Emotional writer Lu Qi once said: "When you marry, you are not married to a certain person, but to marry all the social relations of this person." So what kind of family you marry, what kind of marriage will you have. ”
Every choice a woman makes in her life is an opportunity to change her destiny. If you choose the right one, then your life can be reborn. If you choose the wrong one, then you will fall into the abyss and cannot extricate yourself.
Therefore, a woman's marriage is the woman's second reincarnation. A person's birth is not chosen. But if the marriage is still not chosen, then you can only blame yourself for having no eyes.
01, the husband does not hand in the salary card, let the wife to support the family
Xiao Min and her husband are college classmates and have always had a deep relationship. The husband is sunny and handsome, and he is very pleasing to people. Therefore, Xiao Min, who fell in love with her husband at first sight, let go of the girl's reticence and took the initiative to pursue her husband.
After the two people fell in love, her husband was very close to her. Just a year after graduating from college, Xiao Min couldn't wait to marry her husband. It was only their marriage that was opposed by Xiao Min's parents.
Xiao Min is the only daughter in the family, and her parents are in business, and the conditions are very superior. But the husband's hometown is rural, the family is very poor, and there is a younger brother. Although he looked good, he barely finished college by relying on student loans and work-study.
During the love period, Xiao Min was distressed by her husband, and the expenses such as dating and shopping between the two people were basically paid by Xiao Min. At that time, she didn't think too much, thinking that if she liked him, she should be good to him and pay more.
At the time of marriage, the husband's parents, who were only 48 years old, showed up. But the in-laws did not have the money to buy a house for their eldest son, and Xiao Min's parents were reluctant to let their daughter suffer hardships, so they had to pay for them to buy a house. And this dowry room has naturally become the marriage room for Xiao Min and her husband.
After marriage, Xiao Min repeatedly rubbed hard bubbles with her husband and asked him to turn in his salary card, but her husband still refused to turn it in, and said that his salary had other uses, so that Xiao Min could spend her money.
As a result, Xiao Min not only could not get her husband's salary, but her monthly salary was all tied to the mortgage and support for the family. After a long time, although Xiao Min loved her husband deeply, she was still very uncomfortable in her heart, thinking that she had been cheated by her husband.
02, the mother-in-law's sick wife transferred 3,000
Xiao Min and her husband's life stumbled through like this. Six months after marriage, Xiao Min was pregnant. It's just such a leisurely life, which is broken by the in-laws. Until one day, the father-in-law suddenly called and said that he was hospitalized with a cold, that he was a little sick, and that he had been dripping.
Although the impression of the in-laws is average, the other party is after all the husband's parents, so Xiao Min still decided to give the mother-in-law some money to express her heart. Only after opening his mobile phone, Xiao Min found that his balance was only a thousand yuan.
The husband had just gone into the shower on the front foot, and Xiao Min called out to her husband several times, but he didn't hear it. Xiao Min had no choice but to pick up her husband's mobile phone and transfer 3,000 yuan to her mother-in-law. As a result, not long after the money was transferred, the mother-in-law replied with a message in seconds: your brother wants 50,000 yuan to buy a house, don't take 3,000 to fool me, you have to give 30,000.
Xiao Min was confused at once, just as her husband came out of the shower. Seeing Xiao Min holding his mobile phone, he yelled and rushed over to grab the mobile phone. Xiao Min asked her husband in disbelief what was going on, how the mother-in-law took 3,000 and was not satisfied, and she wanted 30,000.
Seeing that he could not hide it, the husband opened his mouth and truthfully confessed everything. He said he didn't hand in his paycheck card because his parents asked him to send back 3,000 yuan a month for living expenses. He did not want Xiao Min to know that after the family had a conflict, it would affect the feelings of the husband and wife.
But some time ago, his brother wanted to get married, and the woman had to buy a house, and she refused to get married without a house. It's just that his brother is not in business, he is used to being good, he is barely able to support himself, where can he afford to buy a house?
The in-laws did not do things early, and had been waiting for the eldest son to retire, and could not get the down payment, so they had to let the eldest son give money. Only the husband gave 20,000 yesterday, but the mother-in-law was not satisfied, and she also wanted her husband to give 30,000 and make up 50,000.
03. The wife revokes the transfer and divorces
Xiao Min did not expect that her husband would carry her on his back and spend 3,000 yuan a month to support his in-laws, and he would have to take his own salary to buy a house for his brother. The thought of her husband living in her house and relying on her to support him turned out to be a joke.
No wonder that every time Xiao Min asked her husband to hand in his salary card, he always prevaricated and supported. Xiao Min thought that he was selfish and unwilling, but he did not expect that he had no money at all, and the money was taken away by his in-laws for various reasons.
The more Xiao Min thought about it, the more angry he became, angry at his lazy in-laws and uncles, and even angrier at her husband's foolish filial piety and confusion. She was alone and devoted to this family, but her husband was good, did not consult with her, and has been taking his salary to subsidize the bottomless pit of his in-laws over the years.
Thinking of this, Xiao Min resolutely withdrew the transfer and filed for divorce with her husband. But the husband said nothing, he refused to divorce, saying that he was also forced to be helpless, on the one hand was his parents and brothers, on the other side were his wife and children, the palms of his hands and the backs of his hands were all meat, and he could not stand by and watch.
But Xiao Min couldn't help this breath, the in-laws were holding on to her husband's soft heart and foolish filial piety, only to ask for money again and again, and each time she successfully succeeded. Xiao Min was disappointed, even if she loved this man deeply, she also had a temper and dignity.
When in love, she took the initiative to chase after her husband. When getting married, the mother's family posted a house upside down. Now, I still want her to paste her in-laws' house, but there is no door. Such a delicious and lazy in-laws, she can't afford to stick, and she doesn't want to burden her parents.
However, her parents advised her to think clearly, after all, Xiao Min was still pregnant with a child in her belly, no matter what her parents did wrong, the child was always innocent. I thought that if I divorced, the child in my belly would live in a single-parent family. But Xiao Min didn't want to blindly paste the in-laws down, when was such a upside-down sticker a head?
Today's Topic:
Do you support Xiao Min's divorce?
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