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More and more people are corrupted by the idea of "son preference", in ancient times, if you have the opportunity to get the emperor's favor and become a particularly important person after pregnancy, then your status in the future depends on the gender of the child. If you have a daughter, although the daughter will become a princess in the future, you have no status at all, because in the harem only the boy is a symbol of status.
I thought this idea would not exist in modern times, after all, most people now advocate that boys and girls are the same. But even advocating this is useless, because many mothers-in-law feel that their daughter-in-law must have a boy, if it is a girl, it is of no use to the family, because girls will marry when they grow up.
In fact, such an idea is also wrong, because in any case, once two people have children, it is definitely necessary for both parties to take good care of them, so at this time as a mother-in-law, do not interfere too much, after all, it is the children's own family affairs.
Today's story is shared by Xu Li.
Urge pregnancy
Xu Li and Zhang Liang have been married for about a year, Xu Li has been reluctant to have children, because Zhang Liang's family is really average, the two people take a dead wage every month, and the in-laws and mother-in-law have no savings, so Xu Li does not dare to rush to have children, after all, it is too difficult to raise a child now.
But the old people don't care what you think, what they think is that their sons and daughters-in-law must hurry up and have a child, and they can still bring it when they are young, and no matter what they say, they will always pass on the generations.
However, the ideas of the older generation are of no use to Xu Li here, Xu Li thinks that as long as there is no change in the work of two people, the economic situation in the family is still the same as before, she will not have children at all, because when she was young, it was too hard, and she did not want her children to have such a childhood in the future.
At the same time, Xu Li and Zhang Liang were greeted by the urging of the elders of both sides. On this day, Xu Li's mother-in-law came to the house and decided to discuss this pregnancy with her daughter-in-law, after all, people did not want to force it herself, but she also considered that she was now eager to hold her grandson' idea, so she came.
After coming, the mother-in-law said: "Li Li, you see that you have been married for more than a year, and you have not yet decided when you want to have children?" Xu Li looked at her mother-in-law like this, and she said, "Do you mean to ask me?" If you think about when the two of us got married, you and my dad almost didn't even raise the dowry money for the fifty thousand yuan, who raised me when I had a child? ”
The mother-in-law understood the daughter-in-law's meaning, and the mother-in-law said: "Mom knows what you mean, but no matter what you two say are already married, your current life needs to be created by the two of you, you can't rely on me and your father for everything, if so, what do you say is the meaning of your marriage?" ”
The mother-in-law's words made Xu Li feel very ridiculous, Xu Li said: "Since this is the case, then the two of us are pregnant or not, you don't care, this is our own business in the family, you manage too much, then you have to pay the corresponding price." "The mother-in-law didn't dare to say anything, everyone's daughter-in-law said so, and if she asked more questions, it would be a little bad."
Urge to have a son
Later, the mother-in-law was also very interesting and did not ask Xu Li about her pregnancy. Xu Li felt that maybe her language hurt her mother-in-law last time, originally the two people were older when they got married, and if they didn't get pregnant early now, they would be older pregnant women in the future, which would definitely be bad for having children.
Later, xu li was pregnant by chance, and the mother-in-law who knew the news was very happy, and the mother-in-law hurried to the house to look at the daughter-in-law and said: "You didn't ask the doctor if she was pregnant with a boy or a girl?" If you are a girl, we must also refuel and have another son, so that our Zhang family will have offspring. ”
Xu Li said: "In my house, whether it is a boy or a girl is good, I hope that I have a girl in my belly, so that the family is more lively." Hearing this, the mother-in-law's face was green, and she went home grayly, and then after every obstetric examination, the mother-in-law would run to the house to ask if it was a boy or a girl, and Xu Li did not talk to the mother-in-law every time.
Pregnant in October, Xu Li's child was finally born, and sure enough, as Xu Li expected, she was indeed a girl, and she looked very good. This made the mother-in-law unhappy, and the mother-in-law said to Gang Xuli: "After you have given birth to a money-losing commodity, you must get pregnant quickly and give birth to a boy for our family, otherwise you know what age you are." ”
Xu Li drove her mother-in-law away with her last strength, and when Xu Li recovered almost in the hospital, Xu Li went home, just when the sister-in-law also came, saying that she wanted to accompany her sister-in-law, Xu Li looked at the sister-in-law's meaning, and did not refuse. On the contrary, the mother-in-law did not come to the door after going out of the hospital.
Xu Li saw that no one to take care of the children, just in time for Zhang Liang's promotion and salary increase, Xu Li hired a nanny, with the nanny's care of the sister-in-law is even more reluctant to go back, after all, in the sister-in-law's home can eat and drink well, in their own home is not necessarily. The mother-in-law did not know where to hear that Xu Li had hired a nanny and rushed to the house.
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradiction reached its peak
After the mother-in-law came, she saw that Xu Li was not at home, and when Xu Li came back at noon to feed, the mother-in-law asked: "How much do you need to ask the nanny this month?" Xu Li said, "Isn't that much money?" How many can there be? The mother-in-law said, "You are spending our family's money." ”
Xu Li immediately corrected her mother-in-law's words, and Xu Li said, "I don't have it, this money is earned by me and Zhang Liang." The mother-in-law said, "You earned?" My son's is mine, and I want to say who gives birth to the money-losing goods and who raises them, and the daughter you give birth to, you feed yourself, but don't rely on our family Zhang Liang. ”
Xu Li was a little angry, just about to say something, the sister-in-law lying on the bed waiting for the meal stood up and said: "What is the money loss goods, it is difficult to become a woman is to lose money goods, then why don't you think about it when you gave birth to me?" The mother-in-law forgot that her daughter was also here and wanted to explain.
Xu Li said: "If you say this, you are lifting a stone and dropping it on your own feet, you think that girls are losing money, so what about you yourself?" Why not think about this? It's really ridiculous, no matter what, now that we live well, what's the use of having to be a boy? As long as it is well cultivated, boys and girls are useful. ”
The mother-in-law said, "I don't care what you think, I'll tell you that we have sons in our family." Just after saying that Zhang Liang also returned, Zhang Liang said: "It's the same in our family, if you want grandchildren, you see who can give you a son, anyway, in our family, it's not okay, Xu Li and I have this girl in this life." ”
The mother-in-law saw that the son and the daughter-in-law reached an agreement, and did not know what to say, but they could only go home in a gray and slippery way, and when they returned home and cried with their husbands, they were also scolded by their husbands.
We can't decide what kind of person we can become in our lifetime, after all, everyone has their own ideas. Some people will say that people really lose their lives, and there is no way to choose what kind of family, but to accept everything after birth. So as a parent, you must treat your children well, because giving them life is definitely going to be good for them.
Boys and girls are the same for this society, in the past, there was a preference for sons over women, there were more girls, and boys were scarce. However, in this society now, it will be found that the ratio of men to women has been imbalanced, because the pursuit of boys in the early stage, and more and more boys in the later stage can not find the other half, which is the consequence of son preference.
The idea of son preference is actually not good, and there is no money-losing commodity in this society. As long as the child is born, it is certainly useful. Mainly look at the method of education, so many times instead of tangling with the gender of the child, it is better to cultivate their children well, which is not only good for the family, but also useful to society.
Today's topic: If you were Xu Li, what would you do?
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