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In order to see his daughter, the second-married man with an annual salary of 40w does not buy a house or have a baby after remarriage.
In the face of her husband's "eccentricity", the wife chose to understand and tolerate, who knows, her hidden ren did not exchange for the husband's double love, only in exchange for a "inch forward" request.
The husband's name is Xiao Lu, and the wife's name is Dong Fan.
During the time when Xiao Lu Z was frustrated, the two met. Dong Fan has a cheerful personality, like a small sun, which instantly warms Xiao Lu's heart.
3 In this way, the second married man and the first married woman hit it off and formed a family.
Dong Fan does not mind Xiao Lu's past, nor does she mind that he has a daughter with her ex, in her opinion, loving someone is unconditionally good to him, so she does her best to please her husband and his family.
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Even when she proposed that she wanted a child, but her husband chose not to have a baby or buy a house in order to save her daughter with leukemia, she did not show the loss in her heart.
She loves unreservedly, but also humblely.
It wasn't until one time, Xiao Lu suddenly made a request to make it difficult for her to ride the tiger, that she finally broke out.
Xiao Lu said that to save his daughter, he could only have a second child with his ex-wife and use the second son to save the boss.
Dong Fan was stunned, she trembled and said: "Our marriage has always had to give way for Hehe, and now because you and your ex-wife's daughter can't have children, you still want me to accept that you have a second." "You're too selfish, you're too bullying."
In the face of her husband's request to have a second child with her ex-wife, this time, she was unwilling to compromise again, as she herself said: "I am just an ordinary person, you want to have a second child with your ex-wife, I can't accept it, no one in this world can accept it." ”
In the end, the two quarreled, and Dong Fan took the initiative to propose divorce.
This is a clip from the hit drama "Dear Child", although it is only a TV series, it is not lacking in practical significance.
The contradiction in the marriage between Xiao Lu and Dong Fan, on the surface, is caused by the problem caused by the ex and his daughter, but in fact, the root of the problem is actually in the couple themselves: one does not know how to communicate in time, and the other does not think in empathy.
Dong Fan once said bluntly that she did not mind her husband putting all his efforts on his daughter, and also tried to accept not to buy a house and not to have a baby.
But for these things, she also has dissatisfaction in her heart, which can be seen from the dialogue between the two when they argue.
She said: "I never minded your previous marriage, nor did I mind that you loved Hehe so much, I have always understood you and considered you, I thought you know, have you considered my feelings?" ”
It can be seen that she has grievances in her heart, and she hopes that her husband will understand, but she never takes the initiative to communicate, and the reality has not been as she wishes. So, when her husband's demands crossed her bottom line, she broke down.
It is not difficult to find that in this relationship, Dong Fan has been hiding ren and never declaring his dissatisfaction in his heart, but it is precisely this silence that has buried hidden dangers for his feelings.
Mr. Lu Xun said: "If you do not erupt in silence, you will perish in silence." ”
Their marriage, like this, the dissatisfaction accumulated to a certain extent, and can not find an outlet, can only go to the fall apart.
On the other hand, Xiao Lu has never really stood in Dong Fan's perspective and thought differently, otherwise, he would not have easily decided not to have a baby with her, nor would he always accept her efforts for granted.
He thought that Dong Fan would once again tolerate him, but he did not know that the idea of having a second child with his ex-wife had completely stepped on her bottom line.
Therefore, Dong Fan's initiative to mention L marriage is unexpected and reasonable.
In marriage, failure to communicate will breed grievances, and not transposing will cause a lack of position.
In the long run, the distance between the two will become farther and farther, the feelings will become weaker and weaker, and one day, when they are tired of each other, they will cause a marriage crisis.
If a relationship wants to go long, it must know how to communicate and empathize in a timely manner.
It is not only the basis for husband and wife to understand and tolerate each other, but also the maturity and self-discipline that men and women must have in marriage.
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Author: Monday Sauce, a girl who wants to drive a caravan to the end of the world, may we become friends.
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