Marriage should pay attention to the door to the door, this is the old ancestor's summary of the marriage experience, which is very reasonable. The door-to-door pair mentioned here does not only refer to economic conditions or social status, but should include all aspects, such as academic qualifications, age and marriage history.
When two people in a similar situation are together, it will be easier to reach a consensus on many issues, which will reduce contradictions. The biggest difference between people is actually the difference in cognition. Because the ideas are different, the practices will be different; because the practices are different, the couple will be prone to differences and contradictions.
Marriage needs to be managed, and remarriage will be more difficult to manage than the first marriage, and it will be more difficult to deal with family relations. If both partners have a history of marriage, it is relatively easier to understand and tolerate each other. If one person is unmarried and the other has a history of marriage, the two people will have differences on certain issues.
The girl had never been married, but was going to marry a divorced man with children, which was something to consider carefully. Moreover, the girl should be mentally prepared, and know that being a stepmother is not an easy task, not just because you are good to the child, you can solve everything.
5 months pregnant, the husband listens to his daughter's words to remarry the wife to beat up the child
When xintian, 25, opened a clothing store, she met Lao Zhang, who was 13 years older than her. Lao Zhang was divorced and had an 11-year-old daughter who was sentenced to him. Although Lao Zhang is not rich, men of his age are very attractive, and having experienced a marriage, he naturally understands the psychology of women better.
Xin Tian and Lao Zhang were together, and at first they were just good feelings, and they did not want to marry Lao Zhang. But once Xintian wanted to travel, no one went with her, and she pulled Lao Zhang. After arriving at the scenic spot, Xintian suddenly came to menstruation, and her pants were dirty, and she felt very embarrassed.
Lao Zhang is a person who came over, of course, he didn't think anything, he opened a room in the hotel next to the scenic spot, let Xintian go in to rest, he went to buy pants and sanitary napkins for Xintian. After this incident, the relationship between XinTian and Lao Zhang suddenly got a lot closer, and then they unconsciously got together.
When XinTian took Lao Zhang home to see his parents, his parents were strongly opposed. Her mother tried to persuade her bitterly, her father was furious, and the couple was both soft and hard. But the more the parents oppose, the stronger the rebellious psychology of the heart, and the more they want to marry Lao Zhang.
When XinTian went to see her in-laws in the old Zhang family, it did not go well, mainly because Lao Zhang's daughter was very repulsive to Xintian. The father-in-law did not express his position, the mother-in-law's eyes were very sharp, she thought that the heart was too young, it was not suitable for her son, and the two were not long.
The more others are not optimistic, the more Xintian wants to prove that her choice is right, so she stole the family's household registration book and dragged Lao Zhang to get a marriage license. When the parents saw the marriage certificate, they were so angry that the mother even cried.
But at this point, the parents could only recognize it, and began to prepare for the marriage for Xintian. When Lao Zhang divorced, the house was given to his ex-wife, and he took his daughter back to his parents' house. Now that he is going to remarry, Xin Tian wants lao Zhang to buy a house, but lao zhang has no money in hand.
The parents were afraid that their daughter would suffer hardships, so they could only marry Xintian in a house, and Xintian and Lao Zhang lived in this house after marriage. Xin Tian wanted to live in the world of two people, but only a week after marriage, Lao Zhang's daughter came, and she had to live with her father.
Because of the divorce, Lao Zhang felt sorry for his daughter, so many things were dependent on his daughter. After the daughter moved in, she naturally had to have someone to take care of her, but Lao Zhang was very busy at work, and she had to deal with her little wife, so she couldn't take care of her daughter.
XinTian herself is still like a big child, she does not know how to take care of her stepdaughter, and she does not want to take care of her stepdaughter, and her stepdaughter does not want her to take care of her. So the day after the stepdaughter moved in, the mother-in-law also came, and she was afraid that her granddaughter would be angry with her stepmother, so she especially protected her granddaughter.
Since the stepdaughter and mother-in-law moved in, the contradictions in the family have been continuous, and a small matter such as a pair of chopsticks and a bowl can also be quarreled. Every time there was a quarrel, Lao Zhang always stood on the side of his daughter, and his mother-in-law also stood on the side of his granddaughter, and his heart became isolated and helpless.
At this time, Xintian found that her stepmother was really bad, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was also difficult to get along with. Because of the stepdaughter,Lao Zhang always met with his ex-wife, which made Xintian's heart even more uncomfortable.
Xin Tian finally understood why her parents were so strongly opposed in the first place, but now it was too late, the road was chosen by herself, and she gritted her teeth and had to go on. Xin Tian did not want to be laughed at, so he pretended to be very happy in front of outsiders, never saying half a word of bad marriage.
After a year of marriage, XinTian became pregnant, which was a good thing, but the stepdaughter lost her temper every day. This time, the mother-in-law did not help her granddaughter, because xintian was pregnant with her grandson or granddaughter after all, and Lao Zhang was always very embarrassed between her daughter and xintian.
When Xintian was 5 months pregnant, she had a conflict with her stepdaughter because of a small matter, and Lao Zhang went into the room to comfort her daughter. This night, Lao Zhang solemnly said to Xintian, let's beat up the child! Because the stepdaughter is afraid that after Xintian gives birth to a child, Lao Zhang will not hurt her, so she does not want a brother or sister.
XinTian did not agree to kill the child, she never thought of giving up the right to be a mother for the sake of her stepdaughter, so the couple immediately quarreled. Lao Zhang thought that if Xin Tian really loved him, he would treat his stepdaughter as his own daughter, and there would be no need to have another one.
Ke Xintian felt that it was impossible for her stepdaughter to have a biological mother, and she wanted a child of her own. And the mother told her that she had her own children, and that she would be able to rely on her when she was old, and that it was unrealistic to want to rely on her stepdaughter. When she got married, she didn't listen to her mother, and now she wants to listen to her mother about having children.
Because Lao Zhang forced Xin Tian to beat up the child, Xin Tian was angry! Coupled with all the unsatisfactory things she had in her marriage this year, it made her think of divorce. Now the child has not yet been born, there are so many contradictions, then after the child is born, I don't know what to do!
After thinking about it for a long time, xin tian finally made up his mind and went to the hospital to beat up the child. After beating off the child, Xintian filed for divorce from Lao Zhang, who did not want to leave and repeatedly begged Xintian not to leave him.
Later, at Xintian's insistence, she and Lao Zhang divorced, and Lao Zhang took his mother and daughter to move away from Xintian's house. Xin Tian felt that her marriage to Lao Zhang was like a dream, and now the dream woke up, but she could not go back to the past.
When looking for a partner, the girl should listen to the opinions of her parents
XinTian and Lao Zhang got married, more or less with the impulse of young people. Because of love, because of rebellion, because of no life experience, etc., she married Lao Zhang with enthusiasm, but her life after marriage disappointed her.
Marriage will make people grow, and the heart will gradually mature in her marriage with Lao Zhang. Living at home is a trivial matter, but these trifles accumulate a lot and become a big thing. Xin Tian could not get along with her stepdaughter and mother-in-law, and friction occurred at both ends for three days, resulting in divorce.
In Lao Zhang's heart, his daughter is the first in line. Because of the divorce, he felt that he could not stand his daughter, so he especially accommodated his daughter. Before getting married, Xintian knew that Lao Zhang had a daughter, but she didn't know what it was like to be a stepmother.
Their parents had long anticipated what kind of living conditions xintian and Lao Zhang would be like when they got married, so they strongly opposed it. But he didn't listen, so he had to marry Lao Zhang, and as a result, he got divorced. Therefore, when the girl is looking for a partner, she should listen to the opinions of her parents more and not blindly act willfully.
Parents are people who have come over, have experienced more things, and seen more people, and their vision will be more accurate and more predictable to the future. If you had listened to your parents and decisively broken up with Lao Zhang, there would have been no subsequent miscarriages and divorces.
Marriage is a lifelong event, and both men and women should be cautious and think twice. For marriages that everyone opposes, the girl should be extra careful, because "the authorities are confused, the bystanders are clear", and the girl should not be carried away by love.
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