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Saying goes:
There is an old family, such as a treasure.
But not every old man can be the one in the family
"Bao", some old people rely on the old and sell the old, fight their old age, suppress the juniors everywhere, and even more, eat and drink well every day, and can't feed her "true heart".
It is said that those who have two children will always prefer one of them, regardless of gender, from childhood there must be one who is favored and the other who is not valued, of course, some people who prefer sons to daughters are even more biased.
In the countryside, this idea of preferring sons to daughters is even more deeply rooted, with a few brothers and sisters, and the conditions at home are not good, so girls have to give up their studies early to enter society, earn money to supplement the family, and the adults in the family only provide for the boys to go to school.
Families with two sons are either eccentric or eccentric, and such examples abound.
For these eccentric elderly people, in their pension problems, it has become a big problem, obviously eccentric is another son, but not to be burdened by the eccentric one
Pension responsibility
。
The favored are always fearless,
The favored party has a mirror in his heart, knowing that he should take responsibility, but because of his mother's preference, he throws the problem to the brother who is not favored.
Obviously the same mother, who should have shared the mother's pension problem, but treated the two brothers favorably.
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Zhang Cuiping this year
65
Years, with two sons, the idea of son preference is deeply rooted.
Usually, he is biased towards the boss, the boss goes to college, has a good job, marries a daughter-in-law with good family conditions, and praises the boss for his ability.
In contrast, the second family lived a life that was not satisfactory, an ordinary job, and found an honest girl to marry.
The two brothers are married and started a family, as parents there seems to be nothing to worry about, the days go by, the old family has given birth to a son, the second family has given birth to a daughter.
Zhang Cuiping helped the eldest daughter-in-law to take care of her grandson for three years, the grandson went to kindergarten, and the second daughter-in-law gave birth to a daughter, asking her to take care of her granddaughter, but she always said that she had something to do and could not take care of.
The eldest son's family is in the city, and the second son lives in the countryside and is close to Zhang Cuiping. Zhang Cuiping often goes to her eldest son's house to see her grandson, and every time she goes, she will bring a large number of local specialties from home.
The number of times to go to the second son's house to see the granddaughter is countless, the granddaughter comes to the house to play is also to hide the delicious things in the cabinet, would rather put the expired than give the granddaughter to eat, always said that I am reluctant to eat, to leave it for my eldest grandson to eat.
The eldest has not returned to his hometown for a long time, and the old lady does not blame, and everyone exaggerates that his son has the ability to be busy outside, unlike the second family who can only live in the countryside.
Others asked Zhang Cuiping why the eldest son was so capable of not letting you live in the city, and she smiled and said: I am not used to living in the city. If I had wanted to live, my eldest son would have pulled me over.
As the days passed, Zhang Cuiping was getting older, and she proposed to go to the second son's house to live and let the second son's family give her a pension.
The reason is as follows: the eldest son has grandchildren, and he will need to buy a house when he gets married, and although the family lives in the city, they still need to save money to buy a house for their grandson.
The eldest son's family is naturally no problem, and there are many contradictions without living with the elderly.
Second daughter-in-law though
felt
Somewhat unfair:
"The big brother's family needs to save money to buy a house, so we don't need to save money?"
nevertheless
Zhang Cuiping didn't care what she said, anyway, she was going to live in her second son's house, and they couldn't help the old man, so they had to agree.
Zhang Cuiping was brought to live at home, and the second daughter-in-law also tried her best to take care of her mother-in-law, but this mother-in-law was not a fuel-saving lamp.
After living in the second son's house, Zhang Cuiping thought about it for several days on the grounds that the meals made by her daughter-in-law were unappetizing, and then the daughter-in-law asked her what she wanted to eat every time she cooked before cooking, so that the matter could come to an end.
There are still many trifles, Zhang Cuiping almost three days at both ends to point at the daughter-in-law scolding, the second daughter-in-law also listened to the old man is big, do not divide
Say what
There is a mustard between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, it is not so easy to reconcile from it, and Zhang Cuiping is an old man with an extremely serious idea of son preference, living in the second son's house is also indifferent to the granddaughter, always giving the daughter-in-law trouble.
As soon as Zhang Cuiping arrived at the New Year's Festival, she became more and more rampant, and when she saw people, she said how bad the second son's family was to herself, and fabricated a lot of things that did not exist out of thin air, completely disregarding the feelings of the second son's family
from
Folk neighbors
He learned of his mother-in-law
Saying this to himself, the second son's family was very angry and felt that he was struggling to please.
The second daughter-in-law decided not to rely solely on her own family to support her mother-in-law, or to work with the eldest family
AA
Pension, or let the mother-in-law move out to live on her own!
Zhang Cuiping was dumbfounded, she didn't expect that such an honest daughter-in-law actually didn't give herself a pension, she regretted it.
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The older generation said that raising children to prevent the elderly, it is true that the pension should be pensioned, but the problem of pension involves a lot of things.
First: If you have brothers and sisters, remember not to take full responsibility for the elderly.
The same world, the same mother, and not an only child, why do you have to retire alone?
On the issue of old-age care, those who have brothers and sisters should jointly assume the obligation of supporting their mothers, do not make a fool of themselves and feel that their family conditions are good, and directly take the elderly to live together, which is also unfair to the other half.
The second family in the story, although not taking the initiative to let the elderly retire in their own homes, but for unfair things should be argued for, it should be the two families to discuss how to pension, treat unfair things, and insist on their own ideas.
It is because he did not insist on his own ideas, and he fell into a thankless result.
And there will always be contradictions in getting along with people, they have been living in their own homes, serving the elderly is the daughter-in-law, if the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law have a conflict, it will make the small family suffer turmoil, and the immediate family members sandwiched in the middle are also embarrassed.
Distance produces beauty, in the pension issue and brothers and sisters to discuss, let the elderly go to this place for a month, change another family to stay for a month, so that they do not live together all the time, less contradictions, but also can make the elderly feel fresh.
Sharing the pension can better take care of the elderly, so that there is no complaint between brothers and sisters.
Second: On the issue of old-age care, the elderly must remember not to be eccentric.
Zhang Cuiping is one
The "eccentric" old man, who is also a son, how can he favor one over the other.
Blindly partial to her eldest son, she lived in the second son's house, not only did not live a good life, but also spread her son's family's idle affairs everywhere.
Let the son and daughter-in-law angrily refuse to retire alone, and finally they are dumbfounded, but also self-inflicted.
After living a long time, it is estimated that he has been eccentric for a lifetime, and the eldest son's family has not given her a pension, not only has not received her insults, but also praised the eldest son's intelligence and ability.
On the other hand
Two
The son's family is an honest person, and the daughter-in-law serves with all her heart and strives to do things according to the mother-in-law's ideas
"Connivance", the more you can't get a good result.
Can say
Is the son's family stupid? No, they are very filial piety, the main problem is still the eccentricity of the elderly Zhang Cuiping, which has led to the breakdown of the relationship between the family members step by step.
It is especially important to have an old man who is not biased, everything should follow the word fairness, and things should be treated equally in order not to hurt people's hearts.
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