Love has always been an unpredictable thing, maybe one second we are still happy because we get sweetness, and the next second we will be lost because we don't feel safe.
In fact, it is also reasonable that such a situation will arise.
Because love is constantly moving forward, it cannot always remain in the same state, and since it is in flux, it will be mixed.
Regarding the relationship between men and women, in fact, it is more about each other's communication and exchange, which is a bridge connecting each other's feelings and is an indispensable existence.
Since it is communication, then chat is essential, after all, a lot of love basically starts with a "hello".
In this case, how to chat has become a technique that we must master to deal with feelings.
Women with high emotional intelligence will be comfortable when dealing with feelings
Zhihu once had such a question: "What is it like to fall in love with someone with high emotional intelligence?"
Gao Zan in the comment area replied: "Falling in love with people with high emotional intelligence is a feeling of making life more and more intense, like a toffee, from cold to warm to soft, and finally you will be melted by this toffee." 」
That is to say, with people with high emotional intelligence, we will experience a sense of comfort and ease from the inside out, and this feeling of spring breeze is the most likely to sink people.
As mentioned above, in the process of getting along between men and women, chat is very necessary, and the chat method of high emotional intelligence has become the key for women to pinch men.
The ear is the window to the heart, and the woman who can talk can be in love. When chatting with men, women who like to "end" like this have high emotional intelligence
First, appropriate compliments and praise, showing their sense of admiration
Zhang Ailing once said: "A woman will never fall in love with a man she thinks is very poor." A woman's love for men is always tinged with a little adoration. ”
And a long-term and harmonious husband and wife relationship depends on the woman's worship of men.
Not only the relationship between husband and wife, but also the way couples deal with each other.
In a relationship, only when a woman can admire her partner from the bottom of her heart, such a relationship and such a relationship can last.
Therefore, when we are chatting with men, we can say these words to close.
For example, "It's fun to talk to you, you're the most funny and humorous person I've ever met";
For example, "By chatting with you, I feel that you are a well-informed person and it is a pleasure to chat with you".
Everyone can't refuse the psychological hints that praise brings, and under the positive psychological hints, they will be more positive when dealing with feelings.
Second, you can express the emotion of attachment to the other party, so as to stir the heartstrings of the other party
There is a long tail effect in psychology, which refers to a thing that if it produces a strong enough sense of stimulation, then for a long time afterwards, this thing will occupy the person's heart.
For example, empress Chunyuan in the TV series "The Biography of Zhen Huan", she brought the emperor unparalleled beautiful love, so that after her death, the emperor still remembered her, which was an irreplaceable white moonlight.
And when we deal with feelings, we can also play this effect.
For example, at the end of a chat, say "Good times are always short, I don't want to stop chatting with you".
In this way, the man feels the emotional value we pass on and will want to continue to extend the relationship.
Bi Shumin said: "Love is afraid of silence. Too many people think that love to the depths is speechless. In fact, love is a difficult emotion to describe, which needs to be expressed and transmitted in detail. ”
Many emotions cannot be guessed by others, and only by expressing them can they exert their value.
Third, appropriately put forward some requirements to increase the sunk cost of the other party
I remember when the reader was with her boyfriend before, every night before going to bed, she would cook porridge on the phone, or just make time to chat, which was a habit of thunder and not moving.
At that time, every time before going to bed, readers would ask their boyfriends to kiss themselves through the screen of their mobile phones, or ask the other party to dream about themselves when they dreamed at night.
These are some inconspicuous small actions, but it is precisely because of this inconspicuous place that the feelings between them have never entered a bottleneck period.
Because two people get along, the details determine success or failure, and these details are the costs paid by each other in the process of getting along.
When a person pays more costs, then the position of this relationship in his heart is naturally very important.
Don't end the chat with "goodnight" as a convention, or other long-standing vocabulary, which will only make people feel that chatting is a boring thing.
As the German economist Gerson once said, "If you always enjoy the same kind of happiness, then happiness will decrease." "Only through interesting chat under the management of love, will maintain a strong vitality."