Love is beautiful, but and material two choices, many people will make difficulties, some people feel that marriage can not be without love, otherwise it is a partner to live, the same roof under the same roof will be like strangers, no fun to speak of, there are also people feel that the basis of marriage is material, after all, the economic base determines the superstructure, if there is no money to support, there will be poor couples Pepsi troubles.
It can be seen that in a relationship, love and material are actually indispensable, but everyone's growth environment is different, the education and personality they receive are also different, naturally there are their own views and choices, but marriage is not a child's play, the partner is a person who accompanies himself throughout his life, if he loves too blindly, or pays too much attention to external conditions, he will not recognize the true face of the other party, and will eventually bury his own happiness.
Xinyu's family situation is not very good, her parents still prefer sons to daughters, so that she has not received too much attention and love, and when she grows up, she only wants to stay away from the original family, and she attaches great importance to money, and even uses materials to measure the depth of love, for this reason, even if it is a boy who has a good feeling for himself, he will choose to give up because the other party's family conditions are too general.
Later, she also got married smoothly, the other party is more than ten years older than her, but also divorced, and has a child, but these are not important, Xinyu values the external conditions of the other party, he has his own company, and two houses, Xinyu wants to marry such a person, after marriage can live the life he wants.
But there is always a gap between the ideal and reality, although the husband has money, but he only gives her three thousand yuan a month as living expenses, in addition to which she has to take care of the old and young, take care of the housework, and sometimes thankless.
The mother-in-law looks at her unpleasantly, dislikes her family, thinks that she has ulterior motives, so she often deliberately makes things difficult, Xinyu is afraid to be angry, the child is mischievous, often provokes her all kinds of trouble, and she is not close, Xinyu education, he will cry to find grandma, and then inevitably be accused.
For these bad things, she wants to complain to her husband, but her husband ignores it, but feels that she has a lot of things, as for her husband's property, she knows nothing, it seems that her husband has always been defensive about her, Xinyu once wanted to order more money, but was rejected by her husband, and said that the money for you is enough every day, why do so much.
In this family she felt like an outsider, doing more than the nanny, but not as good as the treatment of the nanny, and then friends told her that if you want to have a status in the family, it is best to have a common child, Xinyu feels very reasonable, but the husband does not cooperate, always on the grounds of poor health, until later she learned that the original husband and ex-wife had an agreement, that is, after the divorce, they can no longer have children, unless they wait until the son reaches adulthood, Xinyu suddenly realized at this time.
For this marriage, she missed the person she loved, worked as a cow and a horse in this family, served the old, and took care of the small, but she was still not understood everywhere, her husband still regarded her as an outsider, and she could not have a child of her own, so what was the meaning of this marriage? His position was inferior to that of a servant.
After thinking about these things, Xinyu is also regretful, now she is 34 years old, divorce she does not dare, after all, leaving this home, she does not have any way back, there is no other economic resources, can not divorce, life is extremely bitter and depressed, now she is in a dilemma, and do not know how to choose.
Shakespeare said that if love is mixed with calculations that have nothing to do with itself, it is not true love. Indeed, from the beginning, if you use money to measure the depth of love, then this relationship will be linked to interests, and future life will also erupt because of money, naturally there will be a lack of tolerance and understanding, more is to stare at interests, it will be difficult to communicate with each other.
There is a saying that if there is no special luck, special efforts must be made. When life is not satisfactory, it is more important to know how to rely on yourself, if you always want to get something for nothing, take marriage as a springboard for life, and want to use this to achieve a gorgeous reversal of life, the result is often unrealistic, and even let yourself fall into a dilemma, it is really not worth the loss.