Text/Coriander
A woman's life is mostly divided into two stages: before marriage and after marriage. This is the fate of most women.
But there is also a kind of woman who, throughout her life, has not entered the marriage half a step.
Whether there is marriage or not, for a woman, is not a matter of right or wrong, but a difference in personal choice.
In this world, everything has two sides. Getting married has the benefit of getting married, and not getting married also has the benefit of not getting married.
However, in most people's concepts, they still think that when people reach a certain age, they should get married and have children and enjoy family life. There's nothing wrong with that.
Why are women single? In fact, sometimes it is not that a woman does not want to get married, but that she cannot meet the person she wants, so she would rather be single than settle down.
Women who can do this basically have a characteristic, that is, they are responsible for their own destiny, have the ability to support themselves, and can resist the pressure from the outside world.
This is the biggest characteristic of single women. If this is not possible, the likelihood that a woman will not marry will be less likely.
As soon as a woman enters marriage, she basically loses her "freedom.". Of course, it's not that anyone can forcibly restrict her freedom, but a whole bunch of housework that makes her inseparable.
Women who are not married are relatively free because time and space can be controlled by themselves. If you add that you are more generous in money, it is true that being single will be more enviable.
But there are always pros and cons to everything. Single women also do not appreciate the benefits of marriage, such as having someone around to care for each other and take care of each other; having a person to discuss everything; physical needs can be solved normally, and so on. Also, if the marriage is happy, it will make people feel more secure and responsible. This is something that single women can't have.
But marriages in the world are not all happy, which is why so many people choose to divorce.
Women who are unhappy in marriage are indeed not as good as single. However, many times, a woman who is unhappy in marriage but unwilling to divorce is because she lacks the ability to survive independently. And such women are mostly looked down upon by men. If you look down on it, how can you cherish it?
So, in the end, women still have to be kind to themselves, whether there is marriage or not, to be nice to themselves, after all, it is not wrong.
So, how do women do it to be kind to themselves? In fact, it is nothing more than the following three points.
First, love yourself
Whether there is a man to love or not, women must know how to love themselves. How to love yourself? It is to know how to think about oneself in everything. Whether you're married or not, leave a little leeway for yourself when it comes to doing anything.
As soon as many women enter marriage, they feel that their husbands and children are all they have, and they are willing to sacrifice themselves for them.
This is not actually a wise choice. Even if you give it all, sometimes you don't get their gratitude. While, giving may be something you're willing to give and don't ask for anything in return, smart women don't do it because they know that if you just give blindly, one day, she'll regret it.
Therefore, knowing how to love yourself is to be kind to yourself. For example, without marriage, you can buy yourself good food, beautiful clothes, and with marriage, you have to do the same.
In addition, from time to time, you must enrich your heart and spirit, so that you will not become shallow in the passage of time. This is an important point of loving yourself.
A woman's youth fades easily, but the connotation will become richer with age. This increase in connotation is the result of women's continuous learning.
Only a woman with rich connotations will not be defeated by age, but will have her own beauty and value more and more as she gets older.
Second, have your own fully disposed of money
Whether there is marriage or not, a woman must have money in her hands, and she can fully control herself. Some women in marriage, the husband earned money will be handed over to her to take care of. Such a woman is happier, at least, and men trust her.
With the money at her disposal, women can do what they want to do. Of course, a single woman has no obstacles in this regard, because a lot of times, her money is earned by herself.
Only when women have money can they have confidence.
Did a survey: What is a woman's greatest sense of security?
Almost all women answered that it was money. If it was a woman before, she would put a sense of security on the man.
This also shows that women's sense of independence is getting stronger and stronger, knowing that men are not as reliable as money.
So, whether there are men or not, women have to be rich to live better.
Third, have your own independent time and space
In marriage, in fact, women are less likely to have their own independent time and space.
In contrast, single women are much more free in this regard. Because married women live more men and children, and there are many family members involved.
For example, single women don't have to socialize with relatives, but married women have to deal with them.
But even if they are busy and chaotic, married women must know how to squeeze out time and space for themselves.
I have a female friend who has a small attic in her house, which is her world, and is arranged exactly in her favorite style.
In fact, the attic is very small, so small that it is less than ten square meters. Her man hated the place too small, but she was happy. She saw it as her own private space, and wouldn't let any man or child enter it.
Every weekend, she would have a fixed two-hour stay there. No one knew what she was doing inside, not even her man, and she didn't tell him. She just said she needed those two hours and needed this little bit of space.
Men are generous and don't care about her. For two hours on the weekend, he either took the children out or played with them at home. As soon as the time came, she came out on her own.
To be fair, she also allows the man to have half a day a week of time and space that belongs to him. It's necessary, she said.
Or, because of this "special", both husband and wife maintain a little sense of mystery. This allowed their feelings to be elevated and not diluted by the trivialities of the marriage.
So, smart women all know this.
Marriage is a siege, some people want to go in, some people want to come out, whether it is a woman who goes in or out, the reason is that they want to pursue happiness and happiness.
As long as there is happiness and joy, whether it is marriage or singleness, it is the best life for women. You tell me?