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The ancients said: "When the moon is full, it loses, and when the water is full, it overflows." ”
When a person reaches the top, he has to go downhill. If you want to avoid this phenomenon, you must know how to "leave room" and let yourself always have room for progress.
However, greedy people always want to occupy the mountain as king and live a condescending life.
For example, Qin Shi Huang wanted to live forever and sent people to look for immortal medicines, but he spent money and did not return. The jiangshan he had worked so hard to build was also destroyed by Qin II.
Therefore, the really smart people, in the following four things, leave room for it, will not do it all.
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First, there is no end to the words, and there is room for maneuver.
When people say three points, they can't throw away a piece of their hearts.
If you talk too much, take out everything in your heart and show it to people, and swear to heaven, then you will force yourself to the end of the road. If you say it, you can't do it, but you will be laughed at by people, and you will become a person who does not pay attention to credit.
I've seen a story about a young man who walks into Edison's lab and wants to study seriously. The young man patted his chest and said, "I will invent a universal solution that can dissolve everything." ”
Edison asked, "So, what vessel do you use to hold this solution?" Will the utensils also be dissolved? ”
The young man was speechless and could only bow his head and concede defeat.
Speaking is an art and very flexible. As a result, people invented words like "should, maybe, maybe, next time." If you can make good use of these words, then make mistakes, there is still a chance to correct, things that cannot be done, things that can be shirked, things that can be missed, can also be found, tasks that cannot be completed, and there is a next chance.
All aggressive ways of speaking are undesirable; all categorical words must be considered clearly and realistically; contradictory words must be wrong as soon as they are opened.
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Second, things must not be too perfect, and some flaws must be tolerated.
A colleague of mine writes material to his boss.
Once, he wrote the material and asked me to see what I wanted to change. I took a closer look and found three sick sentences.
The next day, the boss got the material, read it again, then found the person who wrote the material, pointed out the inappropriate places, and marked it.
I picked up the material again and looked at it, and found three sick sentences, always there. I asked, "Why didn't you correct it in time?" ”
Colleagues said: "There are some mistakes that need to be repeatedly demonstrated to reflect the level of the collective. ”
A word awakens the dreamer. When people interact with each other, they must know humility and let others have the opportunity to find mistakes. If something is perfect, then you are somewhat "arrogant" and will make someone one level higher than you look awkward; more likely, we have made a one-sided judgment.
In fact, nothing is perfect, flawed, and taken for granted. Just like the beauty of Venus, it is precisely because of a broken arm that it is highlighted.
Abroad, there was a famous sculptor Michelangelo, who sculpted the statue of David. At the time of the statue's inauguration, officials pointed out that the nose was too high. Michelangelo walked up to the statue and tapped lightly, his nose a little shorter. Suddenly, it won a round of applause.
Retaining flaws is the cleverness of being a person, and it is also the space where you can make progress.
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Third, life should have regrets, don't desperately pursue fulfillment.
In the "Cai Gen Tan", it is said: "Zhang Ben, who makes one step higher in the world, and regressive is progress." ”
Being a person, if he can take the initiative to retreat, it shows that he has a high sentiment and knows humility.
If you want to destroy a person, then desperately let him pursue perfection. For example, some women, trying their best to make themselves beautiful, spend a lot of money, rectify their appearance, and buy very expensive clothes and cosmetics. As a result, because the rectification was too strong, it lost its natural beauty, and its face became stiff.
No matter how hard a person tries, he will also leave regrets. Smart people, who regard regret as beauty, and then live this life with great satisfaction.
As the saying goes, "The east gate does not open the west door." "If a person can't get on one road, then take a different path. The regrets left behind before can be replaced by other successes, otherwise, it is a road to black.
In the Spring and Autumn Period, Confucius once wanted to be an official, and at the age of 20, he began to serve as a commissioner of the State of Lu. Although he governs well, he is not reused. Later, he went to Wei, Chen, Cao, Song, Zheng, Cai, Chu and other countries, met with many officials, and also talked with the monarch, but never became a high official.
However, he did not abandon himself, but spread his ideas through teaching. Later generations believed that Confucius was a politician. He said that "the emperor and the subject of the father and the son", extending the title of "parent official", which we still use to this day.
Don't deliberately pursue perfection, but inadvertently plant willows. If you think like this, life has always been on the road to perfection.
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Fourth, blessings cannot be shared alone, but with others.
During the Jin Dynasty, there was an official named "Gu Rong" who ate barbecue meat with his friends.
A servant, standing by his side, drooling profusely. After Gu Rong saw it, he divided a part of his roast meat and gave it to the servants to eat.
Everyone laughed at him, how can he be friends with the next person?
During the Yongjia Rebellion, Gu Rong avoided chaos everywhere, and was cared for by servants who ate barbecue meat along the way, truly embodying the common suffering.
Many people, when they are proud, will have an invincible appearance and ignore all people. For those who are one level lower than themselves, they have also made crushing actions.
There is a word called "SuiXi". In other words, share your blessings with others, and your blessings will grow geometrically.
The ancients said, "Misfortune depends on blessings, and blessings and misfortunes lie down." "When a person enjoys happiness, it also means that disaster will come. Therefore, by dividing the blessings, man is far from the "highest point" and the calamity is far away.
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The poet Meng Jiao once said: "There will be a road in the mountains, and there will always be life in the middle of nowhere." ”
There is no dead end in the world, but many people, exhausted their words, done things to the extreme, occupied the benefits, and forced themselves to the end of the road step by step.
If you feel like there's nowhere to go, take a step back and you'll soon be in a desperate situation.
If a person reaches the top, then he takes the initiative to go downhill, which is also uphill.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
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