Nowadays, the urban living environment is becoming more and more dense, people's living pressure is also increasing, and the cruelty of competition is also a key factor that cannot be ignored.
In fact, children have been passively involved in the cruel competitive environment since birth, and the four words "survival of the fittest" are the truth that adults know, so they do not want their children to lose at the starting line.
Nowadays, spelling and raising babies has become the biggest problem for many adults, although it is easy to have children, it is difficult to raise children. In order to create a good living environment for children, adults work hard to make money, do not want children to suffer, at least to let children have a good starting point in life.
But for different families, due to different economic conditions, there are also different trends in fertility issues. For example, some families are relatively wealthy, and after the birth of the child, the mother can take care of the child at home, do not need to bother the elderly, and can afford a nanny.
But for ordinary families, couples need to fight for careers, who to take care of the children has become a big problem, parents are getting older day by day, even if they want to take care of the child's body is not allowed.
If you are born with a male baby, you must also consider the future education of the child and the issue of marrying a daughter-in-law, so that you cannot fail to pay attention to the economic income of the family. Many parents believe that if you want to raise a male baby, you must prepare at least a million.
But now many families not only have a male baby, some have even chased the second child, and even followed the policy to give birth to a third child. If these three children are all male babies, and the family is not rich and expensive, how can it be good?
1. Bao's mother was forced by her family to have three children, and after giving birth to a male baby, she was complained by the whole family
Lin Liyun, 35, worked at an advertising agency before she married her husband. Although the monthly salary of that job is only more than 7,000, Lin Liyun's income is enough to maintain her good living conditions, and more importantly, the job has a certain room for development.
Lin Liyun was more enterprising before getting married, and usually put all her energy into work. However, Lin Liyun finally had to consider the life event of getting married and having children because of the pressure of her parents.
Lin Liyun and her husband have known each other for 7 years, they are college classmates, since the university days they began to fall in love, but then the two of them decided to stay in Shanghai to live, so they planned to save enough money before getting married. The conditions in her husband's family are very good, but he is not willing to rely on the family, and Lin Liyun also supports her husband's independence. In the years before he got married, he had been working hard in Shanghai, and in a few years, he had some achievements and saved some money.
Therefore, when Lin Liyun's parents urged marriage, they naturally entered the marriage hall. But after getting married, Lin Liyun faced a difficult choice, whether she gave up her career or stayed at home as a housewife?
Lin Liyun's husband and in-laws have advised her not to continue working, they also said that Lin Liyun is not young, even if there are some achievements in her career, it is very limited, for her, the most important thing is to have offspring, after all, Lin Liyun's age is not small.
Just when Lin Liyun did not know how to be good, Lin Liyun found out that she was pregnant. The whole family was happy at the time, and then she resigned from the company and began to raise a baby at home.
Lin Liyun gave birth to a boy for the first time, and her in-laws were not to mention how happy she was, and her husband's career was also developing well at that time, so raising a male baby was not a problem. However, the child was not yet two years old, and the in-laws began to urge Lin Liyun to have another child. In fact, Lin Liyun did not want to regenerate, but the in-laws thought that their son's career would be better and better in the future, and the family should be prosperous.
At that time, Lin Liyun had no chance to return to the workplace, so she listened to her in-laws and gave birth to another child. This fetus is still a boy, the husband and in-laws are very happy, and often show off outside: others want boys can not be born, our family gave birth to two are men!
Originally, Lin Liyun thought that after giving birth to two boys, she could not regenerate, who knows, the in-laws are still not satisfied, they hope that Lin Liyun will have another baby girl, the reason is that it is only after giving birth to a girl that she can make up the word "good".
Because of this problem, Lin Liyun and her husband had a conflict, but in the end Lin Liyun still gave birth to another child according to her in-laws' ideas, and this fetus was still a boy.
After the birth of this child, Lin Liyun was complained by the whole family, Lin Liyun had words of suffering, and even her mother scolded her for "deserved"!
2, the three children are male babies, the mother scolded the daughter "deserved"
In fact, when Lin Liyun gave birth to her second child, her husband's career had already had some crises. In the past, although there were some family foundations, my husband's career needed to be constantly invested in the operation of funds, so he did not save much money in a few years.
Lin Liyun's family lives in Shanghai, it is already difficult to raise a son, and her husband is the only economic pillar of the family, so Lin Liyun does not want to have a second child, let alone a third child.
But the in-laws and mothers-in-law are conservative in their thinking, and they don't know how their sons have done their business, so they have been forcing Lin Liyun to have children. Lin Liyun's husband wants face and does not want to disappoint his parents, so he always says that his career is no problem.
However, after giving birth to the third child, her husband could no longer laugh, and always let Lin Liyun save some money. Lin Liyun's life is getting poorer and poorer, although in the eyes of relatives and friends, their lives are very good, but Lin Liyun has bitterness to say.
Because Lin Liyun always quarreled with her husband over money, and the third child was not a female baby, so the in-laws also began to complain about her.
One day Lin Liyun went back to her mother's house, who knows, even her mother blamed her. Her mother thought that Lin Liyun was just asking for her own hardships, and now her life was so poor and sour, not because she had been born all the time.
Lin Liyun feels that she is not a person inside and out, her husband and in-laws are not her nose face is not a face, and her mother scolds her for "deserved", in fact, Lin Liyun is the most aggrieved person.
3, the growth environment is good, children suffer less
Although the older generation believes that in the past, the family conditions were not good and they still supported several children, but modern people are too delicate to have children.
In fact, the current living environment has a big gap with the past, and it can no longer be measured by the past living standards.
Parents are distressed about their children, but also hope to give their children the best living conditions, only a good growth environment, in order to let children grow up happily and healthily, to provide children with better education, they can have more choice opportunities when they grow up.