The reason for the failure of Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu's marriage, I don't think it's all Xiao Lu's fault, but I firmly don't think it's all Fang Yinuo's fault, recently there are many people washing Xiao Lu white, saying: Xiao Lu's cheating is forced by Fang Yinuo, this point I don't agree with, this is the excuse that the cheaters find for themselves.
I saw an article today, saying that it is because Fang Yinuo did not listen to the explanation, he would divorce Xiao Lu, the author believes that Fang Yinuo looked at Zhu Zhu and touched Xiao Lu's face, and then Fang Yinuo did not listen to the explanation, which is Fang Yinuo's fault, and also said that Zhu Zhu helped Xiao Lu and helped him get rid of Fang Yinuo.
Shouldn't he be angry when he sees his husband being touched by another woman? Not to mention that that person once took a bed photo with her husband? Isn't such an act evidence of infidelity?
Am I really getting more and more confused? What's going on? Can this still be washed like this? Should Fang Yinuo carry all the pots? Although the divorced party is responsible, is the main responsibility not Xiao Lu? Why is it all Fang Yinuo's pot now?
Attitude shift
After reading everyone's attitude towards Xiao Lu, I finally understood why there is widowed parenting, because of everyone's tolerance and tolerance.
Before a large number of people on the Internet said: Xiao Lu did something wrong, Xiao Lu is not good for his wife, now it is just Xiao Lu's attitude towards the child has changed, the audience will transfer all the faults to Fang Yinuo's body, it is Fang Yinuo who is sensitive, vulnerable, paranoid, stubborn, they will come to today, it is Fang Yinuo who is paranoia, depression, they will divorce.
Is this really the case? Isn't it, Xiao Lu was absent as soon as the child was born, and many people said, why does Fang Yinuo's child keep crying? This is unrealistic. I would like to say that even if the child has cried so many times, Xiao Lu has not hugged once, it is Fang Yinuo alone, this is the reality.
There was no sister-in-law at that time, it was she who just came out of the hospital with the child alone, after the sister-in-law left, she was also alone with the child, many people said that it was because she asked too much for the sister-in-law, and the sister-in-law left.
Opposing positions
Isn't it normal to ask for a little more for the sake of your own children? Is it that there is a difference between the child who feeds the milk powder and the child who feeds the breast milk, and the breast milk will be uncomfortable if it is not fed, and slowly the breast milk will recede, and if he is not fed hard when he is born, there may be no breast milk behind.
Fang Yinuo did all this, Xiao Lu would not understand at all, he would only go with the mud, he followed to the hospital, just like did not go, what the sister-in-law said was what it was, he did not comfort his wife, and also arched the fire next to him, making the two people quarrel more and more seriously.
Xiao Lu has never stood next to Fang Yinuo, when Yue Yi was there, he stood on the side of Yue Yinuo because Yue Yinuo left him two meals, Fang Yinuo was worried about one person every time, one person worried, and then his mother Gao Caiping came, he stood his mother, his mother smoked, he helped hide, and finally made trouble.
Gao Caiping fell Hehe, Xiao Lu did not comfort Fang Yinuo, but asked Fang Yinuo not to throw his mother's face, Xiao Lu always stood on the opposite side of Fang Yinuo, and behind him was even more spiritual derailment Zhu Zhu, when eating breakfast, his mind was Zhu Zhu's appearance of flipping the railing that day.
Shirk responsibility
After Hehe grew up a little, in order to avoid family responsibilities, he chose not to go home, in order not to take the child, he heard the children in the family crying and went far.
When he divorced, it was obvious that he cheated on him in marriage, and as a result, he justifiably asked for half of the property and a house, and he never thought about the cost of Hehe's growth, and he did not give more than half of the maintenance.
Now, Hehe grows up, does not need to take care of, he will come back, he wants to be a good father, secretly Fang Yinuo to see the child, with the child knows, the most difficult time for the child to take is the first few years, the back is good to bring, the most difficult time he is not there, the back will begin to play the loving father.
He thought that Hehe didn't understand things and didn't know that he was her biological father, in fact, Hehe had always known that when Fang's father and mother were chatting, she heard it, even if Xiao Lu took her to play every day and used ice cream to trick her into calling his father, she also shouted, for her father's absence, Hehe must also have a grudge in his heart.
Xiao Lu's turn back can only be regarded as a conscience discovery at most, but many people have thrown all the previous things into the pot and thrown them on Fang Yinuo, Xiao Lu's derailment is also forced by her, and Xiao Lu's not going home is also forced by her. Then you must not forget, who forced Fang Yinuo to become like this?
Having a child, Xiao Lu still has a place to escape, Fang Yinuo can't escape, she doesn't even have time to hide, she is around the child 24 hours a day, she can't escape, she can't escape, she can't lose her temper, she can't complain, I really don't know what those who say that Fang Yinuo doesn't want to be born can not be born, don't complain about paying when she is born, how people think. So women are born with women to raise, and men are free and happy to live without problems? This is too harsh on women.
Isn't Xiao Lu's dedication to the child rightful? Xie Tianhua's stepfather, who is not related by blood, can sell the house for Hehe, and his father Xiao Lu can't do a little for the child? Just moved? Can you wash them all white? Isn't it more rare for Fang Yinuo to take his daughter with him the whole time?
Many people say that Xiao Lu's husband is very good, I want to say, even if he has become better now, but his bad before is also true, the audience can forgive him, but they are not qualified to ask Fang Yinuo to forgive him, without the suffering of others, do not persuade others to be good.
Before many people said that Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo divorced together because Fang Yinuo's personality was too strong and inappropriate to leave, and now Xiao Lu and Dong Fan, the little sun, are together, and the marriage has also had problems, how to say? Are you going to dump the problem on Dong Fan again?
Finally, I want to tell people who think Xiao Lu is very good, who think that widowed marriage and widowed parenting are very good, that there are many people who are experiencing that kind of marriage now, but their lives are terrible.
Netizen comments
These are the comments below in my article
Netizen A:
But I really don't want to watch such a TV series, I need you to teach me what reality is, no, I live in reality alive!!
I don't need to watch a TV series, I have to look at myself!!
I need sunlight to shine through my windows, I need floral fragrance to drift into my toilet!!
There is no sunshine at the bottom of the sea, no birds and flowers, and people at the bottom of the sea do not want to see these things!!
Netizen B:
I didn't do a good job in the confinement, cried, made trouble, and almost jumped off the building;
The child's eyes were inflamed, and the sister-in-law also said that it was okay, and finally it was so serious that he could only go to the hospital for manual cleaning, and the child's father did not believe me, only believed in his parents and sister-in-law.
I am also a confinement did not finish sitting, the big winter in November night with the baby to see the emergency department, and then now the baby is five years old, I changed from a strong as a cow woman to a bloated middle-aged woman with various physical problems, not that I am greedy and lazy, and the bad mood after giving birth really affects health.
Netizen C:
At that time, after the due date, I did not move, went to the hospital in the morning for obstetric examination, the doctor said that he was afraid of the situation, let me go home at noon to pack up my things, and stay in the hospital in the afternoon.
After eating at home at noon, he fell asleep upside down, and when he got to the hospital to work, I went to call him, he was impatient to say that he didn't wake up, he woke up and went again, so angry that I turned around and left, I was worried about the child, fidgeting, but he was sleeping...
Then stayed in the hospital, in the early morning stomach hurt a little, wanted him to accompany me to the toilet, affected his sleep, very reluctant, the result is to see red ...
After a night of pain, I didn't sleep much, after dawn, I said I was a little hungry, asked him to buy some porridge to drink, he turned over and said: Why are you so pretentious! ......
Netizen D:
From birth to now more than two years old, my husband has not changed diapers, has not washed clothes, and even confinement is made by myself. He slept next to him, the child cried and did not move, and when he woke up, he carried his mobile phone and did not care.
My mother-in-law is even more, she said she will not take the child, idle nothing, just go to open the door to earn money, come back is nothing, do not ask, will point fingers, the child sleeps well, she has to go to hug, wake up, cry and throw it to me, it is not easy to breastfeed, coax to sleep, can rest quietly for a while, she gives you the whole thing, will not respect people, with the child is already very tired, she also has to add to your blockage, ideological concepts and backwardness, while saying that you will not take the baby, while asking you to bring according to her old concepts, talking is still ugly.
The child covered sweat, the clothes were wet, she also said that the child was cold, the weather in July and August, but also to take the quilt, pillow to cover the child, said can not cover, people just do not listen, just send me to fight with her.
The child has a rash, she said that there is a problem with what I ate when I was pregnant, I directly argued with her, I said you will take you with you, I don't care, she said you are the child you don't care who cares, I said you still know that I am the mother of the child, then can you respect me? She didn't give a.
I cried a few times in my confinement, almost depressed, the worst and worst time in my life was when I just gave birth to a baby, which will never be forgotten!
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Write at the end
I don't deny that there are a lot of people whose husbands are good, so they live in the sun from the beginning, but some people's husbands have changed after marriage, you haven't experienced what they have experienced, you can't ask them to forgive, can you say that these confinement unhappy people are all made by themselves?
How many people are now experiencing widowed parenting and widowed marriages that should not have existed in the first place, how can a husband be absent from a family?
Now many people have washed him white because of the change in Xiao Lu's concept, because Xiao Lu's conscience has been discovered, and what I want to say is that now that Xiao Lu has become better, the suffering that Fang Yinuo suffered before does not exist? Where is there such a thing, irresponsible to the family should be condemned, otherwise what is the purpose of starting a family?
Xiao Lu actually got better not because he figured it out, but because he reflected after the divorce, if it was not divorced, he was still the Xiao Lu who should be coaxed and deceived.
I can't accept Xiao Lu's whitewashing at all, wrong is wrong, because he has changed a little now, is it necessary to prove that he was right before? Why?
Finally, I really want to ask, a man like Xiao Lu, do you see what kind of life you are going to face, or will you marry him without scruples?