Parent-child relationship is not good, education is an empty cannon

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In the past few days, I watched a CCTV documentary "Mirror", the theme is to explore the family emotional education, in the film, four families because their children dropped out of school and fell into difficulties, parents are helpless, only to send their children to a "special school" for "transformation".

Why did the four teenagers in the film drop out of school?

Some rebel in order to get rid of the control of their parents, some are hurt by the verbal violence of their parents, and some are lost because of the lack of father's love and mother's love, and they have gone astray.

What they say to the camera is shocking.

These children and their parents are in constant conflict and do not trust each other.

In my opinion, this film is reminding parents of a fact:

A good parent-child relationship is the premise of a good education.

If the relationship between parents and children is good, the educational effect is good; the quality of communication between parents and children is low, and the educational effect is poor.

Therefore, establishing a high-quality parent-child relationship with children is the prerequisite for educating children well.

One

There must be both rules and respect

There must be rules to educate children, but rules are not authoritarian, not everything "up to me to decide", children although small, they are also people, so they should still be respected as people.

Many times, parents love their children in the wrong way, turning love into a kind of hurt.

Some parents are always on top of each other and say one thing or the other.

Some parents always like to say to their children, "I'm here for your own good," but they just want to control their children.

A good parent-child relationship, in addition to rules, also needs love based on respect and understanding.

Two

It is necessary to have communication, but also to talk about skills

A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June.

No matter who you speak to, you must pay attention to the measure, know what kind of words should be said, what kind of words should not be said, what kind of words should be said, when to say, and where to say.

This is a necessary communication skill.

The more emotionally intelligent the parents, the more they know how to talk to their children skillfully.

Parents should use more respectful tones, trusting tones, deliberative tones, and appreciative tones to speak to their children, so that children feel that they can make decisions, feel that they are important, and are respected.

Three

It is necessary to accompany the children and live their own lives

After having children, many things in the family need to be balanced, not only children in the world of parents, only parents in the world of children.

The best state is to balance each other in each other's world.

The deep reason for the tension between some parents and children is that parents do not have their own lives, they regard their children as their own, hoping that the children are perfect, so as to make up for their various regrets.

The more such parents are, the easier it is to lose control when educating their children, resulting in tension in parent-child relationship, which in turn affects family education.

Between parents and children, to maintain a sense of boundaries, the life of the parents is the parents' own, and the child's future has his own life.

The process of raising a child is actually a process of allowing the child to form an independent opinion, and in the process of growing up, parents can give him advice, but in the end, they should respect his ideas.

Parents are happy to live their own lives, and it is also a good education for their children, at least children will find that it is a very interesting thing for people to live.

Parents also have to demand of themselves, and unfinished ideals must be realized by their own efforts, rather than imposed on their children.

To put it simply, parents should also study hard, improve every day, and live their own lives.

A good parent-child relationship is better than many educations.

Parent-child relationship is not good, education is an empty cannon.

Personal opinions do not represent any institution

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