleasant he became, and finally he simply filed for divorce.
In the face of the man's request, the wife did not say anything, nodded her head in agreement, because at that moment, she finally woke up to the fact that no matter how deep the feelings of husband and wife, do not easily do these things, otherwise it is easy to divorce.
01 Do not expose each other's short in front of others
The wife in the above article is very capable, although the man is ambitious, but it is easy to act impulsively and recklessly, sometimes an order looks like it is going to be negotiated, but because the man's temper is not controlled, it is finally lost.
However, women do not dislike men, but it is easy to talk about their husbands when they are partying with friends or family, so that he can restrain his temper later.
This matter was originally nothing, but the wife hoped that her husband would become better, but it was different in the man's ears, because he felt that he could not hang on to his face.
At the beginning, men will privately tell their wives after the party that in the future, no matter how he is good, that is, do not face others, but women do not think so, think that they are their own family or good friends, no one can think more, or do their own thing.
In the end, the man is completely disappointed in the woman, he feels that the wife always exposes his shortcomings in front of others, and does not leave any self-esteem for himself, that is, he does not really love himself.
But in fact? In fact, the feelings of two people were originally very deep, but because women did not care about men's feelings, unscrupulously said men's shortcomings in front of others, so that the feelings between the two people were negatively affected.
Whether it is a man or a woman, no matter how deep the feelings between husband and wife, you must understand that everyone has their own feelings, and you hope that the person you love knows how to protect his self-esteem and care about his feelings, rather than showing his embarrassing side to others at will, which will not only hurt his self-esteem, but also affect the feelings between two people.
In a truly lasting marriage, two people complete each other, use their own ability to protect each other, care for each other, so that it is meaningful two-way pay.
02 Question the other party at every turn
Whether it is marriage, or the relationship before marriage, the most important thing is mutual trust, if there is no basic trust, then the deepest feelings will be exhausted.
After getting married, the feelings of two people will undergo a series of changes, from the initial passion and interest to gradually transition to familiarity with each other, discover more shortcomings in each other, and thus begin to have impatient emotions.
Some couples can successfully get through this run-in period, but some couples allow this emotion to erode the feelings of two people, and even begin to doubt each other.
In fact, you may wish to think about it, when you doubt each other, you are actually doubting yourself, doubting your weight in the other person's heart, if you have enough security and believe that you are the other party's favorite, then you will not doubt the other party because of a small matter.
Friend Sun Xue is a very insecure woman, talked about several boyfriends, the other party can not stand her gains and losses, and finally chose to break up.
After getting married, Sun Xue knew that she should control her paranoia, but she really cared about her husband, whenever her husband worked overtime or traveled on business, she bombarded WeChat and the phone repeatedly, wanting to know who her husband was with, whether she was ambiguous with other women.
At the beginning, her husband patiently explained to her that he understood the hurt brought to her by Sun Xue's original family and made her feel insecure in her heart.
At that time, friends were still envious of Sun Xue, thinking that she had found the person she really loved, but then the man also began to feel tired, obviously at work, too busy to even eat, but also patiently explained to Sun Xue non-stop, a little impatience will make Sun Xue cry and make trouble, insisting that he has other women.
When her husband proposed divorce, Sun Xue couldn't believe her ears, although she doubted her husband, she always felt that the feelings between the two people were deep.
In fact, we must understand that no matter how deep the feelings, we can't help but constantly question, especially unfounded questions, this attitude hurts the partner's heart, and it will also make the feelings between the two people fall into an embarrassing situation for no reason, even if the misunderstanding is explained clearly, the rift cannot be repaired.
Believing in the other party is actually believing in yourself, you have to have enough confidence to run your marriage, which is the most needed positive energy in marriage.
03 The Cold War of Refusal to Communicate
When couples live a life, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions, whose life is not a place of chicken feathers accompanied by the bumps of pots and pans? This adds fireworks to the marriage and seems more real.
Some couples quarrel more, the more contradictory, but the deeper the understanding of each other, so as to become more tolerant and accepting of each other, marriage is naturally more and more happy, more lasting.
However, some couples once they have a disagreement, they choose to refuse to communicate, but the cold war, two people do not quarrel, but also do not communicate, in the end may be because of the child, or something that must be communicated, will be reconciled as before.
But reconciliation is true, but will it really be the same? The original incident was always in the throat, neither resolved, nor seriously discussed and analyzed by two people, so the differences have always been there, and have not been resolved.
When the contradiction accumulates to a certain extent, the deepest feelings between husband and wife will gradually disappear, and finally can only end in divorce.
Therefore, when there is a conflict between husband and wife, do not think about escaping, do not think of shirking responsibility, but must actively face and seek a solution, so that two people will love each other more.
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