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In the marriage partnership, many people think that the position of the man is important, but in fact, the position of the woman in the marriage and family is equally important, or even more important.
The marriage model of "male outside the female protagonist" that has existed in China since ancient times is still in use today.
That is to say, after the marriage of men and women, the man is responsible for earning money to support the family, and the woman is responsible for taking care of the family. Two people divide their work and cooperate to complete the basic construction of a family.
However, it now seems that the burden on women is far more than that. Many times, in addition to taking care of the family, women also have to have children, take care of the elderly, and even go out to earn money.
Therefore, the prosperity of a family lies in men, but also in women. If a woman is good at managing the family, the family is likely to prosper; on the contrary, if a woman is not good at managing the family, it is possible to bring down the family. There are living examples of these.
So, what are the main manifestations of a woman's rationale? Let's take a look.
★ Do a good job of family relationships
In fact, after marriage, the members of the family are far more than just two people. Of course, there are also many people who think that as long as their own small family is good, they don't have to care so much.
But in fact, if a family wants to prosper, it can't be as simple as a small family. After all, both people have their own parents, or brothers and sisters, and relatives such as uncles and aunts or uncles and aunts.
In the Chinese tradition, human contact is an essential component. That is to say, in married life, it is impossible to live only the two-person world of a small couple forever.
Like the Spring Festival, which we attach great importance to Chinese, there has always been a custom of visiting relatives to visit the New Year. And these relatives and friends are also part of our personal contacts.
In the face of these things, the role of a woman is reflected. For example, what gifts to bring to which relative's house, how many red envelopes to give to the elderly and children, etc., are basically decided by women.
In addition, in the usual human relations, it is mostly women who deal with these things. For example, which relative's child is married, which relative has moved to a new house, or which good friend is sick to go to see, and so on, men generally do not worry, so the responsibility also falls on the woman.
Generally speaking, women handle these relationships well, which will bring good luck to their own family prosperity.
There is a woman who is particularly good at this. Her husband works outside the home all year round, and everything in the house is taken care of by her. Her handling of the relationship between relatives and friends on her husband's side has made many people praise.
For example, once, the child of a friend of her husband's had an accident and was in the hospital for emergency treatment. After she heard about it, she rushed to the hospital as soon as possible and sent a sum of money to the friend in time, which made the friend who was worried about the medical expenses move. And these, her husband did not know. It wasn't until his friend told him later that he knew the good things his wife had done.
This friend also always remembered her kindness, and later helped a lot in her children's work and buying a house. Her husband is not at home, whether she is from her mother's side or her husband's side of relatives and friends, the relationship is very good.
Her goodness is also exchanged for the kindness of others to her. Although her husband is not at home, as long as she says hello, many people will come to her side to help her. Later, her husband went back and sighed, joking that he was simply superfluous.
★ Take care of the use of the money in the house
A good woman will make a reasonable distribution of the money earned by men. Many times, the prosperity of the family lies in the use of money.
If a woman does not know the use of money, just knows that she will spend it if she has money, and if she has no money, then it is difficult for the family to have a good development.
A good woman will plan the use of money clearly, spend where it should be spent, and save where it can be saved.
Let's say there are two women. One divides the money earned by men into three parts: one part is used to buy the needs of the family; one part is deposited in the bank, and nothing important is not easily transferred out; and a small part is used for investment, although sometimes just to buy some stocks or funds, but it is also a way to make money. But she was never blind, and the payment of money was always within the amount she set. In this way, no matter whether she wins or loses, she will have a normal life guarantee.
The other woman, in addition to picking up and dropping off her children, is to play mahjong. Three meals are also basically not cooked, and the total takeaway is ordered. In this way, the money earned by her man is always not enough for her to spend, not to mention that she always loses when she plays mahjong, and she owes a lot of debt.
From here, we can see that the practice of the two women, which one is more beneficial to the family and more conducive to the harmony and prosperity of the family, is also clear at a glance.
★ Distribute love to those closest to you
After a woman has a child, she sometimes gives more love to the child and less love and care for her husband. In fact, this is the wrong approach. The breakdown of many marriages also has a lot to do with this.
No matter how strong and big men are, sometimes they are vulnerable. In his heart, he also hopes to get love and warmth, especially the people closest to him.
A smart woman will know how to divide love equally among those she loves. Although children take up too much of a woman's energy, it's not a reason and excuse to ignore men.
Give your lover a little more warmth and affection, and let him feel that your love for him is not diminished because of the child, or for him, it is more needed.
Women who know how to distribute love are more beneficial to family management. Because of this, the home she cares for with love will be more warm and prosperous.
Therefore, in a family, the role of women is far greater than the imagination and cognition of men. In marriage, a good woman is a blessing for men and a blessing for the whole family.