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In real life, many small couples will live with the elderly because they need to be taken care of after having a baby.
Small families become large families, and there will be more contact with each other, and contradictions cannot be avoided.
However, many young people in order to let the elderly help themselves with their children, even if there are some unpleasantness in life, they will choose to endure on the surface, and in their hearts they hope that their children will grow up early and they can live separately from the elderly.
Not long ago, I saw a hot topic on the Internet: when the child does not need to be picked up, will you "invite" the old man back to his hometown?
Let's listen to Ms. Zhang's experience.
Ms. Zhang is a working mother, from the moment she learned of pregnancy, her mother-in-law carried her luggage from her hometown to her son's city to help take care of her daughter-in-law.
The mother-in-law is industrious and capable, and Ms. Zhang is also very grateful, but what she did not expect is that the mother-in-law's stay is 9 years.
In the past 9 years, due to all aspects of life, Ms. Zhang and her mother-in-law have gone from mutual respect and mutual love to the point of mutual hatred, in Ms. Zhang's words, the bitter taste is known only to themselves.
In the past 9 years, Ms. Zhang has also been hoping that her son will grow up quickly every day, and finally, when the child reaches the upper grade of primary school, he can go to and from school independently.
Taking advantage of a meal, Ms. Zhang proposed to her mother-in-law to invite her to return to her hometown for the elderly.
Unexpectedly, this meal was not happy and scattered, in the eyes of the mother-in-law, he helped his daughter-in-law to bring children for 9 years, but in the end he was picked up by his daughter-in-law and returned to his hometown, which is simply a white-eyed wolf who does not know gratitude.
After that, the mother-in-law clearly told her son that since it took 9 years to bring up the child, then their young couple must send themselves to the end of the pension, the wife died early, if they were picked up by the son and daughter-in-law back to their hometown, it would be very faceless to be seen by the neighbors around them.
And Ms. Zhang is also full of grievances about this, she has always hoped to live a small life of three, for this reason also endured for many years, but did not expect to be kidnapped by her mother-in-law in the end.
At the thought of her mother-in-law having to spend the rest of her life with herself, Ms. Zhang was very anxious.
After Ms. Zhang shared her experience online, many parents and parents expressed their views in the message area, and these answers also made netizens call it very realistic.
Netizens hotly discussed:
"Let go home, it's good, after a lifetime of hard work, you should also go home and have a good rest, young people think that there is nothing wrong with the world of two people."
"To be treated according to the situation, if you are healthy and your wife is also in your hometown, then after the child is brought up, it is normal for the old man to return to his hometown, but if it is a widowed old man, the daughter-in-law will take the old man back to his hometown, which is very unauthentic in the eyes of outsiders."
"I'm the old man with the baby, I'm the child's grandmother, and if my daughter-in-law says that to me, I'm sure I'll pack my bags and go home that same day."
"My mother-in-law has brought me children for more than three years, of which the hard work others do not know that I am the most clear, the elderly with children often pay more than young people, they take children in addition to their own like children, but also for us to reduce the pressure, as children, we should not cross the river and tear down bridges, I will be filial to my mother-in-law for the rest of my life, give her a pension to send her to the end."
Daughter-in-law invites her mother-in-law back to her hometown, is this practice not to understand gratitude?
Many people say that falling in love is a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families, and for women, the two-person world before giving birth to a child and the big family model after having a child are also obviously different.
From a personal point of view, the vast majority of women are eager to live a two-person world or a family of three, but the arrival of children has to push some women to adapt to extended family life.
But when the lack of communication leads to discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we will miss our former lives more and more.
Therefore, when children do not need the care of the elderly, it is very normal for mothers to have this kind of thinking, which is a common sentiment of people, but as an important giver in the family, the feelings of the elderly should also be taken care of by their children.
If the elderly gladly accept to go home, it is naturally easy to do, if the elderly have adapted to life in the city, and clearly show that they want to retire around their children, the children should communicate with the elderly and find a compromise way.
For example, buying or renting a house separately around it, so that there is a "bowl of soup" between the two generations.
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