These three educational methods are both universal and practical

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Confucius said that there is no class in teaching, teaching according to aptitude, saying that all children should receive education, including family education, in addition, every child is different, so it should be educated according to different characteristics.

However, there are still universal laws in education, and today, I will talk about three practical and universal educational methods.

The first: stabilize the mood first, and then solve things.

When encountering things, first stabilize your own and your child's emotions, and then deal with specific things.

First calm the child's emotions, rather than blindly blame, if the child's emotions are out of control, parents will often be helpless.

When many children have emotions, they are actually aware of their own problems, just want to cover up their fears by venting their emotions, at this time, parents should appease their children and let the children calm down first, rather than solving the problem by yelling, crying, running away from home, etc.

Of course, parents themselves must also control their emotions, and they cannot scold their children as soon as they have problems.

Parents must remember:

To educate children, we must first stabilize our emotions, and then calm the children's emotions, and we must not "add fuel to the fire".

The second: choose the timing first, and then subdivide the occasion.

Many parents will find that they raise their faces every day and teach their children that their children not only "go in and out of the right ear", but also feel that parents are nagging.

What is the reason for this?

The main reason is that the right time for education was not chosen.

The timing of educating children can be divided into two categories: "fixed" and "sudden".

"Fixed" means that in a period of time, a certain day, such as a weekend or the first day of each month, communicate with the child, so that the child develops the habit of regular reflection.

"Sudden" refers to talking with the child when facing the child's sudden problems, at this time, the child knows that he is wrong, often can listen to it, and will not produce a strong resistance.

In addition to seizing the opportunity of education, educating children should also be divided into occasions and respect children's self-esteem.

Some parents always have only "other people's children" in their eyes, and in public, they always feel that everything hanging in their mouths is good for other people's children, and their own children are useless.

Such a statement will seriously hurt the self-esteem of one's own child.

In the long run, children will become more and more inferior and sensitive, unable to accept the "normal advice" of others.

Third, eat well and communicate intimately.

Studies have found that children's vocabulary size is positively correlated with parental communication in the family, especially at the dinner table.

For modern people, the dinner table has become the main place for "effective communication".

Children are usually in school, only at dinner time, the family can be reunited, after the meal children quickly have to do homework, it is difficult to communicate.

Therefore, parents, especially fathers, can go home as early as possible after work in the evening and have a meal with their children, which is a rare opportunity for communication.

Only at this time, the family is in a comfortable atmosphere, parents with a relaxed mind, more understanding of the child's ideas.

Communication at the dinner table is more effective than "formal interviews" and allows children to express more authentic feelings.

The above three educational methods, each family can implement, but anything is the same, it is easy to say that it is difficult to do, such as the first method to have an effect, parents can control their emotions is the premise, and the third method, if a father does not go home for ten days and a half a month, every day wine bureau mahjong, even a reunion dinner can not eat, what about education?

So-called:

Good methods, everyone can learn.

It's hard to do it.

Personal opinions do not represent any institution

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