The famous writer Qian Zhongshu once said: "Marriage is like a siege of the city, people on the outside want to come in, and people inside want to go out."
Modern marriage is no longer like the "" era before.
Modern people's marriage, like fast food, comes in a hurry, and leaves in a hurry after eating. In the past, it was often said that the seven-year itch of marriage, now people's marriage, before it has survived to 7 years, has already ended in divorce.
The reasons for divorce are even more strange, quarreling with each other, feeling bad, not brushing teeth, having bad breath, and wetting the bed.
Anyway, it doesn't matter if you have children, divorce depends on the mood, it is very willful.
【1】
Xiaoqin, my neighbor, went out to work for a few years to find a boyfriend, because it was a long-distance relationship, parents did not agree, and finally separated.
Seeing that he was in his twenties, his parents gave him a blind date, the man's family was good, there was a car and a house in the town, the parents were quite satisfied, and the girl did not object.
Since everyone has no opinion, they are ready to get married, and the bride price is 8.8W, a motorcycle, and three gold.
At that time, we all went to the wedding, which was very grand.
Three days later, the girl ran home crying and asked for a divorce, and inside the man's house, she smashed the dowry furniture, motorcycle, cut the quilt in the marriage room, clothes, etc.
The reason for the divorce is that the man has a fox smell and can't live on.
Things have reached this point, and they can only leave, and there is no mutual understanding in advance, and such a marriage is not advisable.
【2】
Ah Fang, my junior high school classmate, married at the age of 17, two children at the age of 20, and then left, and the marriage lasted for three years.
When I was in junior high school, I talked about ignorant love, young boys and girls stole the forbidden fruit, and became pregnant before marriage.
Can only drop out of school to get married, both men and women are still children, where to understand the pain of marriage, only three years, marriage came to an end.
The woman said: Men will only play games, will not make money, men say: women will not be considerate, will not wash and cook, will not bring children, anyway, the public says that the public is reasonable.
They turned around in a dashing manner, leaving their parents with high dowry money and a serious burden of raising two grandchildren.
【3】
Ah Fu, a small child, divorced for two years.
He worked in Dongguan, Guangdong Province, and met his ex-wife, which is considered to be free love.
After half a year of love, because she was pregnant with a child, she got married, the marriage lasted for a year and a half, and the relationship broke down and led to divorce.
The reason for the divorce was that Ah Fu would wet the bed.
I don't know if there is such a situation around you, in your twenties you will wet the bed, this situation is not a disease, but he went to the hospital to check, and said that there is no problem.
summary:
Marriage is not a child's play, before marriage it is best to understand each other clearly, do not rush, do not know how to step into the palace of marriage, marriage is not so illusory and beautiful in the ideal, marriage can not be separated from the flat talk, chai rice oil and salt, noisy, rubbing.
You can't give up lightly because of a little thing, the old saying has clouds: "The same boat that has been cultivated for a thousand years, and the ten thousand years of cultivation can sleep together."
Since you choose to come together, you should tolerate and cherish each other, and what can be slowly cultivated is not love, but habits.
What can be obtained over time is not feelings but touching, so love is a gift for a moment, there is something, there is no.
But on the other hand, love and marriage are not actually the same thing, not all love has to be married, and not all marriages have love.
Therefore, since you have chosen to get married, you should be responsible for the family, children and each other, and don't give up lightly.
It is really not easy to run a marriage well, ten thousand years is too long, only for the day.