Family education is a concern of every parent, when should the child be in charge? When should I not care? How to manage? For these aspects, most parents are in a situation of unclear cognition. This also leads to the problems of most children, from the parents, when it is time to be strictly managed, not willing to be strictly managed, accustomed to the child's body problems, when it is time to let go and not to let go, hindering the growth of children. In order for children to grow better and be better in the future, in terms of educating children, parents must achieve "five unaccustomed" and "three disregards".
Three disregard
1. Parents don't care what the child can do on his own
Child growth is a process of exploration, parents should cultivate their children's self-care ability, learn to let go and let children do some things within their reach, do not fear that children will not do well when they do it, it will cause you trouble. Education is such a process, let go and let the child do it himself, the child will grow.
2. The choices that the child can make on his own parents do not care
Every adult is choosing their own direction in life, and children need to choose the same. Parents should give their children the right and freedom to choose, so that children can choose what they wear and do from elementary school. When children grow up and face choices that can change their destiny, children can listen to their hearts and make the choices that are most suitable for them.
3. Leave the child's secret parents alone
Children are independent individuals, and it is understandable for parents to want to understand their children, but they must also allow children to have their own secrets and privacy. Good communication with the child is the real understanding, in order to enter the child's heart, rather than snooping on the child's privacy. From the perspective of pedagogy, the move to independence is one of the basic characteristics of modern people, and having personal secrets and being able to dispose of them properly is the element of independence, for people, secrets are often linked to responsibility, and to be independently responsible. So, please allow children to have their own secrets and have their own little space.
Five unaccustomed
1. Children have no rules, parents can not get used to
No rules are not square, to make rules for children must be early, do not think that children are young, do not understand, you can get used to it, you must know that you are used to it now, and you can't control it when you want to manage it later. Parents should teach their children to understand the rules of society from an early age, clearly tell their children what can be done and what cannot be done, it will be difficult at the beginning, when the child grows up, they will understand the parents' hard work.
2. Children do not do housework parents can not get used to
Parents should not think that doing housework is dispensable, a child does not do housework when he is a child, does not love labor, and when he grows up, he wants him to suddenly become industrious, which is impossible. Parents blindly pampered and arranged substitution will reduce the child's happiness index, so that unhealthy personalities such as "giant baby" and "mother treasure" will appear, affecting the child's life. Good habits should be cultivated from an early age, and parents should cultivate their children's habits of doing housework from an early age, so that children have the ability to take care of themselves, and cultivate the quality of children's hard work. This is very good for children's later study, life, and work!
3. Children who disrespect their elders and parents cannot get used to it
Now the children are the treasures of the family, in the mouth is afraid of melting, holding in the palm of the hand afraid of falling, there will often be a family of several elderly people around the child around the situation, some children are spoiled, to the elderly to drink, without the slightest respect. For this point, parents must not be accustomed, as an ordinary person, although you are not required to learn the etiquette used in high-level places, but the most basic courtesy is still necessary. Respecting the elderly and loving the young is a traditional virtue of the mainland, but also the most basic courtesy, a child at home is disrespectful to the elders, to the society does not understand what politeness is. Such a child is easy to grow crooked, and it is easy to make people stay away.
4. Children's selfish parents cannot get used to it
Parents love their children, are willing to spend money on their children, and are not willing to spend money on themselves; when there is something delicious, they will think of their children for the first time, want to leave them all for their children, and they are not willing to eat a bite. Parents are so child-centered, it is easy to develop the child's selfish and selfish bad disease, what good things want to be exclusive, think that parents and even others have to let themselves go for granted. Over time, the parents lose themselves, and the child takes things for granted from the parents, so that he only knows how to take, does not know what to return, and does not think about caring for others and appreciating others. Such a selfish child can easily become a white-eyed wolf when he grows up, not to mention filial piety to his parents. As a parent, we must give love to our children, but also teach our children to learn to give love, and we must let our children know how to be grateful. A child who knows how to be grateful, he will appreciate what others have done for him, cherish everything he has received, and feel that it is both happy and happy to have everything in front of him.
5. Children cry and play with their parents can not get used to it
In the matter of educating children, parents must have principles, do not always compromise with their children, even if the children cry and play tricks, the number of times parents compromise is more, which will make children form a wrong judgment: as long as you insist on crying, you can always get what I want. Parents satisfy their children without principle, so that he can get what he wants as soon as he plays, which establishes a wrong outlook on life and world order for him. Parents should learn to firmly refuse the unreasonable demands of their children, let the children understand the principles and bottom lines of adults, and after repeating them several times, they will naturally understand that unreasonable trouble cannot achieve the goal.
Every child has the potential to become an excellent person, and the different daily education of parents gives children a different life. Parents with foresight know how to strictly manage when they should be strictly managed, so that children know what can be done and what cannot be done; they are willing to let go when they should let go, so that children can learn to fly and bravely fight the wind and waves, which is the best love for children.