The child is key for three years, and the parents are eight changes

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Pedagogy tells us that education is time-sensitive, for example, the sooner the rules are established, the better, and the sooner habits are formed, the better, otherwise after passing through this village, there is no shop.

The timeliness of education means that the way of education at each stage is different, and parents should change as their children grow up.

Adolescence is a very important stage, and children at this stage are mainly rebellious, such as the original well-behaved girl becoming a little sister, the original little mother treasure, becoming even the mother who refuses to call.

This change is the change of adolescence, especially in the sixth grade of primary school to the second grade of junior high school, which is particularly obvious in these three years, which can be called the key three years of puberty.

If the pattern of parents and children getting along has not changed in these three years, then the rebellion of children in adolescence will be more obvious.

Therefore, the corresponding education methods of parents should also be changed, as follows:

First, change the way you speak.

Before the high stage of primary school, parents can talk to their children in a commanding tone, but after the high level of primary school, they should change, tell their children that you are now grown up, there are some things to do by yourself, if you need help, tell your parents and parents, if you don't say, you have to take care of yourself.

But saying this does not mean that parents really throw their hands away, this is just a superficial beginning to let go, secretly pay attention to the child's every move, and help at key moments.

Second, do not spy on privacy.

Treat the child as an independent individual, and respect the child as if he were his colleague or friend.

Many parents want to understand the psychology of their children, which is completely understandable, but children have begun to grow up, they need to have an independent psychological space, to respect them, do not move things that involve privacy.

Third, let children participate in important family affairs.

For example, the family to buy a house to decorate, you can listen to the child's opinions, the style of his own room let him set himself, and for example, the elderly at home are sick, you can let the half-old child take care of the elderly for half a day on weekends, so that the parents will be old, and the child knows how to take care of it.

Fourth, pay attention to the child's friends and family background.

Children need friends, this is not wrong, adolescent children to make friends, this is no problem, but we can not let children to make those who are essentially very bad friends, you know, there are still many bad people in this world, bad students also have, children are not good at distinguishing, parents should always pay attention to and remind children, otherwise and bad children began to go along with the dirty, it is difficult to turn back to the prodigal son.

Fifth, in addition to paying attention to academics, there are also concerns about children's interests and hobbies.

The things that children are interested in, parents are best to be interested in together, on the one hand, can enhance the topic between parents and children, on the other hand, these hobbies and interests may determine the child's future career direction.

Sixth, reduce nagging, reduce nagging, reduce nagging.

Say important things three times, adolescent young people are most afraid of nagging, you say it right, he can't listen to it, and the nagging of his parents will only make him farther and farther away from you.

Of course, not nagging does not mean that parents do not speak, words still have to be said, but the key words, a little or two sentences is enough.

Seventh, be proud of your child's outstanding performance.

Outstanding performance, not only includes academics, but also includes the excellent qualities shown by children in love, kindness, responsibility, sports, art, etc. At this time, it is necessary to affirm the child in time.

Eighth, help children find their way together.

Now the competition is very fierce, if the child is not very good at learning, it may mean that God is hinting that your child is not good at cultural classes, at this time, the child most needs parents to help him open another door.

At this time, teachers often have no way, because the teacher has too many children to manage, and the teacher has no obligation and may not have the ability, and the parents are one-on-one, unshirkable, and must take up this responsibility.

In the key three years of adolescence, parents can not play cards according to the old routine, they should quickly adjust their thinking, change the mode of getting along with their children, update their educational knowledge, and fulfill their responsibilities.

This is the key three years and parents must change!

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