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Most of today's young people are only children, coupled with the good economic conditions at home, so many young people will not do housework. Even if they are married, they do not do housework, it is done by their parents. If they are asked to cook their own meals, they either go outside and get out to eat or order takeout.
Before the children got married, their parents regarded them as precious and were reluctant to let them do housework. In fact, this is not good for them, doing housework seems very simple, there is no technical content. But if you do housework for a long time, this is not a simple thing, it is very exercised for a person.
Parents teach and train their children to do housework early, which will benefit children for life. The girl does not do housework in her mother's house, and her parents will tolerate it, but if she does not do housework at her mother-in-law's house, she may have to look at her mother-in-law's face.
Of course, doing housework does not have to be done by girls, and young men also have to take on housework. After a young couple gets married, they must jointly undertake the housework and build a small family together.
02
After the girl married into the in-laws' family, because she could not do housework, she was ridiculed and ridiculed by the relatives of the in-laws' family. The mother-in-law said to her relatives: Our daughter-in-law, I don't need you to take care of it! Who hasn't been young? Who is born to do housework? My daughter-in-law has done enough.
This is what happened to Ma Liyang's family, and now Ma Liyang is a master at housework. When she first got married, she did not do housework, and her mother-in-law did not say anything about her, and she tolerated everything about her, and she was very grateful to her mother-in-law.
Self-narrator: Ma Liyang
Age: 40 years old
Occupation: Accountant
City: Xuchang
Family situation: Family of five
03
When I was 8 years old, my parents divorced and I was sentenced to my dad. My dad didn't live at home, he was always hanging out, and I was taken care of by my grandparents. My mom got married out of town after my divorce, and it wasn't until I got married that she came to my wedding that I saw her again.
I was very strange to my mother, and I didn't have any feelings, she just showed up on the scene. I don't think she has any feelings for me, because she has a son and a daughter after remarrying, and I don't matter to her at all.
My grandparents only took care of me for half a year because my parents' divorce made my grandmother very sad. She cried and cried every day, and half a year later she fell ill and died. After Grandma's death, Grandpa's health was not good, and he was a big boss who would not take care of little girls at all.
So I was sent to a relative's house for foster care, my uncle's house, my aunt's house, my uncle's family, etc., and the family took turns to live for a period of time. I was so overwhelmed by the taste of sending people under the fence that many times I didn't even dare to speak loudly. When eating, I don't dare to pick vegetables, and I always have to secretly observe the faces of adults before I pinch a little bit of food.
After graduating from elementary school, I was sent to boarding school and I have been living as a group ever since. When I was in college, I was applying for a student loan, and by then my parents had stopped sending me money and my grandfather had passed away.
04
After graduating from college, I went to work in a company, lived in a dormitory, and still ate in the cafeteria. Later, when I was working, I met my husband, who was very kind and kind to me. When he pursued me, I told him about my family, and he didn't care about my mother's situation.
When he took me back to meet his parents, I was nervous, afraid that his parents would look down on me because of my family situation. But their parents were very loving and very kind to me, and his mother said, "Girl, we don't have any requirements, as long as you are good to my son." ”
I was touched, it was the first time I felt the love and tolerance from my parents. Later, I married my husband and then lived with my in-laws. I've always been in the dormitory, eating in the cafeteria, so I don't do housework at all, especially not cooking.
I think my mother-in-law is so good to me, I should also help her share the housework, but I always make mistakes. For example, when cooking, after digging for rice and putting in the water, I will forget the plug. When the family was eating, they turned on the rice cooker and it was still rice and water.
Later, I didn't forget to plug in the plug, but several times I obviously wanted to cook rice, and it turned out to be porridge, because the water was too much. When cooking, I either put more salt or more sugar, and I am in a state of flux.
When the noodles were laid down, I didn't know to wait for the water to boil before putting the noodles down, I put the noodles together with cold water, and as a result, when the noodles were filled, the pot was a lump. There are many things like this, and I feel embarrassed, but my mother-in-law never said anything to me, but patiently taught me.
05
My mother-in-law knows the situation in my mother's house, and she has always been very distressed about me. She said that the mistakes I made were actually the responsibility of parents, who did not teach their children, could not blame me, and told me not to have psychological pressure.
Once, relatives came to my house for dinner, and of course I had to help my mother-in-law cook and entertain them, and I was in a state of flux. My husband's grandmother and two aunts talked about it, saying that I was too useless, like a half-fool, in the end I was not born well, there was no tutor...
The mother-in-law was very angry and immediately said to them, "Our daughter-in-law, I don't need you to take care of it!" Who hasn't been young? Who is born to do housework? My daughter-in-law took the initiative to do housework, which is good enough. Eldest sister, your daughter-in-law does not do housework all year round, and does not even wash the dishes; little sister, your daughter is not much better..."
When the two aunts and grandmother saw that my mother-in-law was angry, they immediately stopped saying nothing. My mother-in-law said to me, "Ignore them, they are full of food and are idle chewing their tongues." ”
I was so moved that I didn't know what to say, tears quietly welled up in my eyes, and then I cried out: Mom—
Later, with the help of my mother-in-law, I slowly grew up and did any housework. I don't have a mother, my mother-in-law has no daughter, and we are both like mother and daughter. She loved me, I honored her, and I never blushed once in decades. God didn't give me a good mother, but gave me a good mother-in-law, and I think I'm very happy.
epilogue:
The parents' marriage is not satisfactory, which will directly affect the growth of the child, and even affect the child's life. Ma Liyang's original family is not happy, fortunately, she married a good in-law, her mother-in-law gave her maternal love, and she also knows how to be grateful and cherished.
If you change to another mother-in-law, you may not only dislike the daughter-in-law who will not do housework, but also bully the daughter-in-law because there is no one in the daughter-in-law's family to support the daughter-in-law. Such examples abound in life, and those daughters-in-law have been wronged. Therefore, parents should not divorce easily, but should think more about their children.
Everyone has to grow up, when the daughter-in-law just married into the in-laws' family, she was still very young, many places do not understand, the mother-in-law must tolerate her more, give her a period of time to grow. The mother-in-law should also think differently, assuming that her son goes to someone else's house like a daughter-in-law, there will be many deficiencies.
The mother-in-law treats the daughter-in-law kindly, accepts and tolerates the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law must also know how to be grateful. When the mother-in-law is old and needs the care of her children, the daughter-in-law should also take care of the mother-in-law. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are mutual, you are good to me, I am also good to you, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be harmonious and harmonious.
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