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Self-confidence is extremely important.

As the saying goes, if people are not confident, who believes?

A team is the same, the leader must have self-confidence, otherwise they will be scattered when they encounter difficulties.

The opposite of self-confidence is inferiority, and now I see that many young people have inferiority to varying degrees, and some are quite serious.

Generally speaking, inferiority is not innate, but slowly developed the day after tomorrow, when the child is small, the two practices of parents will cause the child to become inferior:

The first is too spoiled, and the second is lack of love.

Let's start with the first type of "too spoiled".

A large part of a child's self-confidence comes from independence.

Children reach a certain age, will rush to do things, many parents will let children try, it does not matter if they do not do well, when children make one piece after another, they will gradually have confidence in themselves.

But some parents are reluctant to let their children explore, because they are too fond of their children, in addition to reading, they do everything for them.

Such a child will always feel weak and can only rely on adults, because under the arrangement of adults, his consciousness is like this:

"I couldn't do anything without my parents."

Gradually, children will think that they are stupid, and this feeling will slowly turn into inferiority.

Any child, as long as he does not learn the solution to the problem in his growth, he will not have the courage to face the problems of real life.

The child's self-confidence in himself gradually disappears under the "too favored".

Let's talk about the second kind of "lack of love."

"Too spoiled" will make children feel inferior and have no self-confidence, but at the same time, inferiority also stems from not being loved enough, that is, "lack of love".

Inferiority has little to do with whether a person is good or not.

Many excellent people around me still have a deep sense of inferiority.

Among these people, some are excellent teachers, some are well-known hosts in the spotlight, and some are talented professional writers, but they all have a common characteristic, that is, they are relatively inferior.

At the beginning, I was also puzzled by this, I often told them, you are so good, why do you still have inferiority?

Later, I slowly understood that this usually comes from a lack of love from childhood.

In the eyes of these inferior people, their parents seem to have rarely accepted and approved of themselves, resulting in them often feeling disappointed in themselves, resulting in inferiority.

Psychology tells us that the more conditional the love a child receives when he is a child, the lower the child's sense of self-worth, the frustration of self-confidence, and the breeding of inferiority complex.

To reduce children's inferiority complex, parents should teach their children to learn to accept themselves from an early age.

It is impossible for anyone to completely achieve non-inferiority, but if you want to avoid the problem of inferiority, what parents have to do is: first accept the parents themselves, and then help the children accept themselves, that is:

See yourself in perspective.

It is best to let the child accept the idea that there is no need to change themselves in order to make others accept it.

If a person cannot accept himself as he is, then inferiority will follow.

Inferiority is essentially an internal cognition of "I can't do it".

If the child does not accept himself, even if he becomes excellent, he will not be able to completely overcome the feeling of inferiority.

Therefore, when parents help their children overcome excessive inferiority, they can start from the following points:

The first is to express love and appreciation to children in moderation.

The second is to teach children not to live in the evaluation of others.

The third is to cultivate children's ability to be independent and autonomous.

Only by accepting yourself can you overcome your inferiority, enhance your confidence, and go higher and farther.

Personal opinions do not represent any institution

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