The "radical method" leads to a lack of trust, and attention should be paid to handling the "trust relationship" between the child and the child. Parents are the child's only social relationship until they reach adulthood. Therefore, the trust of parents is very important for children. The use of the "radical method" actually has the potential to alienate the child's trust in the parents. There is a man who, for the sake of the growth of his children, has chosen to divorce. Because, he feels that if the woman in front of him continues with himself, then the family will be disharmonious and will affect the growth of the child. For this reason, after the quarrel, the man did not argue, the woman said divorce, and he happily agreed. Of course, he did so, also a blessing, maybe they were not suitable, maybe she could find the right person. Marriage without trust is like a handful of sand, and when the wind blows, it will fall apart.
Men say that parents are the best mentors for children. It turns out that after the separation of two people, it is conducive to the education of the child, the child is now very good, and there is no unsound personality because of the growth of a single-parent family. Because the man tells the child: Mom and Dad are friends, two people disagree, they have worked hard for each other, but they still can't be together. But Mom loves you just as much. And there are some divorced families, often in front of the child to count each other, saying that the other party is not, so that the child has no sense of security since childhood, remain vigilant about others, lack of self-confidence.
Destroying children is the same as destroying families, arguing more. When both people will appreciate each other, then the marriage will last. The great inventor Edison could not have become an inventor without his mother's trust. When Edison was a child, once his teacher taught him a folding note and told him that only your mother could read it. After Edison obediently handed the note to his mother, his mother shed tears while watching, Edison asked his mother, what the teacher said, and his mother read it to Edison very loudly, your child is a genius. The school was too small for him to train him. Teach it yourself.
However, after the death of Edison's mother. In his mother's closet, Edison accidentally saw a letter written by the teacher to his mother, which turned out to be: Your child is mentally handicapped, we can't let him stay in school, he was dropped out of school. Finish reading this letter. Edison wept bitterly, and later wrote in his diary that Edison was an intellectually handicapped child, but that his mother had made him the genius of the century. It shows how important trust and encouragement are.
We have an old saying in China that we are born from the heart.
If you believe that your child is excellent, then he must be excellent, because you will take this excellent person seriously. When you think the child is bad, then you will treat it in a rude way. Don't say children, everyone has great potential, and whether this potential can be realized depends on the people around him. When we know encouragement and appreciation, there are solutions to the problem. You often laugh at each other, so it is often the others who are far away and dare not come close to you. There is a story of a child stuttering and stuttering, and the children around him are laughing at him and making fun of him. The mother found that the child was not confident, so she asked the child, and the child and the mother told the truth. He had thought that his mother would be as dissatisfied with himself as any other child.
Without thinking, Mom said: Your mouth can't keep up with your cleverness. The little boy grew up to become the former CEO of General Electric, Jack Wiltsch, with a diminutive little girl. He likes to play table tennis, and everyone doesn't look up to him, but his father firmly said to him, you are excellent. I really believe that this little girl of mine will grow up to be Deng Yaping, the world champion of table tennis. Therefore, no matter how much you give to your children, it is not as good as your affirmation of them. Parents are the child's mentors, to have more companionship, the family has a great impact on a person's growth.
Why in this article, the man gave up marriage for the sake of children? Because he feels that the woman in front of him cannot be a good mother, and if he wants to give his children a good future, he should not let his children be affected by this woman. Maybe this way is a bit extreme, but this is not life and death, maybe it's right to try it? Because, the wife does not trust herself, will not believe that his children are excellent is a high probability. A family that is always quarreling cannot raise children with sound personalities. The words and deeds of parents will affect the children, so yes, our family should be harmonious, especially after having children, some words, do not say in front of the child, give the child positive guidance, do not let them inferiority.
Love and trust are a magical force. Teachers carry a loving and trusting eye. Even if it is just a glance at the student, the young mind will be illuminated and reflected in beautiful images..... Will you choose divorce for the sake of your children's education?
Source: I am from Poyang