Gibran said: "Marriage is two strong people who love each other in the same boat, in order to overcome the ups and downs of the journey of the years together." ”
A family can continue to develop in the direction of prosperity, which must be the result of the joint efforts of the husband and wife.
Only in this way can the husband and wife overcome the ups and downs encountered along the way, take care of their small family, and feel the warmth and happiness of this family.
When it comes to taking care of the family, the first thing that comes to mind is the financial power of a family.
After all, the prosperity of the family has a lot to do with money. A thriving family is not only about whether the couple can make money, but also whether they can control the money.
No matter how much money you earn, if you don't know how to manage it and just squander it at will, it will be difficult for the family to really thrive.
In the end, it will also affect the relationship between husband and wife and destroy the harmony of the whole family.
Often at some weddings, people around me are heard asking the groom: "Who cares about the money after marriage?". Although this is a question, in an occasion like a wedding, there is only one standard answer, and that is that the bride manages the money.
Generally speaking, as long as men respect and pamper their wives, they will willingly hand over the money to their wives to manage.
As long as husband and wife trust each other, such a choice is also more conducive to family harmony and marital happiness.
Although we often say that men and women are equal, in the marriage of many people, they still cannot escape the state of strong men and weak women.
If men hold the financial power, women are bound to be insecure, worried that men will change their minds, worried that men will spend money indiscriminately, and do not want to become a woman who reaches out to men for money.
If men are willing to give money to women to manage, they can better balance the relationship between husband and wife, women will not have all kinds of worries and anxieties, and the relationship between husband and wife will naturally be much more harmonious.
As Mrs. Carnegie said, "Being like-minded with your husband is the basis for a happy marriage." "On the issue of money, if husband and wife can also achieve the same will, it will definitely reduce a lot of contradictions."
And whether a family will prosper depends on how women "manage" money. Women manage money, not only to manage money well, but also to make men completely convinced, and willingly give money to women to manage. How a woman should manage money generally lies in these points.
01 Income and expenditure should be transparent in order to make men more trusting and at ease.
Romain Rolland said: "Life is a vineyard run by both parties: two people grow grapes together and harvest together." ”
A happy family must be the result of the joint efforts of the husband and wife. Men are responsible for making money, and they must hope that the quality of life of this family can get better and better, and life can become happier and happier.
Men who are willing to hand over their money to women will want women to manage it well, and they must also fully gain the trust of men.
A woman who can manage money will not selfishly want only one person to live a dashing life, but will think about the prosperity of this family. Whether it is income or expenditure, they will maintain this transparency, will not deliberately hide from men, and will not hide their own small treasury.
Women know that while you're in charge of money, that doesn't mean all the money belongs to you alone.
You are just a manager, and only when a man knows the situation of income and expenditure at all times will he fully trust you and be at ease to earn money to support his family. In this way, the family will be more harmonious and more prosperous.
02 In terms of cost, it must be agreed by both husband and wife.
Two people are married, and the money earned in the marriage belongs to the common property of the husband and wife.
Since it is joint property, both parties should have the right to know and decide on the cost.
Women are managing money, if they spend money too casually, or often buy something behind their husband's back, once they are known to their husband, their hearts will definitely be uncomfortable.
If something is too much, men will definitely feel: "I make money so hard every day, you don't know how to be frugal at all."
In this way, men's hearts cannot be balanced, and they will naturally not trust women in managing money.
And if a woman spends money too casually and does not think about this family, it is difficult to manage a family, how can such a marriage prosper?
Whether a family can prosper depends on whether women can manage money well.
Women must not only know how to plan and arrange, but also be transparent about spending, at least with the consent of both husband and wife.
03 Women should know how to meet men's "selfishness" and let men feel this respect.
For men, although they do not have the right to manage money in marriage, they still hope that they can have the freedom to spend money.
At the very least, you have the freedom to buy what you like, and you can maintain your face when you're with your friends.
In men's hearts, they long to be respected, even if they lose some rights, they hope that women can give them a certain amount of freedom. In life, men will inevitably have some hobbies and some selfishness.
Marrying is about living better and getting more happiness, not to let yourself lose your freedom completely and lose all your hobbies.
Smart women must know how to satisfy these selfish intentions of men.
Although the management power is in the hands of women, it can also make men feel that they are respected and have the right to choose what they want.
Johnson said: "The joy of the home is the ultimate goal of all ambitions, the end of all career labor." ”
I chose marriage in order to get the joy of this home.
When men feel this happiness, they will love their wives more and work more with peace of mind. Husband and wife are harmonious, and the prosperity of a family is also a matter of time.