Received a private message from a girl, very representative, and after agreeing to withhold the personal information, it is summarized as follows:
He chased me first, and when he first chased me, he was vigorous, and he found a mutual friend to assist, and the ceremony was full of ceremony.
In daily life, he takes good care of me, whether it is dressing and eating or daily travel, according to my habits, I like to lose my temper, he also let me, even if the quarrel is cold, it is always his first reflection, apology, and peace.
So I believe he loved me and we had a sweet and wonderful time.
I just don't know why, the longer we spent together, the more we quarreled with each other, and the less patience he had with me.
He no longer coaxed me to quarrel, nor did he take the initiative to apologize, he remembered all the trivial things, the last quarrel, I blocked all his contact information, thinking that in two days he would definitely take the initiative to find me.
After waiting for a week, he asked a friend to return my things to me, called me and told me that he didn't love me anymore, and that instead of torturing each other like this, he might as well forget it.
I don't know why we are like this, he said that if he didn't love me, he wouldn't love me, remembering when he first pursued me, and then looking at his attitude towards me now, it was like two people.
In the emotional cases I've dealt with, there are too many similar cases, and most people's problems are: we used to be in love, we didn't get bored by sticking together for twenty-four hours, he let me, spoiled me, and said that he was glad to be with me. But one day he suddenly changed and didn't love me anymore.
There is too much helplessness in love, and the first thing we love and the last thing we keep together are often not the same person.
Perhaps, it is always necessary to go through several tribulations in love before gradually understanding the true meaning of love.
The reason why the girl's experience in the private message is very representative is because the insider always feels that the disappearance of love is sudden, but the onlookers can see it clearly - when a person suddenly does not love you, in fact, it is premeditated.
Why do men suddenly stop loving you? Ask yourself three questions and you'll have the answer.
The first question: Since when did the quarrels become more and more numerous
When two people are in the period of passion, with a sense of freshness and a vision of the future, they infinitely magnifie the advantages of each other and feel that they have met the best lover in the world.
Eager to stick together twenty-four hours a day, boldly release love, there are misunderstandings to solve in time, no matter how the girl makes a fuss, the boy always has the patience to coax, no matter how much the boy loves socializing, he can always converge in time for the girl.
But the duration of the passion period is very short, as short as a few months, as long as a year or so, once out of the passion period into the flat period, the couple will get along differently.
The boy may no longer have the patience to coax the girl, the quarrel between the two people becomes more, and the cold war begins, and the girl asks the boy why you don't love me as much as you used to. The boy resents the girl's persecution and gradually wants to escape from the relationship.
Couples will definitely go through this stage, you quarrel, cold war, you can't see each other's strengths, infinitely magnifie each other's shortcomings, the differences between you become obvious, do not understand each other, and even want to give up the relationship.
The bland period after the passion period is a run-in process.
Most couples can't cross this stage, so they drift apart in the run-in.
In fact, men do not suddenly stop loving you, but face the feelings of the flat period and gradually lose patience.
When you argue more and more, but never look for a solution to the problem, it means that you will lose the relationship.
Think about it, when did you start arguing more and more, and did you pile up all kinds of problems between you, but never effectively solved?
Long-term feelings are not only maintained by love, but also by understanding, tolerance, patience and a certain amount of love emotional intelligence.
The second question: Are you ignoring certain words and actions of your partner that make you uncomfortable in your relationship?
In fact, a relationship changes, you must be able to perceive. In particular, women are more delicate and sensitive than men, and can sense their partners' emotions and attitudes the fastest.
Therefore, when you wonder why the person who says he loves you suddenly stopped loving, it is better to carefully recall the days you were together, whether the feelings have been stable, or the time when the feelings have gone downhill, and slowly do not love.
Many girls do not want to admit it, dare not admit it when their feelings change, pretend to turn a blind eye, hold a fluke mentality, even if some of their partners' words and deeds make him uncomfortable, she just endures not to have a seizure.
I remember that when a male star divorced, he was turned over by netizens to a variety show interview video, which probably means that when he evaluated his marriage, he said that he would often tell his wife that one day I would leave you.
Until they really divorced, and then watched the video, they found that the man suddenly did not love you, in fact, it was premeditated.
In real life, similar things often happen.
The girls who were broken up cried about why the boys suddenly stopped falling in love, but as long as they exchanged a little in-depth and understood the patterns of getting along for some time before the breakup, it was easy to find problems.
He may become impatient with you, no longer actively pay attention to your emotions, promise to you is just lip service, and occasionally cross-border friends of the opposite sex appear in your life...
You may have taken the initiative to communicate and want to know what is going on between you, but the other party seems to have changed into a person, either silent or dismissed you with two words.
You think he's just busy and stressed, constantly making excuses for him, but you won't face the fact that "he doesn't seem to love you that much" fact.
As a result, when he wants to leave one day, he will take the initiative to tell you that I don't love you anymore.
The third question: Do you still have a desire to share between you?
When a relationship is doomed to bear fruit, there is also one of the most obvious characteristics - the desire to share between you becomes less, and in the end there is no desire to share, just like two strangers, even if they are sitting on each other, they do not want to say a word.
The key to developing love is "heartbeat", the key to maintaining love is "friendship", in a relationship with "friendship", the indispensable factors are: understanding, understanding, tolerance, empathy, etc., and what supports these must be "exuberant desire to share".
The desire to share means that two people who love each other, even if they have reached the period of emotional dullness, will not have a sense of strangeness, and after experiencing the test, the feelings between you are more mellow;
The desire to share means that in the face of fluid life and feelings, you are constantly updating the "love map" about each other, such as: what he began to like and hate, what difficulties he has recently encountered, whether new options have been added to his ideals, and so on.
Two people with a desire to share, through continuous communication and exchange, know and understand each other more and more, and when they are together, they are like a whole, always maintaining a sense of freshness to each other.
If you want to know why the other person suddenly doesn't love you, why not think about it, when you are together, do you have a desire to share? If you are often silent, do not want to share, do not want to communicate, then the end of this relationship is not sudden.
Just like a post on the Internet, the girl found that after the boyfriend changed her heart, she realized that the boyfriend no longer took the initiative to communicate and share, not because he was busy and tired, but because his desire to share was given to others.
Men suddenly don't love you, or they have been premeditated, or there is no feeling of love between you. Two people who once loved each other, from love to non-love, must have a slow process of change.
After thinking clearly, I slowly put it down.
After all, life is so long, love or not love, it is really a normal thing.
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