Wen | condensed mother's understanding
The happiness of a family depends largely on the fireworks in the kitchen. Buying vegetables and cooking can not only fill the stomach of the family, but also warm the heart of the family.
Later, I saw an article saying that by raising children to become foodies, family education was half successful. One of the protagonists lamented that he was originally uneasy about the child's adolescent rebellion, and when he saw the child happily indulging in eating, he had confidence in his heart.
When I was deeply involved in cooking, watching the joy of the children eating, the satisfaction after eating, and feeling the joy of the family, I was no longer in a hurry to push the children out.
Last month, with a heavy heart, I took my child home, planning how to live peacefully in the days of day and night, thinking of "talking less, cooking more", I did not expect this simple decision, so that the parent-child relationship ushered in a new turning point.
One night not long after, when I was coaxing Erbao to sleep, my son walked in, lay happily beside us, and said, "Mom, let's cook less food in the future, it's too good to eat." By the way, talking about school meals, my son said that the meat made in the canteen was delicious, and there were not many vegetables and not very suitable for taste, so he ate very little.
He had never communicated so frankly before, asking him to eat more, and he agreed, but rarely did as required, there was a reason, but he didn't bother to tell you the reason.
Since he was particularly satisfied with eating at home, his son showed a cute smile every day like when he was a child, and the time for communication increased and deepened. When I gave him advice, I also felt at ease, and he was able to accept it calmly. The previously tense relationship suddenly became very harmonious.
Cook well for the child, iron the stomach, and soothe the heart
In fact, I only cook home-cooked meals, not as exquisite as those food pictures, which can be deeply loved by children, probably because I really do it with my heart.
When you carefully cook each meal with love for your child, the energy will be injected into it, even if it looks ordinary, the taste is excellent.
I didn't know much about cooking, I just wanted to cook it. But in order to make the children eat more delicious, I began to seriously study the practice of a meal, sometimes according to the existing ingredients to find, sometimes think of a dish name to find, sometimes stumble upon a delicacy, just have ready ingredients at home, and start to make it.
As a result, children can eat more tricks, taste different tastes, stimulate fresh taste buds at every meal and every day, experience the mother's intentions, and also taste the delicious food.
During that time, although I couldn't go out, there was no shortage of ingredients, and there was everything, and in my memory, the variety of ingredients was probably the most complete in many years in my family.
Because of the blessing of a variety of ingredients, I have more room to play and be able to achieve full color and fragrance. For example, green vegetables, put some red carrots, black fungus as embellishment, you feel higher value, more delicious.
I boldly tried foods that I never dared to cook, and I always thought that I could not make a good dish, but I did not expect it to be a success. The children also can't stop eating, full of happiness. Like fried lotus boxes, leek boxes, raw fried buns, wontons, etc., as long as you want to do it and spend time, you will be able to do it well.
In addition to the normal three meals a day, some small snacks will be provided in the morning and afternoon, such as baked sweet potatoes, fries, egg tarts, and various fruits, so that children can add a little energy in addition to busy learning, and can also get effective mental relaxation.
Cooking well for the child and regulating the mood will infect the child
Cooking is a tedious and hard work, but as long as you think that it is a thing that can bring happiness, you will not feel tired, on the contrary, you will be happier and more satisfied.
Cooking for children is not only to awaken the child's taste and make him understand the sweetness of life, but also a process of awakening himself, immersing himself in happiness, and his mood is also well regulated.
It makes sense to see a passage that the mother's emotions are more important than academic qualifications, and a good mother, like a container, is stable, strong and peaceful to provide a stable magnetic field and energy to the family. Her children can gain a sense of security and self-confidence from her needle-like smile and attitude, learn to get along with others, and open their own inner motivation.
The parent-child relationship has become better, not only because the child's stomach is satisfied the most, but also because I have adjusted my mood by cooking, the child feels it, and his emotions are also infected.
During that time, I cooked, watched the children eat, and my mind always went back to when I was a child, as if it was my mother who cooked for me, I was eating, and I recalled too many beautiful "mother's tastes".
When I was in junior high school, I came home from self-study in the evening, and there were two fried fish in the pot on the stove, and the lid of the pot was still hot. After a tiring day of studying, don't mention how warm your heart is.
Eating meat was a luxury in those days, and during the New Year's Festival, my mother would make a lot of lotus boxes wrapped in meat. She fried it, we ate it, she finished it, and we were running out. Mom watched us eat happily, and she smiled happily.
When I was in high school, the canteen meal was clear and watery, and my mother would fry me pickles and put a lot of meat and celery, which I brought to school and could eat for two weeks, and I still think it is the most delicious dish. I also made a special meal for my son, so that he could experience the delicious food I had eaten in the past.
There are not only beautiful memories of emotional abundance, but also the beautiful reality of seeing is believing. It is somewhat pleasing to see the fruits of my labor after a long time of hard work and the beautiful appearance placed on the table.
Seeing the children rolling in the clouds, eating pots and pans, they couldn't help but raise the corners of their mouths and be proud of themselves. Pick up the phone, take a photo, and appreciate herself several times, and also make myself feel good. The knock-on effects of cooking are like a warm current overflowing throughout the body.
Cook well for your children, and homeschooling is half successful
Trying to cook for a month, my feeling is that improving the parent-child relationship is actually very simple, and it is enough to cook well for the child. I thought it was just my own subjective feelings, but I didn't expect it to be the resonance of most people.
Huang Lei, who is good at cooking, said that happiness is the big spoon in the father's hand and the meal in the child's bowl. The happiness of the child lies in the small matter of eating.
Deng Ziqi in "Young Pi" has a well-off family, but her parents are too busy with business and rarely accompany her to dinner, let alone cook. Even when her mother said she would accompany her to dinner and travel to Europe, she was not happy.
At home, you can't feel the fireworks, even if the house you live in is large and luxurious, it only makes people feel empty and cold.
And those ordinary families, who have time to cook for their children, make the family more intense.
A mother said that the connection with her adolescent son is mainly on the meal. When he doesn't eat breakfast, I give him soy milk and rice porridge just to warm his stomach; he changes his tricks at night to make all kinds of meat to eliminate the tiredness of the day; although he doesn't pay attention to us, he won't refuse the food we cook.
Another mother said that meals are indeed emotional bonds, and if children would rather eat instant noodles and order takeaway than eat family meals, then the parent-child relationship is dangerous.
Some mothers also said that no matter how fierce the quarrel with my son, there is no meal that cannot be solved. After eating two or three mouthfuls of laughter, no matter how big the fire, as long as he said what he wanted to eat, his attention immediately shifted to what to eat. Eating a bowl of noodles, they will say" Mom, "Mom, I am so happy", just because the noodles are so delicious.
People take food as the sky, eating is the most basic and primitive need of children, as long as the stomach is satisfied, the mood will be comfortable, and the wall between the parents will not push itself.
Therefore, cook well for the children, and cultivate the children to become foodies, the family education will be half successful, and there is no way not to disagree.
epilogue
Three meals a day, all year round, if there are not many opportunities to communicate with your child's language, then use meals to communicate. The food made by parents fills the child's stomach and provides nutrition at the same time, but also waters love. Parents and children are linked together because of eating, and all parent-child relationships are solved.
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