Often, a girl sends me a long list of messages backstage, telling me about her love affair, and then asking me to help her analyze:
Does her boyfriend still love her? Can she and her boyfriend still get married? Do two people have a future?
In fact, most of the girls who come to the consultation have deep doubts about the feelings of the two people.
Some of them are very sober and know what the problem with the relationship really is. But despite this, they are still reluctant to let go, and they don't know how to solve the problem.
Other girls, they are completely confused about the situation, only know that men's attitudes towards them have changed, but why this is so, they are ignorant.
Therefore, today Wen Ji said that Teacher Ai Jianyu brought "Six Questions of Love" to answer your confusion about the relationship between you.
Love Six Questions is a set of "judging love" artifacts specially prepared for couples in long-term relationships.
I need everyone to answer the questions in order.
Believe me, after answering, your state of affairs between you will suddenly become clear. Today we will give you the first two questions in the "Six Questions of Love".
Note: Do not skip answers or miss answers during the answering process.
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First question: Although you have loved each other, do you really know each other?
Understanding a person requires three levels:
NO.1
The first layer is the surface information, that is, birthday, blood type, preferences and so on.
NO.2
The second layer is the field of love information: we all know that there are six major areas of love:
Intimacy, money, bottom line, housework and lifestyle habits, timing, relationships.
If you know each other well enough, you should be very tacit in these six areas.
Come, now answer in turn:
What are the other person's preferences in terms of intimacy?
What is your view of money? Will you deliberately avoid money issues or negotiate a harmonious money relationship?
What do you think loyalty is? What counts as derailment? Are your boundaries with the opposite sex clear? Do you agree with each other's bottom line?
Write down 10 habits of the other person.
Do you have the same view of time? What's the difference?
How much do you seep into each other's interpersonal spheres?
NO.3
The third layer is the information on future planning: each other's ideals, each other's life plans, and long-term emotional life, how is the future marriage blueprint planned, do you know each other?
Notice, is it clear to each other that I'm asking here?
Only when the two sides understand each other on these issues can they really understand each other. If both of you find that there are still ambiguities, then, in a timely manner, the problem will not swell into a matter of principle.
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Second question: Can you really give each other the life they want?
Don't shy away from this question.
Let me start with a case. My fan Wenwen, she is a high-achieving student in finance, after graduation, she wants to stay in Shanghai, and her boyfriend can't help him, so he accompanies her to work in Shanghai.
But in fact, the boyfriend only wants to go back to his hometown in Anhui to be a civil servant, so the boyfriend prepares for the exam while going to work, and this year, the boyfriend was admitted to his hometown and returned to Anhui.
Of course, Wenwen did not want to, and the boyfriend issued an ultimatum: the marriage room is ready, you go back with me, you get married, you don't go back, you break up.
Wenwen was momentarily confused.
In fact, in the past two years, they have gotten along very well, and the emotional foundation is also very deep, but they have not explored these issues:
1. What is your blueprint for future marriage? Can you support and are willing to support each other's future?
2, marriage has an essence of mutual support, can you do this?
3. Can you really give each other the life they want? Have you discussed this?
There is a song called "Remember":
Who remembers when love begins, when it changes
I saw in your eyes, a different sky
Walking too far to finally come to the intersection of the fork in the road
It's not you and me, there have to be two
The opposite dream...
If you have been avoiding the second question and refusing to negotiate, then your ending will inevitably become two "opposite dreams."
The first two questions of love six questions are over, six questions, one question is more than one question to the point, if you want to quickly check your love status, solve your emotional confusion, don't forget to like it.