Hemingwei said that a marriage without true love is the beginning of a person's fall.
Getting married is for two people to accompany each other, grow up together, and build a good life together.
However, there are always some marriages, which are beautiful at the beginning, but they deviate from the original intention while walking, and they can't even stick to it, and the two have to choose to break up.
Although divorce is not unusual today, one shot and two scatters, each life is happy, is the greatest relief for two unfortunate people.
However, it is easy to say, but the shadow brought by divorce is difficult to eliminate for a period of time, and even affects the life of some people.
Marriage is not happy, some people put their hopes on the next time they can meet the right person, but remarried will be able to be happy?
As the old saying goes, "the first marriage belongs to gold, and the second marriage belongs to grass", and remarried couples are not without obstacles.
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Xiao Li divorced because of the betrayal of her ex-husband, the lover's eyes can not tolerate sand, she is convinced that there will be the Nth time, so no one can dissuade her determination.
However, divorce is easy, but life after divorce still has to face reality. A woman with children, independent life has all kinds of difficulties, insisted on nearly 3 years of singleness, Xiao Li decided to remarry.
Before, she thought it was simple, thinking that finding an honest and reliable man would be good as long as she could treat herself and her daughter well.
But in fact, when I was really ready to remarry, I found that children were a big obstacle. Not only are children picky about each other, but the other party will also be picky about you with children, after all, who is willing to raise children for others?
When remarrying, you have to consider how your child feels and how well they fit in.
When many second-married families are reorganized, the first thing that comes to mind is not the feelings of the two people, but the child's acceptance of the new family. This has become the biggest headache for many remarried couples.
Even if both people look at each other, if the child can't pass the level, it will become an obstacle to remarriage.
There are also second marriages, the children accepted, and the two also reorganized the family, but in the process of getting along, because of the problem of children, there are many contradictions.
For example, you can't treat each other's children as if they were your own, and you can double standards on the issue of children on both sides... These will affect the feelings between remarried couples.
Therefore, remarriage needs to be cautious and not to put yourself in a passive state again because of impulsive choices.
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After watching a TV series, the male protagonist met a woman he liked after many years of divorce, and the two were about to conclude a relationship, and the male protagonist's ex-wife suddenly appeared with a child.
As a result, the ex-wife is either blocked in the middle of the night at home sewers, or the child suddenly falls ill and needs to be sent to the hospital, and even after being hospitalized, the ex-wife cannot take care of it, and she also needs her ex-husband to accompany her to manage the child.
The man had to take responsibility for his ex-wife and children, but his ambiguous attitude aroused the suspicion of the current one. Is it an old affair with an ex? Or do you just see yourself as a substitute?
The love of two people faces a new round of testing, and the woman even has a feeling that she is a third party, so that she has the idea of breaking up and does not want to be entangled in them anymore.
Couples who remarry sometimes find it difficult to be clear about the past, especially families who have children with their predecessors.
Because of the child's problem, the two sides need to communicate and meet, and even the child does not necessarily understand why the adults are separated, and secretly creates opportunities for them to reunite, and uses careful thinking about the restructured stepfather/mother.
At this time, it can be understood that the halfway couple is not so easy, after all, the second marriage is not as simple as the relationship when the first marriage, the most unfortunate is the dissatisfaction of the families of both sides.
When remarrying, constant entanglement with the ex, especially some people with a more cowardly personality, or dealing with things with mud and water, it is easy to bring too much harm to the current psychology.
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A netizen named Zhang Yan said in a private message that she remarried at the beginning of the year, and the two people simply received a certificate, because her husband said that he had no money, so he did not hold a wedding, and even the ring was not bought.
Zhang Yan and his ex have no children, and the marriage room is also the premarital property of the ex. After the divorce, she rented a two-bedroom house, and her income was about 10,000 yuan, and her life was still reasonable.
Her husband moved into her rental house, and she was responsible for the living expenses. Because her husband did the project, he didn't have much money in his hands for a while, and he and his ex-wife and a daughter followed his grandparents.
Zhang Yan said that she did not want her husband's money, as long as he treated himself sincerely, the two people could live a good life. So she doesn't care who spends her money in her daily life.
However, by chance, Zhang Yan found that her husband had actually bought a house and had already renovated the new real estate.
However, he never said it to her, and when he was questioned by Zhang Yan, he said that it was for his daughter and the protection of his children, which he promised his ex-wife.
Zhang Yan's heart suddenly cooled, and it turned out that her husband said that he had no money and no room, and he was hiding from her alone. All the money he earned went to his parents in case she could take advantage of him.
The second marriage couple has two skins, she used to hear people say that it was only a joke, but she didn't expect to finally understand it now.
She was bent on living a good life and planned to have a child with her husband that belonged to them, but she did not expect that from the beginning, he did not intend to confide in her.
Remarried couples, if they hide from each other financially, can only be regarded as partners to live together. There is no deep emotional foundation, and it is not certain that it will be dispersed one day.
Marriage is not easy, remarriage is even more difficult.
Wenger Jolly said in The Law of Happy Marriages that even the happiest marriages in the world will have 200 thoughts of divorce and 50 times of strangling each other in their lifetime.
No one's marriage is smooth sailing, two people come together, to cherish this rare fate, do not easily lose each other because of their own faults.
Be calm when encountering things, and don't say the word "divorce" without moving. But if you really can't go on, there is no need to repeatedly seek perfection, but to think about the way out in the future.
The misfortune of a marriage does not mean that a life is full of twists and turns. Remarriage is not necessarily unfortunate, the focus is still on personal management. Life after divorce is just another cultivation.
When you regain your self-confidence and train yourself to be indestructible, I believe that you will not put the rest of your life on another person.
At that point, you will be truly happy.
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