It is said that marriage is the second reincarnation of a woman, and what kind of man she marries will live what kind of life she lives.
Because marriage is a win-win situation, husband and wife are a community of interests, and the happiness threshold is closely related to men.
When in love, people are not clear, and when they get married, they find that men are extremely selfish people, and the only thing they can bring is pain.
Although selfishness is one of the characteristics of human nature, everyone has more or less, but the extremely selfish person, he only sees himself, because he is good at disguise in getting along, many women do not find the problem until they are eaten dry and wiped clean.
Jane says she once thought she had true love, only to find out that she was being used as a fertility machine.
She and her husband were introduced by others to marry, they both worked in the same circle, they were both accidentally miscarried after marriage, and they were divorced after 6 years of conditioning, because her husband said that his family could not be without a queen, and he could not see the hope of having a son.
After being divorced, she was depressed twice, and only after being guided and cared for by relatives and friends did she have the courage to start again.
Only when she re-worked did she know that her ex-husband had blamed the reasons for the divorce on her, saying that she worshiped gold and was too materialistic, and he chose divorce under great pressure.
Soon, her classmates introduced a man, confirmed the relationship after meeting, tried to communicate, the ex-husband ran to the man and said that she was cheating in marriage, let the man leave early, fortunately, the man did not believe and chose to tell her, she knew that she had married a selfish person to the extreme.
In marriage, many women are not so lucky, knowing that men are extremely selfish, but they have no ability to leave, and can only continue to suffer in painful days.
Inseparable, women must learn to awaken, and see how he acts, wait until you can see through him, see the unwise and introspect, even if it is a kind of growth and learning, but also for their own to see the wrong person and learn lessons.
Wait until you have the ability to recognize people and you will find that extremely selfish men have 3 behaviors that will make a woman's life more and more bitter.
First, to exalt himself by belittling you, double standards.
The fact that two people chose to enter into marriage showed that the conditions of each other at that time were comparable. It's just that after marriage, some men exposed his extremely selfish face, and he didn't want to pretend anymore.
However, he will cleverly set up a good man's personality in front of outsiders, like to be sorry for others, he has done good people, let you always be a bad person, you don't do it, others say that you are not a good person, but ignore that things are caused by him.
Back at home, he is a different face to you, a bad word, a tantrum, trivial things can scold you, you don't know where you are upset with him?
This kind of man likes to PUA you, catches a thing and ruthlessly hits you, belittles you, makes you more and more unconfident, more and more inferior.
He loves to brag in front of outsiders, flaunts himself as a good man, a powerful man, likes to pull you to the bottom, the implication is that you stopped him from soaring, he endured the root of all the pain you brought him.
Jane's husband is such a man, he shirks the responsibility for things on his wife, flaunts his innocence, and he is not at all wrong.
However, acting is a double standard, and if he can do things, you can't.
With this kind of extremely selfish man, women tend to become a garbage bin, men don't want or bad things all thrown to you, good things are not your share at all.
A woman has to take off a layer of skin if she wants to leave, because he has done a good job on the surface, and outsiders can't understand why you want to leave him.
If you have the ability to leave, don't care what outsiders think, but care about your own happiness is the most important.
Second, interests are supreme, always think only of yourself, never care about you.
This extremely selfish man with a woman, who is not for love at all, but for the predation of profit, takes for granted that you should meet all his needs.
In "Double Sided Tape", Yaping seems to be deeply in love with Li Juan, but when he encounters "problems", the first thing he thinks of is himself.
One of the most excessive things was that when Yaping's family reached out to Lijuan's mother's family for money, Yaping said to Lijuan, "Isn't your mother's money just our money?" ”
He really has the face to say that if he marries someone's daughter, the money of the old couple of people will become his money.
This sentence also exposed his ambition to marry Li Juan, but Li Juan could not see clearly when he fell in love.
Yaping has asked Lijuan to ask her mother's family for money and buy a house three times, and her wife's mother's family supports 100,000 yuan; Yaping's brother-in-law raises funds in the factory and supports 100,000 yuan; his father's cancer treatment borrows 30,000 yuan from his wife's mother's family.
He only had interests in his eyes, did not think about his wife's position, did not think about his wife's feelings, he had no sense of responsibility at all, and felt that all this was what others should do.
British Prime Minister Winston Churchill once famously said: "There are no eternal friends, only eternal interests".
In the relationship between people, it is inevitable that interests will be exchanged, and there is nothing to value interests, only not to be based on harming the interests of others.
Husband and wife live together, if men only value interests, squeeze the value of their wives, and let their wives become the ones who have been sacrificing their own interests, then the wives will have no happiness to speak of.
The final ending of Li Juan's character archetype is far worse than the ending of "Double Sided Glue", and only the damage that comes to pay a switch is.
Women should not forget that marriage is the union of two independent individuals, and they should respect each other, be equal to each other, achieve and nourish each other, rather than sacrificing themselves to provide for a white-eyed wolf that eats people and does not spit bones.
A man whose interests are supreme and only has his own eyes, he will do whatever it takes for the sake of profit, and the woman must stop the loss in time after she sees through his true face.
Third, the desire for control is strong
The woman is an appendage to this controlling man, who does not respect differences in personality and tends to impose his ideas on his wife, not respecting her freedom and right to choose.
In order to control women, he mentally puA will be applied to women, soft and hard to force women to submit to his cognitive system.
Once a woman deviates slightly from his "cognition", he will raise his fist to commit domestic violence, and afterwards apologize in various ways, covering his behavior under the cloak of love.
This kind of man has a super high IQ, is extremely possessive, first-class insight, and has zero patience, just like An Jiahe in "Don't Talk to Strangers", imprisoning his wife in his own way, monitoring his wife's every move, so that her wife must obey herself.
Psychological research has shown that extremely selfish men are self-centered and difficult to change because selfish consciousness is ingrained in his mind.
When a woman feels that she has no freedom, no respect, no privacy, and what she gets is not love, but persecution, then learn to run away.
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