The TV series "Dear Child" finale, Hehe's illness is getting more and more serious, although the Fang, Xie, Xiao families have given everything they have, but money can not buy life. At this time, Xiao Lu's former boss Su Jingwei's conscience was touched and decided to donate bone marrow to Hehe.
At the end of the play, just like the voiceover, the audience only hears its voice, does not see its people, it feels that Hehe is sick and has gone to school, and Fang Yinuo is also like other parents who have a big head for their children's homework, but it gives people a less real feeling.
This is a relatively open ending, leaving the audience to imagine and choose, how to think that it is not wrong.
It can be said that this drama has earned enough tears from the audience, and from this heart-wrenching story, there are several truths about marriage that need to be constantly vigilant for men and women in marriage.
Love is not high or low, but marriage must be right
Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo are lovers in college, and they love each other deeply. However, when they talked about marriage, they were opposed by the Fang family's parents, for only one reason, that is, the door was not right.
Xiao Lu's family is poor, his mother has no job and no culture, and he mixes in the mahjong hall every day; his younger brother is not doing the right thing, he is ambitious and talented, and he always wants to get rich overnight. The Fang family is a Kochi family, and conditions like the Xiao family are naturally not eye-catching, no matter from what aspect, the two families are incompatible.
In the end, Yinuo and Xiao Lu still broke through the obstacles to get married, but it did not mean that the Fang family could accept Xiao Lu's mother and brother, and they looked down on the Xiao family from the bone. Fang Yinuo liked only Xiao Lu alone, fortunately, they lived alone, did not have to live with their mother-in-law, and the days were relatively calm.
However, the birth of the child changed all that. Because of taking care of the children, Xiao Mu and Fang Mu lived in successively, and when the two parents with completely different habits, cultivation and quality had to live in a space for some reason, the contradiction would inevitably erupt, so Xiao Lu's home was a mess.
There is a saying: "Marry a wife without marrying a woman with a head, and marry a man who does not marry a man with a bow head." "Fang Yinuo's marriage into the Xiao family belongs to the low level, so she has a great sense of superiority, and her mother is even more excessive than her daughter.
Xiao Mu was a nervous and unsympathetic person, and she made a mistake when taking care of Hehe, which made Fang Yinuo's mother and daughter catch the handle, infinitely magnified her mistakes, and did not allow her to touch the child again, only to let her be busy like a maid, and even did not bother to pay attention to her.
Therefore, in Fang Yinuo's small home, their mother and daughter have absolute right to speak, which can be described as covering the sky with one hand. As Xiao Xu said, "Is this my brother's family?" I think it's your family, the Fang family—" Xiao Lu knew his mother's grievances and embarrassment in this family, but there was nothing he could do.
In this marriage, Fang Yinuo is a "head-up woman" who is high on top; Xiao Lu is a low-headed man, and he can only bow his head in order to calm things down. This is a relationship that is clearly unequal.
This is the after-effect of a marriage with the wrong door. Xiao Lu had to endure the joint accusations and criticism of his wife and mother-in-law, and he could not refute it, which made him feel suffocated, so he began to escape. In the end, the marriage ended because of infidelity.
Some people say that the reason why Fang Yinuo will be like that is because of postpartum anxiety, but there are many people with postpartum anxiety, and not every pregnant woman is like her. Her harshness and irritability are the embodiment of her true heart.
In marriage, there is not only love, but also chai rice oil and salt, and there will also be parents and relatives of both parties, so it is particularly important to be a door-to-door pair.
For example, Zhou Bingyi and Hao Dongmei in "The World of Man", because the social status of the two families is very different, so the two people have been walking on thin ice. What's more, Fang Yinuo's personality is not comparable to Hao Dongmei at all, so it is not surprising that they ended up with a divorce.
If you are not prepared to be a parent, never have children
A young mother took advantage of the child's sleep and locked her two-year-old child in the house, she went out to chat with people, and when she came back, she saw the child through the window, slapping the glass with her hand, and she was crying, and her throat was already crying.
This is what happened to me, a lot of young couples, naturally have children, they did not think about how to be parents, did not realize the responsibility of parenthood. Fortunately, the above story did not cause serious consequences, but in the child's heart, it left a psychological shadow, even if he woke up, his mother was not around.
Therefore, when a couple wants to be a parent, they must be prepared and clear about their responsibilities.
There is no doubt that Fang Yinuo is a good mother, and she can sacrifice anything for the sake of the child, but this does not mean that she is ready before giving birth. They were induced by both parents and became pregnant when the two elderly people promised to help with the child.
Or the couple has done their homework on how to raise children and how to feed, but they are not mentally prepared, otherwise they will not make the family jump because of a child.
The advent of the new life brings happiness and joy to the parents, but only anxiety and impatience are reflected in Fang Yinuo, and helplessness and resignation are reflected in Xiao Lu. In the whole month, there is a sister-in-law, a mother-in-law and a mother-in-law, it can be said that I have never left anyone, but it is still a mess of porridge.
If you don't think about how to be a parent, it is better not to have children first, because every wrong decision you make will have a huge impact on your children.
Fang Yinuo divorced because Xiao Lu cheated and was angry. In order to get revenge on Xiao Lu, she made an extremely wrong decision: she would not allow Xiao Lu to watch the child. So before Hehe was five years old, she had never seen her father, because she had not received his father's love, and she actually called others "father".
As a teacher, Fang Yinuo should know what it means for a child to lack the company of his father in the process of his child's growth. She was wrong to deprive her father and daughter of time together because of her personal resentment.
But Fang Yinuo selectively ignored it, from the very beginning she was wrong again and again, and she was responsible for Hehe's illness.
Therefore, the husband and wife should think about all aspects before having a child, and the changes that pregnancy may bring to the body, physiology, and psychology, as well as the time and economic impact after the birth of the child. If you want to be a good parent, you must first become a happy couple, so that your children can grow up healthily in a peaceful atmosphere.
The person who doesn't love you, don't be with him
No matter how much you love each other, if the other person doesn't love you, then don't be together.
Xie Tianhua has had a crush on Fang Yinuo since he was in college, and seeing that Fang Yinuo is married to Xiao Lu, he still silently guards her. There is nothing wrong with loving someone, feelings are uncontrollable, but because his love has tired his home, his humble love, so that his parents have become the same wronged as he is, which is wrong.
After watching this drama, the entire network audience was upset about Xie Tianhua. He married Fang Yinuo, who did not love him, and helped her raise the children; the adopted girl was sick, and he spared no effort before and after saddle the horse, and even sold the house in the end, but in exchange for what?
In order to save Hehe, Fang Yinuo wanted to have another child with Xiao Lu, and he agreed. However, at the critical moment, Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu failed to take the last step, but found that they were pregnant with Xie Tianhua's child. The Xie family was overjoyed, only Xie Tianhua knew whether this child could be born, and it depended on how Fang Yinuo made a choice.
He could detect that Fang Yinuo was more inclined to be a child in his womb. No matter how great and kind he is, he also hopes to have a biological flesh and blood call himself a father, but can he really?
Xie Danduo, a strong person, in order to help his brother keep the child, knelt down and begged Fang Yinuo, but Fang Yinuo was indifferent. This can't be blamed on Fang Yinuo's fierce heart, and she has no way, but it is really unfair to treat Xie Tianhua like this.
But who is to blame? Wasn't all this Xie Tianhua begging for! In order to marry Fang Yinuo, he ignored the opposition of his family; he knew that Fang Yinuo did not love him, just to find a father for Hehe, and he was still willing to be this receiver.
In fact, it doesn't matter what happens later, if Fang Yinuo really loves him, everything Xie Tianhua does should be, because they are a family and a community. And the fact is that Fang Yinuo does not love him at all, but everyone really can't blame Fang Yinuo, it is Xie Tianhua who found himself, it is he who pits his parents and sister, so that his parents have no grandchildren (granddaughters) to bear the knees, let them take out all the pension money, let the family accompany him sad and anxious.
Things have developed to this point, and the marriage of Fang and Xie has already cracked. Reality is not as idealistic as a TV series, and in real life, once the rift is created, it is not so easy to heal. When a person pays a lot but does not get a response, there will be imbalance in the heart, and then a vicious circle, such a great man as Xie Tianhua, in reality, there are very few.
Since the person you love without hesitation does not bring you happiness, what are you trying to do? Marriages like this, don't do it.
If you love someone but he doesn't love you, then cut through the mess and don't give your heart in vain, because it's not worth it.