It's not a bad thing that a child is difficult to discipline, it's that the parents haven't discovered his talent yet.
In the process of parenting, there is no shortage of such situations:
As soon as you turn around, the child is on the big white wall, drawing some incomprehensible "Martian text";
When you turn around to answer the phone, the child sneaks into the kitchen and sprinkles a bag of flour into a white expanse;
When you are tired for a day, idle to watch a variety show, can not find the remote control, and finally found that there is only the wreckage of the remote control in a corner...
Some parents complained, "Human cubs tear down the house, as long as the child works hard enough, sooner or later he can be four walls." ”
The child is too naughty, there are too many "ghost ideas", which exhausts the parents, but this is not a bad thing.
Someone said, "The harder it is to bring a child, the smarter you are!" ”
Professor Li Meijin also said:
"It is not a bad thing that children are difficult to carry, but it is a manifestation of children's intelligence."
Especially if the child has these 3 behaviors, parents should be happy and guide them, and do not bury the child's "talent".
01
Children are curious and love to ask why
When children are young, they show a strong curiosity about everything.
A simple toy, an ant, he can stare at it for a long time.
They rummaged through boxes and cabinets at home every day, always wanting to see the novelty hidden in those places.
Children are curious and always look around, but parents are worried that their children will be injured.
But it is this curiosity that makes children feel the wonder of the world.
Someone said, "All inventions and creations in the world come from a strong curiosity." ”
Edison, the "king of invention", has been a child who has caused teachers a headache since he was a child.
He was curious about everything, such as when he always asked questions:
"Why does one plus one equal two?"
"Why don't fish drown?"
"Why does the stool have four legs?"
"Why do eggs hatch chicks?"
"Why is it winding"...
For Edison, the world in front of him is a hundred thousand "whys."
The teacher, on the other hand, was dumbfounded by his question, very annoyed.
In our lives, we are sometimes impatient with children's questions.
For example, when adults see a circle, it is a circle.
In the eyes of children, it can be the moon in the sky, the lollipops that want to eat, the tires that support the car to walk, or a bottomless pit full of mysteries.
Children will constantly ask us questions, and many parents are either perfunctory or impatient.
The child's curiosity is thus snuffed out by the parents.
Children who lack curiosity will gradually become mediocre.
The reason why Edison's mother can raise geniuses is inseparable from the guidance of her wisdom.
She encouraged Edison to ask questions and tried to protect Edison's curiosity.
Later, Edison made a big splash in his own field of interest.
Another Nobel laureate in physics, Richard Feynman, was also naturally curious.
When he was eleven or twelve, he set up his own laboratory at home.
And his parents were very supportive of his behavior.
In order to help him know "how ants find food", his parents accompanied him to do a series of experiments.
With the support of his parents, Richard Feynman was able to explore uncharted territory based on his curiosity, and ultimately achieve great results.
The British scientist Bacon once said:
"Curiosity is the bud of a child's wisdom, and asking questions is a sign of a child's desire for knowledge."
Every success starts with an idea.
Children's curiosity is innate and nourished by the family atmosphere.
As parents, we should carefully care for the child's curiosity, because curiosity is the child's most precious wealth.
First of all, we must respect the "100,000 whys" of our children.
For children's questions, we must not only not be perfunctory, but maintain a strong interest and explore with children.
Secondly, we must create a safe and interesting space for children, take children to nature, and stimulate children's curiosity.
Do not trap your child's curiosity because of the limitations of your own knowledge.
Because, that curiosity will fill the child's small head with great wisdom.
02
Children always question the views of adults
In our lives, children may often "contradict themselves".
Mom said to drink soup before eating;
The child will question, "Isn't it good to drink soup after eating?" ”
Maybe tell him the story of Sima Guang smashing the cylinder, he will say, "There must be a better way than smashing the cylinder." ”
A child, if you constantly question the views of adults, for many authoritative parents, this is intolerable.
They do not allow children to question their authority, or even impose their own views on their children.
They think that the child, questioning is provoking, or the child's understanding ability is poor.
In fact, children who dare to question are truly smart and brave children.
Zi Yue: "Doubt is the beginning of thinking, the end of learning." ”
Children will question, will have thinking, in order to achieve greater growth.
There were news reports that an 8-year-old boy questioned the wording and logic in the second-grade text "Nine Days of Shooting".
The chapter mentions earlier that "the water in the rivers has been steamed dry";
In the following paragraphs, it is immediately mentioned that "he waded through ninety-nine great rivers."
The little boy questioned:
"The water is all steamed, why use it?"
In the face of her son's doubts, the boy's mother sent a circle of friends, which was soon uploaded to the Internet, causing heated discussions.
Perhaps, most of us parents encounter this kind of problem and may say to their children:
"The text is carefully choreographed and there can be no mistakes."
"What is written on it is what it is, where are so many questions coming from?" Can you still question authority? ”
But the boy's mother did not give up, and she contacted the People's Education Publishing House several times to inquire.
Finally, they waited for the response of the official Weibo of the Renjiao Society:
"This kid dared to question, was able to read and think, and asked good questions... It is true that the writing is inappropriate, and the textbook will be appropriately modified. ”
Children who dare to question, they will not easily superstitiously believe in authority, but have the courage to break through and innovate.
A child who only knows memory, is not good at thinking, and does not dare to question problems will not have the ability to innovate and will eventually tend to be mediocre.
As parents, we must pay attention to the questions raised by children, encourage children to think, and cultivate children's habits of using their brains.
In this way, children are diligent in thinking and good at using their brains, and their ability to grasp knowledge and grow at a rate that is better than their peers.
03
Children always love to "sabotage"
Many parents always complain about their children and love to "sabotage":
"The toys in the house are dismantled by the child;
Buy a remote control plane, play for half a day and be 'dismembered' by the child.
When he was bored, he would even dig a hole in the TV set at home and say to see if he could get in..."
When encountering such a thing, many parents will be mad and broken.
On the surface, the child has "invincible destructive power";
In fact, "sabotage" is a child's curiosity and exploration of the world.
In fact, as long as parents are correctly guided, this behavior of children is not a bad thing.
MIT professors, who have spent 20 years studying the world's talented scientists and engineers, found that they all have one thing in common: "strong hands-on ability."
Sukhomlinsky also said:
"The wisdom of the child is at the tip of his finger."
Children can do it, and the cerebellum melon is naturally smart.
Once on the Internet, there was a schoolboy on fire.
His name is Zhang Rongjing, only 12 years old, for the invention of the "anti-fall window", won the gold medal of the 118th Paris Invention Exhibition, France, and it is also the highest award won by the Chinese delegation at this invention exhibition.
This invention, borrowing the principle of transparent elevator, when the latch is opened, the window is up, and the protective window automatically goes down;
When the window is down, the protective window is automatically up.
Undoubtedly, this invention must have been the idea that came up after his countless hands-on actions.
There was a girl in Changsha, Hunan Province, who invented a "portable takeaway disinfection box with dehumidification and disinfection functions".
This invention won the gold medal at the 6th Macao International Exhibition of Innovative Inventions.
This "treasure chest" was invented by the girl when the girl came up with an idea during a family road trip.
Because during the trip, the younger siblings' bottles and dishes could not be disinfected after being washed.
This invention, as long as the dishes and chopsticks are put into the "box", it can be used for Bluetooth or mobile phone networks to carry out automatic dehumidification and disinfection.
Dad introduced that girls have strong hands-on ability from an early age, "love to engage in destruction", and things in the family often have to go through the painful experience of being dismantled and reorganized.
Children love to "sabotage" from an early age, and the key is to see how parents guide.
For children's "destructive behavior", we must teach children to eliminate dangerous things.
For example, tell children what can be dismantled and what cannot be played.
When the child is engaged in sabotage, we must encourage and assist the child to install things.
In life, we encourage our children to be small repairmen.
In this way, it can not only satisfy the child's desire to explore, enhance his ability to use his brain, but also cultivate his sense of family responsibility.
At the same time, we must tell our children that we must learn to "clean up the aftermath" and clean up the scene of "sabotage" by ourselves.
Children will inspire more wisdom and creativity in bold exploration.
Children are difficult to discipline, many parents have experienced, but do not have to worry too much.
Children who are difficult to discipline tend to think more actively, are more hands-on, and have the ability to innovate, and parents should be happy about this.
If your child has the above three performances, parents should think carefully about how to guide positively.
Only in this way can we let the "advantage" of the child be released to the greatest extent!
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