Recently busy moving for my parents.
My mother has been living in my house to help me watch the children. Last year, my father was not very good at waist, and came to my house to stay. Because I didn't want him to go back to his hometown to do the heavy work, I got him a job watching the gate here.
The house was a little smaller, and seeing that my daughter was going to elementary school, we were thinking about whether it was time to sleep in separate beds, so we were faced with my parents moving out. But where to move has become a big problem.
What my parents meant was that they wanted to go back to their hometown. After all, the houses rented here are too expensive and the prices are high. I know they're afraid of burdening me. But I disagree: they are old, and if they go back to their hometown now, in case something happens, I can't take care of it. So I made an arbitrary decision: You will have to listen to me later.
So, I helped them find a house to pay rent for 1 year (I was afraid they would return to their hometown halfway), just next door to our neighborhood.
In fact, it can be seen that they are still very happy: they do not live together, there are many contradictions. It's not far away, and they see each other almost every day, especially their little granddaughter every day.
Now think about it, in fact, when people reach middle age, they must not only be the parents of their children, but also the "parents" of their parents. That is, to take care of one's own parents as children.
Love salty, love to eat sweet, like to smoke and like to drink, these habits they have maintained for most of their lives. When we were young, we didn't think there was anything wrong with that, even like them. But now we know that these habits are not good and can easily cause various diseases. It is estimated that everyone feels the same way, and it is really difficult to let them change. Isn't that just like our children? At this time, we need to demand and supervise them mandatorily.
There are really too many old people who can't use smartphones. I was thankful to have taught them early. Especially in the past few years, the epidemic situation, without smart phones, it is really difficult to move, and daily mobile phone payments. My parents achieved smartphone freedom early on: when I first taught them, it was really a long time, and I will forget it tomorrow, no less than teaching my daughter to write her own name.
The pension problem of parents, they do not care much, but also always think of themselves as elders, always thinking about how much to pay for us. This is probably the finest tradition of the Chinese nation. But in middle age, we dare not accept their selfless gifts with peace of mind: just like our children, we plan for them early.
The same is true for our parents, we must plan for them early: my parents are ordinary farmers, there is no social security, that is to say, when they are old, they must rely purely on their own pension. So, years ago, I forced them to save money: I saved them regularly for every penny they earned (so I never taught them how to transfer money out of their bank cards). In addition, they were insured.
In fact, there are many small details, but whenever we spend half of our children taking care of the elderly, they can get a happy old age. Many times, we have to learn to obey the elderly. But more often than not, we try to make them obedient to us, because, as we grow up, we have become the "parents" of our parents.
How much our parents raised us and how much we paid for it will only be known if we are also parents. Although we can't slow down the rate of aging of our parents, we can really improve their happiness in their later years. The key to improving their happiness is that we should be involved in every aspect of their lives and pay close attention to them as we would for our children.